Help, my 15 yr old is in love?

Question

My 15 yr old son is now having his first love. I see him all depressed and I feel so bad for him. The girl is very quick to accuse my son of cheating, and yelling at him on the phone. I know hes not cheating, he never goes anywhere with out her. They will break up and get back together 2 or 3 times a week. Should I stick my nose in or let them continue to act like idiots. So far I have not said anything to either one, but I did tell her to stop smothering my son. Please not sarcastic remarks.

My son has no problem with taking advice from me or any othe woman in my family, he better not anyways I have 3 sister.

And I would never force him to break-up with her, I was 15 once too.

Before I pick a best answer, allot of you said he is to young. I remember 15 and I fell in love to, thought I was anyways and didn't want to hear your to young, and none of you wanted to hear that either.

Answer 1

Oh, geez, his first love? I wouldn't worry too much about the emotions -- it's normal for a guy at this age with all the hormones (yeah a guy has them, too) to do things like write poetry and get all mushy. However, do keep an eye on them -- if you ever start seeing things like suicide notes, signs of self-destruction, etc., get a counselor. Fast.
As another poster wrote, I'd help him watch for things like STDs, condoms, drugs, and that sort of thing. Kids have so much more to worry about today.

Answer 2

Hmm thats a tough question!! My son is 4 and im dreading when he gets his first girl friend. The girl better be damn near PERFECT!! haha jsut kdiding. I would say let them work it out because if you get into and try telling him to do something or whatever you may say. It could just make things worse, maybe. 15 is really young to be "in love" . I would say just be there for him when he wants to talk about it or IF even does want to. Just be sure to tell him that there are plenty of other girls out there and not to be held down so tightly, espicially if shes accusing him of things that are untrue. She sounds kind of like a drama queen to me!!

Answer 3

I got a good question WTF are teens answering this? This woman needs answers from an adult not a bunch of kids, you are not parents so you have no idea how to handle this and have no right to tell an adult what they should do about there child.

When it comes to Elena I have to say your post was the dumbest. Of course her sons relationships are her business , he is 15 , everything he does is her business.

Maybe he allows her to speak to his girlfriend because unlike you he respects his parents and understand he is a child living in her house and she pays for everything he has. I have a 2 year old son and I can tell you right now if he would ever of said the baloney you said to me when I got into his relationship at the age of 15 I would say who's roof do you live under, who pays for your clothes and food for you to eat and who takes you to school, I do so everything you do is my business.

A parent should ALWAYS be involved in there teens relationships. Are you so uneducated you are unaware that teen pregnancy is VERY high and so are the chances of getting STD's...Anyone can tell you that what this boy is doing is not healthy, all he is doing is setting himself up to get hurt over and over. My little sister is 15 and she keeps going back and fourth between two boys and after about 4 months of this my parents got sick of it and now she is no longer allowed to talk to either of the boys and it has saved her a lot of trouble. She use to get hurt and depressed every time she broke up with one of them and now since she never sees them or talks to them she is totally fine.

What you really need to do is sit your son down and explain to him that there are plenty of other girls out there and the relationship he is in is not healthy. Of course if he breaks up with her permanently he is going to be upset for a while but he will get over it and get with someone else and hopefully it will be a more healthy relationship...Do not sit here and listen to the people saying it is none of your business, you sound like a good parent who cares about her son and does not want to see him get hurt and because he is 15 you have every right to be in his business...

Answer 4

Maybe only talk to him. You don't know for sure if he is cheating or not, so you can't be so quick to accuse her of lying. But leave her out of it and talk to him one on one. Let him know how great of a person he is and how he doesn't deserve to be yelled at by this girl. It's never bad for a parent to get into their kid's personal life. Especially if they are still living with you and underage. You want what's the best for them and want to make sure they are living the best life possible. He might get mad at you for "butting" in but as long as you let him know you just don't want to see him hurting anymore, things will be okay. I would only speak to him though, he will probably take the girlfriend's side if you speak to her about this.

Answer 5

Awww he must really love her cuz he puts up with all her crap! But you as a mother must have a heart to heart with your son. Does he feel comfortable talking to you about these things? It's a must that he has a good relationship with you. So talk to him and figure out whats going on and let him tell you how he feels about all this. I'm sure you guys can figure something out together.

Answer 6

well,u know sometimes u have to see things and keep away even if u don't want to.Sometimes teens at this age doesn't want their moms help in their own relationship.So I'll advice u to stay away,until your son comes to u and ask for assistant.And its always wise for a young teen to make his or her mistake and own understanding...cause I bet..his letting the girl to act the way she is now...but when his gonna get another girl he'll never make a mistake to find someone like the girl he has now.So as a mom..continue looking..but stay away till your son comes to u.Good luck hope that help a bit.

Answer 7

Why do you even mess with them?That's your son's relationship and that's absolutely none of your business what their relations are.Let them break up ang get back together when they decide.You shouldn't be involved and I don't understand why your son lets you talk like that to his girlfriend.If someone(my mother or anyone) messed with my relationship with my boyfriend I would have felt offended and would keep away this person from my personal life and not let him come close anymore.I have also broken up with my boyfriend 2 times(and get together 3 times) and we respect each other very much but only both of us can understand why we are doing that because nobody else can understand our relationship the way we do.The same is with your son - don't mess with his relationships if you wish to know about them at least.

Answer 8

You could lay the law down and ground him, dont let him see her cos she is bad for him - but he wont listen and will hate you for destroying his life. Dont forget you are very old and have never been 15 and dont know what its like (according to your son if hes anything like my daughter)
You could let it take its course. Offer advice when you're asked for it, be there to mop up the tears and pick up the pieces. You can make subtle comments, but no sarcasm. its hell watching your kids suffer, but they have to go through it for themselves, learn their own lessons and make their own way in the world. With my daughter I chatted casually about 'this boy I went out with at your age' etc (stretching the truth a little to fit the situation) to get the message about how a good relationship should be. Trouble is kids want to be grown up before they can handle it, just like we did. I never listened to my mum, and its not til you're much older you realise that your mum talks sense most of the time! Good luck

Answer 9

I went out with a girl when I was 13 who did the same things. She would break up with me every 4 days. And yet I still stayed with her. After 8 months we broke up for good. I was actually glad it was over.

She just does that to get his attention. Tell him that. She is obviously very immature. Tell him that he can get better then her.

Answer 10

let it happen on its own.
he Will get fed up at some point
girls are usually like that, they're so caught up in the dating scene.. seems like they want to go through Every part of having a relationship (i.e. breaking up, getting back together)