Survey: for ages 18-30 only?

Question

Pretend that you graduated college. You married someone and now you have children. Would you give-up your career just to be with your family at home and why? Kindly input your age also. TY in advance!!!

Answer 1

I'm 23. I did the whole marriage and family thing first. I just graduated from college on December 21st.

Answer 2

I am 29 w/ a 2yr old and work full time now. I Was out of work for almost a year after my son- Although I love my family- I needed more and felt that more defined me than just being a mother and wife.
There are so many other reasons on both sides but it is my personal goal to install in my children that you can have a loving family and good career, however-
Depending on your career- I dont think giving it up would be advantagous even though it may be ideal.

The reasons for this is because;
1. cost of living has increased so much that it is difficult to be a one income family
2. cost of college for your children has gone up and increases year by year
3. Having your children see 2 parents working for a good life increases their chances (along with good parenting)to have a good work ethic
4. Depending on your career when you do decide to go back to it you may have lost important skills
5. The socialization adults get in a work environment (equal to school for kids) is incredibly important

In either case you have to weigh the options carefully because being a at home mom/dad is a full time job and a lot of hard work.

Answer 3

35 mom of 2. and i did what your posing in your question. had a bs in nursing and quit at 6 months preggo- that was almost 11 months ago. haven't worked a day since.

I personally believe in the world today and all the materialism that goes on- that working duel parents does not help out other then to keep up with the jones's. i carried those boys for 9 months it's my right to be there and is expected to see the first steps, get them through the first tooth. I am the person to potty train and teach the reading and writting of the abc's. my sis in law has 2 boys as well. Hubby makes more then enough to get them by and then some- went back to work 2 weeks after each birth-and had no shame when we saw the one son take his steps in front of us asking oh when did he start walking her reply- i;m not sure- the sitter said it was some time last week., they are gone from 8 am to 6 pm and the kids go tobed at 8pm- they eat dinner and bathe them and they go to bed. I don't think thats healthy. both kids are tv junkies and bratty to say the least. at 4 and 3 the minute either walks out of the room they scream they see them so little that leaving a room to pee makes the kids think they are going to work again. I should be the one doing the homework after school and getting involved with the sports,scouts, etc. I can tell you that if you have to work to support the family thats one thing but in the very young tender and forming years it's better to stay home and raise your kids. you have your whole life to work you only have 18 years to be a parent.(so to speak)

good luck- it's a tough decision i know- for me staying home was the right ultimately it's yours hope you make the right one.

Answer 4

I'm 30 and married with 2 kids a 28month old and a 4 month old. My husband has his own successful business and I have put my career on hold to be at home to raise my children. I wouldn't change things for the world.
Just because you get married and have children doesn't mean your life stops! Take everyday as it comes and enjoy life!!!
Have the family and the career!!!!!! Best of luck!

Answer 5

I just got married this year and my husband and I are talking about starting a family. Honestly, if we had the money, we would both quit our jobs and stay at home with the kids! But realistically, I would give up my job in a heartbeat to spend at least the first few years with my child. After that it would depend on what I wanted to do. What career ever says "no, you gave it up so you can't come back"? I think no matter what someone chooses to do, they can get back into it years down the road if they really wanted to. But at that time, another job might be more appealing than the one chosen for the career. I'm 28, btw :).

Answer 6

I'm in college, and I plan on getting married next year. My fiance works off shore in the oil business, so I only see him a week and a half out of every month. After college I plan on pursuing my career, and when I'm about 28 have kids. If for some reason I had a kid earlier I would definately give up my career to be at home and raise my child. I would hope that my finance would change his schedule around to be at home more too.

Answer 7

I am 25, 26 on the 27th of this month. I think if you can afford to stay home, and want to, then go for it. If you really want to keep working, then do that. Don't feel pressured to drop out of the workforce just because you have children now. You will end up feeling resentful towards hubby or your babies if you do. If you are on the fence, you can always do like I did and work part-time. I get enough time away from home so I can still feel like an adult, but yet I get in tons of time with the little ones every week.

Answer 8

hello. i am 23. i am planning to get married within a year.. i dont thnik i will give up my career. it is somethig that i have worked hard for. i do not mean that family comes only second. but to give my children better amenities, i should work too. moreover, i feel that every woman should have a job. she shouldnt put out her hands in front of her husbnd even for her personal needs. she should try to stand on her on feet. what i am going to say next may sound a bit harsh, but i feel that is true. suppose my marriage hits the rock after many years. what am i going to do? what am i going to live on? it is at that point some women may regret giving up their jobs for the sake of their husband and kids. many women have to put up with a bad marriage just because they dont have any other choice. how long can we live off our parents?evenwhile working, they can have a happy marriage, with enough time for the kids. i dont care if i go on a part time job for the sake of my kid, but i definitley will not opt to be a stay at home mom. i am telling u this from what i ve seen in my family. my mother raised 3 kids. never for a moment did she feel the need to give up her job, just fr spending more time with her kids. but even without that she has done a wonderful job and her kids consider her the best mother in the world.

Answer 9

You do not need to give up your life because you have a family. I have my own business that my husband and I built together and I have two beautiful children to whom I'm a full time mom. I bake, volunteer at the school and do a lot with them. Being self employed, I schedule everything around my children. They are my number one priority, but I do well with my business too. It's a lot of hard work to have two full time jobs, but it's very fulfilling.
My age:25

Answer 10

I'm 21, and I'm getting married in May. I would love to be able to stay home with any children we have (we want 3 or 4). I think being a stay at home mom would be the best job in the world, and I hope we're able to do it financially!

Answer 11

I'm 29. I regret I didn't get married earlier in some ways. Though with hindsight I have also seen the wisdom in my decision to wait

Now, I want to get married and have kids and settle down... And I am also ready for the committemtn work and sacrifice this takes. I want to stay at home 'till my kids are in school. Children are a gift and once they are grown I know I would regret not being there for them. Work will be there later the most significant part of their childhoood, the part that shapes the adult they become will not.

Good question. Your welcome. :-)