Had past issues with guys and now find myself 26 and still a virgin. Is this going to turn guys off - or is it an attraction? If I do find a guy I'm comfy with - do I tell him before, after, or not at all?
2007-01-13 20:20:24 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be proud of it! It's sadly more and more of a rarity, but rare things are generally more valuable. :-) Its not something to be ashamed of. But don't give it away to just anyone. If a guy doesn't seem to appreciate it....he's not worthy of you. When you find the right person, he will treasure the fact that you are his, and only his.
2007-01-13 20:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by LaSperanza 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a 26 year old virgin is not a turn off. I myself am almost 27, and although I'm not a virgin, sex is not the biggest part of a relationship. If a guy is really interested in you, he won't judge you for this, he'll accept it at face value and understand your values.
I wouldn't tell a guy that you're a virgin from the get-go, but wait until you get to know him. If he's a gentleman, he'll understand.
2007-01-13 20:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
At 26 you`re a rarity in my estimation. If you tell him before it is an attraction to most males and what many men always wanted. You might very well stand the chance of being used. Also if you don`t tell him he may not be prepared. I think waiting till after there is a commitment would be your best bet. Not a date or two. When he is serious, and you are serious. However it is your life and you will do what you desire to do when you want to.
2007-01-13 20:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Starr H 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am 29 and stil a virgin and feel the same way. I would rather have respect for my body and people seem to respect me for that. 26 and a virgin is not sad, it is sensible. It means you have respect for yourself and your body and that you are not going to let men take advantage of you. There are some bad and dangerous men out there and you are keeping yourself safe. Only tell a guy if you trust them. Some guys I have told treat me like a little girl and say I am sweet and innocent and naive.
2007-01-13 20:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and in the same situation. I have found that the guys that are turned off by it are the guys that you've been avoiding sleeping with thus being in that minority of the population that are virgins in their 20s. I think that you should tell them... that way if they are going to be cool with it, thus making them worth giving it up for, they can help you make your first time special like it should be... thats my two cents
2007-01-13 20:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Blueyedsweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him before, so he be extra gentle with you - you'll want all the help you can get. The first time is never easy, and you don't want him making it worse than it should be... but it gets better as you understand your body more.
That you're a virgin shouldn't be a problem, as long as you're willing to lose that virginity. You've got the same basic body parts that a man would enjoy as any well-used woman would, just ever more likely to be disease-free.
2007-01-13 20:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Attractive.. but you must watch out for guys who just want to take that very specail part of you, find love before you give it up, most girls say they gave it up too soon wait until your in love and also try to find another virgin to make fairness and equity the first part of your relationship
2007-01-13 20:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is commendable that you are still a virgin. I think that some guys would cherish being the first person to have sex with you. You can tell him if you want to. It might make you feel more comfortable to talk about it beforehand, so you won't be as nervous.
2007-01-13 20:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GOOD! I dont know how else to put this, but it would take a load off a mans shoulders knowing that you dont have any stds. It's also kinda sweet because u can say you were waiting for the right guy to come around and give it to.
2007-01-13 20:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by TheDeagler 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 06:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋