My family, friends, relatives always complain that I never show emotional affection to them becuase I don't show my feelings.
this is especially true when it come to my parents.
I grew up in an abusive house hold when I was young but now am 19 and I guess it all worked out in the end but I think that lack of showing emotion is due to this whole physical abuse thing.
I love my parents, friends and relatives but I just don't show it.
1) Is this wierd or wrong?
2) Can this affect my relationships with women in the future?
2007-01-13 19:33:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your thinking is correct. It is natural for those who grew up in a physically abusive house not to show emotional affection or their feelings. It affects your relationships with family, relatives, friends, and women. It is not weird or wrong. You just need to make an appointment with a psychologist specializing in those who grew up in a physically abusive house, and it will all work out in the end. Congratulations on your courage and intelligence.
2007-01-13 19:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Venus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why showing emotions may be hard for you after being abused. It will definitely affect your relationship with women in the future. I suggest that you try some counseling to work on your feelings and how to show them more without feeling too vulnerable. It would be so worth your time and the money. You are not wierd at all. Get some help to work through this. You will be a much better and happier person because of it. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-14 07:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. It's not weird at all. I can totally relate to it. I grew up about the same way and it took years before I could really show my feelings. It's something you my learn how to do eventually.
2. It can effect your relationships if you let it. When you are with someone you love, just let them know that you love them. Explain to them why you have a harder time showing the affection. They may be able to help you with it.
2007-01-14 03:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a similar household, its not strange or weird, what do they expect? Just because its different now doesnt mean your suddenly going to change what you were taught your whole life. If you want to learn how to express your feelings more seek counseling, I would anyway just to avoid it affecting your relationships with women and any children you may have someday. Stop the cycle.
2007-01-14 03:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Janelle J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm basically the same way. I grew up in a family like that. People just might not understand what you went through. I dont think its weird or wrong but it can really effect relationships. You just have to explain you do care in some way.
2007-01-14 03:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Derek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we're the same.. i dont show emotions on a regular basis.. i dont know its just like that.. nothing wrong for me i think. if they know whats the reason behind you acting like that. i think they will understand.. just like me. they accept me though i dont show much emotion. i dont think it would affect you with girls in the future.. sometimes its even a trait that women love. kinda mysterious guy. little emotions.. about you being abused. just try to move on!
2007-01-14 03:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by pete s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋