my fiance are planning a wedding for just family and close friends. if we both invited associates and co-workers, the guest list would be out of hand for what we want. ( which is an intimate wedding). what do i do?
2007-01-13 20:48:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
since you invited co-workers, he feels left out. if you invite people from your work, expect others who are not invited to get hurt. what you can do is just tell him to come. invite him verbally without an official invitation. and hope it stops there......
he is just fishing to get invited and probably a little hurt inside that you did not think enough of him to invite him.......also, everyone who has been invited must be talking about it and he feels left out.
that happened to me about 15 years ago and to this day i have not forgotten it or have passed the hurt.
the daughter of my boss was getting married and she and her parents invited everyone in the office except me. i felt because i was spanish, they did not want me to go...........maybe i could have been wrong but they invited even the delivery guy and his girlfriend to the wedding......and my position was executive assistant to the chairman who was my boss.
to this day, when anyone ever asked if i ever felt discriminated against, i may say "no, never", but inside me i know how it feels and it hurts to this day.
2007-01-13 21:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you explain that it's a family-only, small wedding? If you have I agree that you should go over this person's head. Make sure s/he is serious and not teasing you (because we all know planning a wedding is a snap and stress-free, so the planners could use some humor about it...) then take your problems to HR or this person's supervisor.
Also, a rule of thumb I follow: There are so many people whom I could invite to the wedding that the number would be ridiculous (co-workers, etc). I do not talk about my wedding to anybody who is not invited. I don't complain, brag, show off pics of my dress, nothing. If they ask I will answer any questions, but I do not offer up information. I feel it is rude/tacky. Why waste their time when they don't get to enjoy the results? It is hard to censor yourself, but it makes it better in the long run. If you have been talking to this person, apologize for making him/her feel "led on" and tell them you'll try not to do it any more....and then try.
2007-01-15 05:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having the wedding at a catering hall or hotel, you can instruct the staff that no one is allowed in if they are not on the printed guest list. You can also have the ushers outside to make sure each guest appears on your guest list. If you haven't actually set a date yet, you could also change the date or tell your supervisor an incorrect date.
2007-01-15 06:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some reliable family members or friends act as bouncers. Provide them with a list of invited guests and instructions that nobody who's not on the list is to be admitted to the venue.
2007-01-13 20:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They can't attend if they don't know when and where it is.
You didn't tell them, did you? It's only proper to share that information with people who are invited.
If they keep pestering you you simply say, "Oh, it's so nice of you to be interested, but really it's just a small wedding with family." Repeat as often as necessary. It's rude for them to be fishing for an invitation.
2007-01-14 01:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you explained to him/her that it's only for family and close friends? Have an invitation only entrance. If you don't have one, you don't get in. Hire local bouncers to stand at the door. Or, change location and only inform the invited guests of the change.
2007-01-13 20:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain next time your super brings it up that you do not have a budget ( whether that is true or not) to include other guests outside of your family and personal close friends. if you feel that your super won't get the clue, advise that you can possibly invite him for the dance. just make sure you reiterate that this is money related and if you make exceptions for one, you have to make them for others. and this is one exception that would cost you $$$.
2007-01-14 10:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by luscious_pineapple19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could notify the banquet or restaurant manager and ask that there be someone at the door allowing only invited guests entry.
2007-01-14 04:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there someone above your supervisor you can possibly go to? That's verbal abuse and she could be repremanded for it.
Tell him/her that it's a family/friend only wedding, and if they appear you will call the cops.
2007-01-13 20:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by *Chinisu* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just outstepping her position as acting supervisor, who does she think she is. She is not invited and thats it, mention it to HR dont pursue anything further, just so they have record of it on her file, should anything further happen. She sound a *****
2007-01-13 21:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by leigha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋