We had split up for the 2nd time but I hadn't moved out yet. I'd gone to wellington for the xmas etc. . When I got back he seemed wierd I was meant to be packing up and moving out so i questioned him and he admitted he met someone. Turns out he quite likes her so as you can imagine I got upset. I decided I still wanted him and pretty much begged him to give it another go. He has agreed but it seems like it is more me than him that wants it. Part of the reason why it hasnt worked is , he wants me to get a job he has supported me since I moved in with him. Plus I'm not flash on house work so I've promised to try harder, get a job etc. But now I dont trust him and watch him like a hawk. Do you think we can get past this. I can tell he must have quite liked this girl as he is not the sort to cheat. He basically told me straight away. Says he feels bad about it for me and for her as when he hooked up with her he genuinely thought we were split up.
Do we have a chance?
2007-01-13 21:00:21 · 9 answers · asked by browneyestrish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to sound mean... Move on, it seems your ex has. If you are watching him like a hawk and can't trust him you may never get past this! Honestly, he hasn't cheated on you because you were split up when he hooked up with the girl. It sucks to know he has moved on so soon but I would feel uneasy knowing he had/still has feelings for another girl. Ask yourself this... if he didn't tell you about this other girl, would you still want him? Do you still want him knowing you can't have him? Are you going to change the ways you have written for you or to save the relationship? Good luck :)
2007-01-13 21:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by suzieq30aussie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you split up for the 2nd time, were in the process of moving out, but decided you wanted him back when you found out that he had already found someone else? Sounds like you might be in the relationship again for all the wrong reasons. You might want to take a look at yourself and find out what you want and what will make you happy. It sounds like you weren't being an equal partner, so to speak (by not having a job or helping around the house), like he wanted you to be. Maybe you should take some time and explore the reasons why. I think that you should agree to part ways and let him go. I mean, did he only take you back because you begged and he felt guilty? This isn't good either. Find a guy who you want to be with, and who wants to be with you, not because you think you should be together.
2007-01-14 05:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by kaliluna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you broke up and it was official......you left your stuff there but as far as relationships go.....you were broken up so that it was not cheating. if he met someone else, then he has all the right to do so. your relationship was over when he went with this other person.
now that you are both back together, you have to forget what happened because it really had nothing to do with you. he was free to do as he liked......and remember you left!!!! you left him....even if it was for xmas or whatever, you left!!!!
he seems to be a nice guy....he is honest and he must have really liked her. for him to get over her and start a relationship with you, you have to do your part...... you are making use of him with his supporting you and you not doing much for the house.
i suggest if you want to hold on to his guy you better do your part. get a job even how measly it is and do your part at home. maybe you can show him that you are worth the sacrifice of his giving up this other girl who he must like too. if you do not change in your ways and do your part in your relationship, he will wisen up and some pretty and nice girl will take him away from you.
you just got a reprieve......make use of it as you have been given another chance.
2007-01-14 05:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had split for the second time, what were you thinking, third time lucky? You had considered moving on and by the sounds of it, so had he. You are probably feeling quite insecure at the mo because you know that he can move on and disregard your past together? Well reality hurts sometimes but "the past" it was. So don't dwell on the past, as you are only wasting the time you have today. Don't look back in 3 months time, thinking what have I done, get out and enjoy today and tomorrow, forget the past!
2007-01-14 05:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by jules 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made you decide that you wanted him back? Was it only because he had met someone? If he had not met anyone would you of still want him back? I think we need to know the background reason as to why you both split in the first place. I don't think it's cheating but it would of been respectful for him to not of been with anyone else until you had moved out.
Cheers
2007-01-14 05:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im affraid to say it seems your relationship is going nowhere. you need to get out before it drags you down. the longer you stay with him the more jealous you will become, which will cause more arguments. unless you both take a step back and speak about you feelings , maybe with a professional you will end up hateing each other. him for being continually watched and you for thinking he doesn't love you. many of us stay in a relationship long after they are over just because we don't like the thought of the alternative. i hope it all works out for you, life should be happy best of luck .
2007-01-14 05:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tony G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it will it hard to get passed that
2007-01-14 05:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by krista d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no girl.. pls move on.. i believe he is not the one meant for u..
2007-01-14 05:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kaly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
2007-01-14 05:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋