what would u do if your boyfriend of almost 2 years .....
you guys got into an argument, and you yelled at him for about 5 minutes, and then he went outside, and you jokingly locked him outta the house. he did not knock on the door, and then he just came in through the back. you kinda laughed about it, like you were just kidding, but anyways... then he literally calls the cops on you. ... i didnt hit him, threaten him, anything. i could not believe... and was so shocked that he really did it. (i thought he was joking) guess he just did that cause he thinks he is proving a point, but i just think it is downright disrespectful. ... i have not and would not ever do anything like that to him or anyone for that matter. unless they maybe hit me or threatened me and i felt i had no choice. anyways, it blew my mind. what would u do?
2007-01-13 20:18:56 · 14 answers · asked by MissKristen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him. He doesn't communicate on the same level as you, he clearly doesn't "get" you, he never will. Seriously, if he's that dumb...
2007-01-13 20:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you may not like this answer, but think about it and you might realize something. First of all, there is no way that he could have known that you were "jokingly" locking him out of the house, he was doing the right thing by walking away and cooling off. And, if you were just yelling at him for 5 minutes, I doubt it was a joke in the first place. Second, him calling the police was an overreaction to your little joke. But the real point here, is that the argument should never have reached the point it did. It's healthy for couples to have disagreements but if you ever feel like it's getting close to a shouting match, walk away and cool down. So technically you were both at fault, but this isn't a blame game, because that never helps anything, so try to avoid blaming each other. Both of you need to take a hard look at your relationship and determine if you can work out this dispute and future disputes calmly and without name-calling. I think it will work between you two if you are both willing to make self-improvements and work on your relationship together. Bottom line: You shouldn't have yelled and locked him out, he shouldn't have called the police. Both of you can make changes and be happy, but don't blame each other.
2007-01-13 20:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by black_bird_15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must have been seriously offended by what you yelled at him. It would have been nice if you gave him time to cool off outside without adding to his anger. He probably called the police because he thought you were serious and all his things inside would all of a sudden disappear by tomorrow.
Why did you yell at him for 5 min., lock him out and laugh at him all in a few minutes. You must have been mad at something also but then you said that you were just kidding. How is that not disrespectful. I would say both of you need to figure out if this was a misunderstanding or if it is time for you guys to separate.
It would be nice if both of you could apologize and not argue about who should apologize first.
2007-01-13 20:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by VC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He felt threatened. He did what he thought he had to do. You were wrong to lock him out of the house, even if it was a joke. How would you feel if someone did that to you after an arguement. Maybe you should sit down and think about that for a while, maybe then you will understand why he did what he did.
2007-01-13 20:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Prince W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let the cops book him for wasting police time. Which they should do unless he had a good reason to call them. And if he lied to them he's in huge trouble he gets found out. But basically, you have a communication problem which you should get help with. Things shouldn't go the way you describe (the yelling and the rest).
2007-01-13 20:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admit it to yourself. You weren't joking when you locked him out of the house, you were being hurtful. Just like he was being spiteful when he called the cops. You both need to respect eachother or move on. Fighting takes too much energy. Energy thats literally wasted. Expend some on trying to treat eachother right. Or just move on.
2007-01-13 20:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you really just joking though? I have been in this situation and in the heat of the moment you dont want to hear it was a joke ha ha no i dont think so. you locked him out and so he felt threatened
2007-01-13 20:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Eric C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him!
omg the guy cant take a joke - he needs to seriously lighten up
do you wanna be with a guy who calls the cops on you over something non existent?
you'll be always watching over your shoulder ..
what next ... you'll fight over baked potatoes and he'll call the cops again?
2007-01-13 20:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by DeeDee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats just weird. Thats a clue though to his personality, now you need to be aware the guy has some weird issues.
2007-01-13 20:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would dump his ***. He seems like an over-reactor and a big baby!!
2007-01-13 20:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋