but dont know how to control them? meaning gets irritated by the kids .curse and swear at the kids.. or kids goes around screaming ..i mean in the 1st place if you dont know how to control them why have so many in the 1st place.
its so annoying .. i can go crazy!
2007-01-13 19:57:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im talking about more on my personal life.
not that im saying i dont like my siblings.
i find it terrible that my parents swears at my other siblings.. i dont have the heart to curse at them also .and suddenly my dad wants me to take responsiblity of my other siblings.
i dont think its fair .. little things i can do .. but not all the responsibility to be put on me .. as i am the eldest child
2007-01-13 20:14:41 · update #1
bella - i tell u its everyday for me .
2007-01-13 20:23:18 · update #2
Some parents have alot of kids because they love children. You can't pick how your kids are going to act so there is no guarantee that you are going to have perfect angels as if there is such a thing. As for the ppl out there that throw birth control in the subject some religions are against it, so take that in to consideration.
2007-01-21 03:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly your parents do not have the parenting skills to bring up one child let alone several. You are fortunate to be the eldest as you will be out of the house first. You should not have a lot of the responsibility for them. You can try and use moments with the other children when they are calm to try and maintain a relationship with them and especially when they are out of the house. Right now I think you are going to have to wait your way through things. I hope you have a close relative or adult or pastor you can confide in because you need someone to help you and encourage you. If you don't, try and find someone by joining a group that you are interested in. That will give you an outlet, time away from the house and other people as a support. If you are old enough for a part-time job, try that to get out of the house. Make sure you save at least part of your money and don't let your parents take it all. See if you can have some deposited directly into a savings account only in your name if that is possible. Try joining a church if you are interested in that. Most of all, plan your own life and how you want to live. Many people that go through this end up marrying someone similar and the cycle goes on. Think and plan carefully, especially about your education because that determines your future earning power and lifestyle.
Decide now that you will keep a relationship with your family after you are out of the house but when you leave, don't dwell on the past but fulfill your plans and make a better life for yourself. I'm sure you will have a smaller family! If you need further help, try and see a counselor at school because you may be suffering from some emotional abuse and this will affect you a lot.
2007-01-21 19:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by StarGalactica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all parents with large families behave like this. I have 5 brothers and sisters, while we each had chores to do my parents made sure we had plenty of time to just be kids, and they encouraged our own individual gifts. Unfortunately I think a lot of parents do look to the older children for extra help which may not be fair, but it is part of being a family, but the question of how much help? a sibling certainly should not be in charge of raising their younger siblings and definitely not of disciplining them. Your parents should not be cursing and swearing at you and your siblings or expecting you to, that is abusive. If you are unable to talk to your parents talk with an adult you trust, maybe an aunt, uncle, grandparent or a teacher.
2007-01-21 13:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by pughugger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because these particular parents don't take enough time to think about things like you are right now. They don't realize how difficult it's going to be to raise children. I really think people take being parents way too lightly. Also, i'm not even sure if people know how to use birth control methods. It's crazy.
2007-01-14 04:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's often a sign of pride to have lots of children - symbol of bountifulness, etc. But once they have them, it's a lot more work than was bargained for. Sex is always easy - the consequences are not.
And in today's world of no patience and instant gratification, it takes a lot out of a parent to just discipline one child, let alone five.
People with foresight (and wealth) tend to recognize this better, and have fewer (but hopefully happier) children.
2007-01-14 04:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is quite possible these parents may not act like this around their kids everyday all day.
2007-01-14 04:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have no self control in any area of their lives.
2007-01-14 04:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2007-01-14 04:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋