How do i stop my self from feeling hated by every one?

Question

I feel unwanted and hated buy every one and every thing, I have felt this way for the majority of my life. I know that how I feel is not the reality of it but the feeling is so overpowering and unyielding that it disrupts and destroys any relationship of any kind i ever had. I have sought out professional help for a little over half a year but it didn't seem to help. What can I do to not feel this way?

Answer 1

Lithium OR Prozac.........should do..

Answer 2

If the professional help is not working for you find another counsellor. It is always difficult to 'heal the self'. You have insight as you recognise it is not how it is, that means you can move on from this thinking.
I like to speak of this type of journey as The Hitchhikers Guide to the Self. An exercise that worked for me was I would look at myself in the mirror and say "I like you because.......". It took quite awhile to be able to do this without feeling self conscious. So I started with very simple phrases such as "because you cleaned your teeth really well today or, you did your hair nicely". If we see positives in our self then others do also.
Questions to ask yourself and discuss with your counsellor are, when did I first recognise these feelings?, how old was I?, did someone else make comments or remarks that indicated I was unwanted, unloved?
Did you experience a bad relationship breakup? As individuals the reason for why we think the way we do can be very simple to answer or as complicated to answer as any advanced mathematical formula.
And be carefull, sometimes we become so used to being a certain way we resist changing.
I really hope you work through this as you sound like a very nice caring person. Best wishes to you from me.

Answer 3

I bet if you did a little volunteer work it would help your self-image, and there are surely people near you who could use your help in one way or another. A few hours a week at a food pantry, youth group, or senior center can really make a difference in the lives of some less fortunate people.

Hey, you don't have to tell anyone that you're really doing it for yourself. That's why all of the volunteers are there. It just makes you feel so dang good, like you're actually a useful part of the human race.

Of course, I know you are already a useful part of the human race, it would just be nice if you knew it, too.

I wouldn't be surprised if you end up making some friends by mistake.

Answer 4

This is a good question. I just finished learning about this in order to change my irrational feelings about things as well. When you just cant help but to feel a certain way about something and it seems to make no sense, that thought is comming from a subconscious association. Your subconscious (sc) mind has the ability to store memories and attatch them with emotions without your conscious mind even being aware of it! Thats why when something, say, a certain smell can trigger an emotional response that you werent even aware you had a memory of. For example you may get a whif of a flower that gives you a flashback of when you were five years old in your grandmother's garden.
Getting to the point; You probably have some sc. assosiation
reguarding the way you believe others feel about you, and hatred. It most likely is due to something you experienced durring childhood (where most of the info within the sc mind comes from.) This is why some people have phobias or irrational fears while in their conscious mind, they can tell you that "puppets are harmless" As crazy as it may seem, this person probably wouldve had a bad frightening with a puppet as a child that is hidden away with in the sc mind.
In your situation, try to think of a time in your life where you really wanted someone to like you. Maybe you didnt feel someone felt the way they should about you- or perhaps they hated you. Unfortunately these negative experiences make patterns that we recognize. Then as our fear of (hatred in your case) becomes stronger, we focus on it, subconsciousely trying to prevent it from occuring, and we actually manifest it. In other words it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. I learned all about this when I wondered why it seemed like everyone was thinking I was self conscious and weird. The thought of it made me so nervous talking to anyone that it actually became true! But hypnosis is the answer. it's real. or meditation. Anything that puts you directly in touch with your sc. mind where your feeling about hatred is comming from.

Well sorry for writing a novel. hope I was very helpful!

Answer 5

Be honest, did u expect to be "cured" of a life time of pain in just six months? U haven't given even the best trained therapist or "professional" a decent chance to see what makes u tick. Unfortunately it takes years of good therapy to undo what life has put on our shoulders. I was a victim of all sorts of emotional roller coasters and needed to iron out all my feelings one by one a process that could literally take a lifetime to undo that which was so deeply embedded from yrs. gone by. Loneliness and fear had over come me and I felt unloved and unworthy of anyone's love until I got in tune with my spiritual side. then I merged what I found out about myself with a church that taught me to love myself and viola Today I'm a new creature in God almighty and I am living a full and wonderful life with blessing beyond compare. U probably r wondering what church introduced me to God like none ever did, well that church is The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I profess by it and yes I do proclaim the miracles of a LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE ONCE U MEET JESUS AND GOD THROUGH THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT and best of all when u learn that u R loved and always will be. Pls call 1-800-421-2565 for a free gift and invite our elder missionaries to visit with a free copy of the Book of Mormon and meet God and His son Jesus Christ like u have never known them before. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Answer 6

I realy feel what ur saying, i think ur problem in the first place is depending too much on what people think of u, this should not be the focus of your life. Your happiness should be derived from your achievements and from following your PRINCIPLES. this is the keyword, e.g. principles like truth, honesty, helping others, forgiveness, excelling at whatever job u're doing, loyalty, caring for your parents etc.. When u follow whatever set of principles u have towards people 1. u will be satisfied from being a solid person able to follow his principles 2. People WILL love u for being such a good person! who doesn't like a person who is honest, friendly and nice to everybody ?!
Try taking your life from there " i will be a good person in my view and come what may! "
u will note changes in relationships soon but it may take some time for u to establish your new way of life and for people to realize it, but until then hopefuly u will be happy that ur a better, honest helpful kind person anyway.
PEOPLE DONT LIKE PEOPLE WHO TRY TO MAKE THEM LOVE THEM, BUT THEY LIKE PEOPLE WHO ARE REALY NICE!
Regards to psychiatric help, it could be very helpfull if this is part of obsessive compulsive disorder, but remember these drugs take several months to work.
Take care. email me if u want to discuss.

Answer 7

First of all you need to remember that we are all human. No one is "better" than anyone else, and really, who cares what someone else thinks!? Maybe your perspective of yourself is low... so the way you perceive yourself to others causes you to feel that they dislike you or that you dont fit in. When in reality you do fit in and you are just as good as anyone else. Maybe what u really need to work on is your perspective of yourself. You just need a confidence boost! Go get a new, stylish hair cut, splurge on some hip designer clothes, start a work out routine a few days a week.... Take care of yourself first, then you can get along with others.... The bible says it best - If you dont love yourself, how can you love others or others love you!?

Answer 8

Do people actually hate you or you just feel they do? If your mind is set so that you think people are going to going to hate you then people are going to hate you. Maybe there is a deficiency in your own personality you cant see in yourself that blocks your contact w/ other people. Take some time to examine yourself and how you affect the society around you and then take out the negatives and put in some positives.

Answer 9

Conciously change the way you think people think about you. Do some positive self talk such as "This person seems to be having a really bad day. The way she is treating meright now is more about her than me., etc"

Changing your thoughts WILL change how you feel.

Good question.

Answer 10

A lot of people feel the same get yourself a hobby, work , friends or anything that will divert your attention from this topic, eventually you will learn to live with it.

Answer 11

who knows, i feel the same way im 25, and to be honest i feel like killing myself, not because im like,, deppresed,,but i feel it is just not worth it, and i will do it soon, youre problem is, in life some people are wanted and can succead, not because of what thay do, but because of who thay are, some people like me and maybe you, forget it life is just 1 kick in the face after another untill you die, it would have been beter if we were never born.