is it so necessary to give all details of ur past relations to ur boyfrd rather than saying that u had past relations and thats it! if u are faithful to ur boyfrd then also should one face such raised questions?
2007-01-13 19:17:58 · 10 answers · asked by TANU 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fact: Males are naturally egocentric; and they always want to feel as if they are the best thing that has ever happened to their female counterparts. Knowing about your past "flame/s", can leave a mental scar on their ego - leaving standards and ideas of competition in a man's unconscious. I suggest that you think twice, even thrice, about what you will tell your boylet because:
1. You do not want to sound like a slut (Telling him you've slept with Boy A once, had a one-night stand with Boy B yesterday, and had a little kissing game with Boy C in a truth-or-consequence sorority party would make you look like you've already been available to many and would not pose as a worthy "prize" for his ego. Let's use an analogy: a brand new BMW would be the ultimate prize as compared to a second-hand Bug.)
2. He may use what you said for future blackmail or any other selfish agenda. (If, and that is IF you are unfortunate to have him as the psycho-ex when you break up or maybe if he's vengeful during a love-quarrel, he may use your personal secrets to break you down, and you DON'T want to be broken, right?)
Only tell him about past relationships IF HE ASKS ABOUT THEM. And if he does ask about them, just supply as few details as possible.
This is RIGHT: "Yes, I have had past relationships before. I may have fallen for them back then, but what is important is what we have right now."
and this is WRONG: "Yes *crying* I slept with Boy A twice, then I had a fling with Boy B, and then I went out with Boy C..." all the way to Boy Z.
Most guys won't care aboutwho were in your past because what is important is the present, and that is what involves the two of you. The same should go to you if ever you would want to find out about his own past relationships. Never compare your relationship with him to any of his or your past relationships because those are entirely different situations.
Don't look back at the past because the past is the past: you can't change anything, but you do have something to look forward to, and that is your future with him.
2007-01-13 19:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by tango_adamantine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Required? As in contractual? Sign on the dotted line?
As long as there are no medical reasons then you don't need to discuss anything with him. Why give him ammo to be used against you if you two have a disagreement. Is his ego so fragile that he needs to know all your past business? The only fact to relate to him is you are true to him. You don't ask him stuff so there is no need for him to ask you anything.
2007-01-13 19:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not required, I mean he's probably asking because he wants to know you aren't a slut. But just calmly reassure him that your not, and don't get mad at him for being curious. If I was you I would tell him as much as possible with OUT details. If he isn't happy with that, then he is a control freak, and you should break it off,
2007-01-13 19:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by LaDyLuCk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your past relationship or his continues to be part of today's relationship, then yes. i.e. STDs or children or abuses.
If not, then stop and think. Would you really want your ex relationship partner talking about you, good or bad. Better to let your past be your past if at al possible. Of course me being a "virgin" after two marriages and three kids is sort of something I must acknowledge, but details are mine.
2007-01-13 19:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by pocbr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 01:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Few men can maturely handle the reality that a woman had a life prior to her relationship with him. Keep that in mind before you chose to bear your soul to your new lover.
2007-01-13 19:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for this - its a trap. He'll use whatever you say now against you later.
You're not obligated to tell him anything. Reveal only what you want to reveal, but I'd keep it to a minimum.
2007-01-13 19:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him nothing. Tell him you dont' like talking about it. That you want to forget the past.
2007-01-13 19:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a guy, i honestly don't want to know what happen, but on the other hand i want to know so i don't make the same mistakes
2007-01-13 19:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by waddle02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if you care about whether he has aids or not from all the hookers you think he's probably been with.
2007-01-13 19:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋