I have been friends with a guy for about a year and a half. I recently Graduated from college. I then had to move back home to live with my parents becuase I couldnt find a job near school and economically had not choice. A Few weeks before I graduated this guy friend of mine and I had a converstion about how we both wanted to be more than friends. Bad Timing! I now am living 9 hours away from him. I know if I lived there we would be dating my question is do I take a risk and look for a job near him/my college town when we have never actually dated nor is there a garuntee that we would work out if we did? Or, do I do what's economical and safe and what my family is telling me is the smart thing to do and stay where I am working near my home town and my family? Advice Please...
2007-01-13 19:53:55 · 10 answers · asked by Blueyedsweetie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go very slow! A nine hour move just to date someone is not a decision to be taken lightly.
My knee jerk reaction would be to tell you not to move. Stay put.
But if you do move....Be Bleeping sure that you can take care of yourself,first. (Rent,Food,etc,etc)
..and be sure to heed the advice of the people closest to you. Sometimes you can be to close to the forrest to be able to see all the trees (While your friends and/or relatives can)
2007-01-13 20:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u were in love w./ him do it but you said u hardly dated. Start seeing each other when u can a few times & see if ya both got it 4 each other then decide on that move! If u have not much to move & you are confident in your abilities to relocate, on the asumption u really want him in ur life,GO 4 IT!!! Sometimes deep inside ourselves u just know taking a gamble in life is the best thing. U may gain a lifetime of love from this. You'll gain experience 4 sure . This will help u to start over again .What do u have to lose? U can always move back...........
2007-01-13 20:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Que Serra, Serra. The future is not ours to see. Do both as much as you can. Would he move closer to you? You can easily look for a job there while you stay where you are. During World War II many couples spent years apart while believing they would get together if fortune favored them. There are many other factors you do not have to face while he is not close to you. Maybe you could not even stand his housekeeping if you knew him better. But you do know you are with your family and economically better off. Take a few months to explore what you can do.
2007-01-13 20:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by jude2918 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you didn't ask this question under "Horoscopes" i.e. astrology I am going to answer it anyway, because I believe it will help you, as the answer to your question is surprisingly clear cut.
The houses of the horoscope are in the order that you should be progressing in life. The houses ruling your question are:
2nd house - earned income
3rd house - communications, conversation
4th house - childhood home, the mother
5th house - short term lovers
6th house - job
7th house - marriage partner
9th house - college
11th house - friends
Answer: Unless this man is proposing marriage (7th house) stay where you are earning income (2nd house) near your childhood home (4th house) where you are working (6th house).
Communicating with him over the Internet and traveling to visit him (3rd house) is still an option without risking your earned income (2nd house), home (4th house), and job (6th house).
2007-01-13 20:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by Venus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your in college, i take it that your over 18. your your own person now. do what you feel is right. im in the same position! i know excatly how you feel. try putting a ocean between you and him! and i love him, but we dont talk to eachother as much even though we were best friens and wanted to become more. but.. i have no job either. just do what YOU feel is right. would you be fine without your parents right now?
2007-01-13 20:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Numan girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too many unknowns. is he in college? he working? can he move? so many things to concider. but by what you said, id stay home, you may be friends but that will be totaly different when you date, it might not work out, then you are stuck.
2007-01-13 19:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jack P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your family's advice.
2007-01-13 19:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
split blue, life is full of risks...you never know till you try...go for it...I wish you well...
2007-01-13 19:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what feels right and talk to him, you never know he might not be that interested.
2007-01-13 19:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by Diz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT MOVE
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2007-01-13 19:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋