If you are single, and you went out on a first (2nd or 3rd date even), and you learned through conversation that they once had cancer, but have been treated and now in remission, would you feel any different about them?
Would there be negative thoughts? Positive thoughts?
Assume that you are enjoying their company and before you learned this information you planned on continuing to date them.
I've just recently completed 6 months of chemotherapy & radiation therapy for cancer (cancer free now!), and starting to think about what it will be like to date again, and how weird it might be for the other person.
Your honest opinions are very much appreciated. This is a legit question.
Thank you for taking the time to answer my question.
2007-01-13 19:48:21 · 10 answers · asked by Denny T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For me, it doesnt matter what his previous disease (except HIV or other dangerous disease of course). The most important thing is that I feel comfortable to be with him now. I will continue the relationship. Seeing the great efforts to survive the cancer means that person would never be easily give up in relationship, which is a good thing
2007-01-13 20:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by stardust 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that different people would respond differently. My response would be that I would think what a brave strong person you must be to have gone through all that and good for you for beating it. It might scare other people though. They might be afraid that it could come back, and that they would be afraid to get any closer to you if there is a possibility that could happen. If the person really cares for you, they will not be scared off, they would want to be there for you. But you should be up front about it.
2007-01-13 19:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Janelle J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rock on, I say.
Now, one downside I can see... is if she keeps talking about it... and talking about it... and talking about it. I know, it's a big deal and all, but sooner or later that's just going to make me put on my "I don't care" face. Just don't fall into this trap and you should be a-ok!
Although, I could also see some really dumb chicks treating you like you had herpes or something. Some people you tell em "cancer" and they hear "black plague". Well, what can ya do? At least it lets you filter out dumbasses, so it's not all bad I guess?
2007-01-13 19:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that situation only ... the one with it was me ... the guy that i am with however seems to not feel any different about me than he did be4 ... he seems to be even more caring though. I thought he wouldnt wanna be with me cause of it though ... but i am VERY glad he didnt leave me over it, or feel weird. If you do though i think maybe u should talk to her. She will understand ur concern BELIEVE me ... i thought about it all the time i actually talked to him about it and asked him if it was ok because i was scared of what he would think... I hope this helped in some way...
2007-01-13 19:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by eitakatieitak 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would feel very differently about them...
Not weird to the point that I would stop dating them
and not want to be intimate with them but it would
make me want to make certain there was no chance
of remission before I committed to a long term relationship
or marriage...
2007-01-13 19:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way. it just means they are that much stronger! it takes alot. my great grandmother had breast cancer and beat it and her husband thought she was absolutely amazing for it. my boyfriends father had prostait cancer and he just told me about it. the fact that he beat it shows his strength and makes me look up to him even more then i do.
Comgratulation on being so strong and fighting and beating your cancer. When you think about dating again or when you do. By all means tell your date. It shows how strong of a person you are and if things do work out and you guys have a future, its good for them to know! good luck!
2007-01-13 19:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by linderlou2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be honest i would be worried about relapse it would be a natural concern for anyone, the thought of someone getting sick is frightening but it wouldn't change how i felt about the person, you can't help who you like and besides lifes to short to worry about it. I think that if someone doesn't want to see you incase you got sick again then there not the one for you. the right person would be there for you no matter what.
2007-01-13 19:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My honest opinion.
If someone I were dating told me that I think I would gain respect because they felt that they could trust me with that to tell me, and I already think you are brave for fighting through it because that is a tough time to go through. BUT I think a part of me would also be scared to fall for you and have you get sick again and lose you to it; that part would be the only turn off for me.
2007-01-13 19:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by littlekitty1985 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have beat the big C---get out there and enjoy every minute of life---see what is around you every day--smile at everyone---pet every cat and dog---eat a big old dish of ice cream--laugh at a stupid movie--cry at a love story---go after a nice guy---he won't care about your health--if he does--tell him bye bye. Get a happy guy---drink wine till you pass out---lose your shoes and laugh about it.Go to the fire station and see if they'll allow you to blow a siren real loud---ring the crap out of a bell----you beat the big C---celebrate life everyday----good for you---I wish I knew where you were. Date a nice guy or tell him I'll be there to kick his butt---ha ha ha
2007-01-13 19:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd consider them to be a strong person, and thta's a very good thing to me.
2007-01-13 19:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Kurtis A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋