I haven't loved any body but they say that they love me . Iam afried that if I love them could it fail at last .
2007-01-13 20:33:31 · 11 answers · asked by Vipin Vijayan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one's perfect - everyone's failed at love a few times. Better to fail now than during marriage (where it's a lot more costly to separate from one another). Just take the chance - you'll better discover who you really are and what you really want when make it that far. Good luck!
2007-01-13 20:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi there.
Perhaps you have felt love, you just haven't realized that it was 'love'. The word 'love' seems to have been made into such a big thing... therefore people expect it to be a 'big bang' and then they will know what it is, love doesn't happen like that. It could be a gentle thing, a feeling of happy contentment. Love can also grow... I didn't love my boyfriend at first, it took a while, now I do. In this case, there could have been a problem, you block yourself from feeling it, due to past hurts, even things that happened from your childhood that you dont know could have an affect. Another reason why 'love' doesn't work out is because, you may have just had to meet that person for a lesson, once that lesson was learnt it was time to move on, but during that lesson you felt a strong bond between eachother (or u to the person) and yes it could be love, but a love of kindness and gratitude, not a love that binds. So if its time to move on, thank with love, but let go if you both aren't in favour of spending your lives together, before the 'heartache' comes.
Truly hope you will take the time to ponder what I've said.
Regards.
2007-01-13 20:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many people say those oh so famous words to each other while dating. They say it to their first bf/gf their second bf/gf, their 10th bf/gf, then finally when they meet "the one" and they say those words, how much meaning does it really hold. If one loves all those people then how come they broke up with them, wait and say it to the one true person you will love and always will love forever, the one who you will marry the one who you will live and grow old with. Do not be afraid, if it is the right one then show them your love, treat them with the highest respect, and give them your love because that person then will truely deserve it and truly feel special! Remember love will not fail you, it is the people who fail. It will only "fail" if you let it fail, you need to have love in a relationship that will last and in a relationship you need trust, respect, honesty, support (mentally), and love
I love you is a powerful phrase and saying I love you is a big step in any relationship. Learn the right time to say I love you and give yourself the best chance of hearing "I love you too!"
1. Do You Mean It? Decide if you really want to say "I love you" or if you have an ulterior motive. Escalating a relationship to the love phase for sexual, financial, or other secondary reasons only causes problems down the road.
2. Will it be Reciprocated? Calculate whether or not you believe your partner is at the same juncture. If you partner is using phrases like, "I'm falling for you", "I've never felt this way", or "I could spend forever with you", there's a good chance your "I love you" will be reciprocated.
3. How Will the Message be Delivered? Decide the best way to communicate the message based on you and your partner's style. If your partner loves text messages or emails, consider a cyber-expression. If your partner is the spontaneous type, then mix the "I love you" into a fun-filled evening together.
4. Can you Back it Up? Saying "I love you" for the first time will be more meaningful and impactful if you back it up with a few reasons. Tell your partner what you love about them, whether it's their gentle spirit, passionate kisses, or optimistic outlook on life.
5. Will you Take the Pressure Off? Your partner may respond positively immediately or they may be caught off guard and need some time to let the moment sink in. If your partner doesn't respond right away, give it a chance. There's no reason to cause a fight. Just because you've been planning this moment, remember it's new and possibly out of the blue for your partner.
6. Are you Ready for the Next Step? Don't get fooled into believing all the pressure is lifted once "I love you" is on the table from both parties. Escalating a relationship to the "I love you" phase opens the door to discussing long term commitment and possibly marriage. Be ready for the next steps if you say "I love you".
Ready to take the plunge and introduce that most romantic phrase into your relationship's dialogue?
Instructions
* STEP 1: Decide if you do, indeed, love your mate. Most partners can see through a halfhearted 'love ya' - which won't do your relationship any good.
* STEP 2: Consider the possibility that your partner might not respond with the hoped-for 'I love you, too.' If you can handle that and still want to express your love, go for it. If you can't, then consider holding off until either you're certain your partner will respond as hoped or you're OK with it if he or she doesn't.
* STEP 3: Think about how you'd like to let your partner know the way you feel, keeping in mind that uttering those words may give birth to a lifelong memory. If spontaneity works for you, wait for the perfect moment. If you're more methodical, consider writing a love letter first, then telling your mate in person the next time you get together.
* STEP 4: If you decide in advance when to reveal your love, plan a special evening around it. Such relationship milestones warrant celebration.
* STEP 5: When you tell your partner you love him or her, do so while making total eye contact, and while you are holding each other. This gives the moment the intimacy it deserves.
Tips & Warnings
* Avoid saying the 'L' word for the first time in the heat of passion - your partner may doubt the sincerity of your proclamation.
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2007-01-13 20:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Uzlu2919 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem lies in the word love being thrown around way to easily---the word can add a lot of pressure and cause a couple to have issues--it is too commital and not for young, immature people. You just need to date and have fun--love will eventually come into your life--when its ready. Its not just a word....it's a state of mind--an emotion.You'll know it soon enough--now go out and have some fun. Good luck and remember we all fail--it's part of it and we learn from it. People who don't fail, arent trying.
2007-01-13 20:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't fail. People do. It takes more than love. It takes trust, respect, commitment and responsibility. People tend to put all their stock in love alone and it just isn't enough. Today's world is just too busy and full of distraction. If you want love to work, you're in luck. It can be done, but you have to be willing to fight for it.
2007-01-13 20:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by rtanys 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay...well sayin "i love you" isnt worth anyhting if you dont mean it....if you have to think about whether you like the person or not then you probably dont love them....it iis possible for them to love you even if you dont love them and thats okay....it would be better for you and the person in the long run because since you dont love the person you're never gonna completely commit so in the end it will just fail
2007-01-13 20:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by Gamerz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well look the phrase 'i love you' is very special.. you don;t say that if you are with a girl 4-10 days. you say that if you like this girl very much and you want her more that any girl you knows and you want to be with her every time then so say that you love her. Don't afraid this word sometime in the future you love a girl then you will understant this phrase....I hope that you will find this girl...(maria)
2007-01-13 21:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by ηξκη,ι 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like the saying goes, Nothing lasts forever.
2007-01-13 20:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because one or both of the two aren't giving it all they can. It's worth a shot. I'd rather to have loved and lost that never to have loved at all.
2007-01-13 20:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by Olivia 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you have been watching too many sad love movies or listening to too many sad love songs.
Let yourself fall in love. If it works out GREAT!. If it doesn't give yourself time to heal and then move on.
2007-01-13 20:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by Spikey and Scruffy's Mummy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋