if my ex called me and said i still have my stuff in his place?

Question

...Basically, My ex broke up with me 12/31/06 and he called me several days ago and wants to see how am i doing lately. He told me i still have some stuff in his place (actually, i took most of my belongings back already; i guess the stuffs that left in his place are my personal shampoo, face washer...) and asked me what's my plan for the weekend...before he hang up the phone, he also asked me to help him file his tax this year.

Yes, I still misses him once awhile. No, i dont think he want to take me back. And no, i am not thinking about getting back with him again either.

My question is, what's on his mind anyway?
He called me because he misses me? is it because of guilt? is he thinking about friend with benefit? or some other reasons?
I am not a guy, so i dont know what's on guy's brain anyway...

Thanks

he does no how to to file his own tax. He did his own taxes all these years aside from last year (i did it last year)

we ended in a friendly term.
Basically, he think we have no future together, so i am the one who set the date to be 12/31/06. We gave each other christmas gifts (he bought my present before he announce the break up)

booty call...friend with benefit...i really dont like that thought, and i think he already knows friend with benefit is not my thing...

yeah, ofcourse i know the feeling he has/had for me wont last forever...

what bothered me the most is that just when i thought i am about to not miss him any more, he call me out of the blue...and now i started to miss this relationship...I guess i need to start over again...try to not think about him/or our past any more.

No....actually we never live together.
One of the reason we broke up could be the "distance" we lived in two different cities and i visisted him every weekend or he visited me.

last notes:
Our relationship lasted 3 years....maybe this could be the reason...

anyway, Thank You for all ur answers. I really appreciated them.

Answer 1

It could be any of those things... OR he's being friendly. It sort of depends on your previous relationship with him, and if it ended amicably. He could just want to let you have your stuff back, rather than toss it out without asking...and he could just want some help with his taxes. He could want to be friends. Or maybe more...

It's not really a "guys" in general question, it's more like, how well do you know THIS one?

Answer 2

If he's the one that broke it off then you should leave it that way and never take him back again ,,,, He's the one that started all of this ,,,, Don't let him make a fool of you ,,,, and don't take him back no matter what he says or does ,,,, Guys are good actors too you know up to and including tears ,,,, So don't let him fool you ,,,, You should show him ,,,,, at least where you are concerned ,,,, That any decisions he makes is final ,,,,, He's calling you to play with your head ,,,, He broke it off so why should he care about what's happening with you ? If you have caller ID then don't take his calls or if you don't know who it is but it turns out to be him then tell him you haven't got time to talk and make it as short as you can ,,,, If he's asked what your plans for the weekend are then lie to him and tell him you have a date ,,,, telling him that would just show him that you still have a life and you are living it ,,,,, Your plans are none of his business ,,,, Here again he's playing with your mind ,,,, As far as this "friends with benefits" is concerned ,,,, Don't even consider it ,,,, He severed any and all ties with you so that should include anything physical too ,,,, He want's his cake and eat it too maybe ,,,,I don't think he has any guilt feelings at all but even if he does let him live with them ,,,, Again he just wants to play with you ,,,, As far as personal things left at his place ,,,, Tell him to just throw then away ,,,, You can always replace what you left there anyway,,,, As far as his taxes are concerned ,,,, Let him do it himself ,,,, By his own decision you are no longer a part of his life so keep it that way ,,,, Let him worry about it ,,,, You don't need this crap and you don't need him ,,,, You'd be better off with a broken leg ,,,, You deserve betther than this ,,,, You don't have a relationship with this guy and from the way he's treated you ,,,, you don't need one with him either ,,,,There are allot of fish in the pond ,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting ,,,, not what you've had with him ,,,,, Go fishing and find some one that's fun and exciting to be with ,,,, They are out there all you have to do is find one and he will most likely come trouble and problem free and treat you the way you should be treated ,,,, Start fresh with a new chapter in your life ,,,, That's the best way to get over any lingering feelings about your relationship with him ,,,, If he keeps calling then just tell him that he caused all of this and that you want him to stop calling you ,,,,, It's not doing you any good at all when he does so tell him to stop ,,,, If he doesn't then it would be worth it to have your number changed ,,,, Make a clean break with this guy ,,,, As for your being puzzled as to what's on his mind ,,,, I wouldn't worry about it ,,,, It makes no difference to you at all now,,,, He broke it off with you so that ends it plan and simple ,,,, Let him find some one else to play games with ,,,, You have to think about what's good for you now and not worry about something you don't have any control over ,,,, Good luck ,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,,

Answer 3

Well, if you meant anything to him, then it's obvious that you're going to be on his mind just a few days or weeks after the break-up. Do you really think all men are that shallow, c'mon?

Who knows how he feels at this point. That depends on the relationship you had and why you broke up in the first place. Being friends with your ex isn't out of the ordinary either.

Answer 4

i can give u my opinion. if u two had a fight in which it was him who was mistaken then probably it can be his guilt. or he may want to have some rule over u even though u have broken up. it can be his expectation that u should forget whatever happened and again go back to him but he might not want to convey that directly. or lastly..i hope it is not so..but just to make u cautious ..this can be for sex....now u can analyse his personality traits and incidents happened in last a few days and can find out the answer. believe me ..we women tend to forgive quickly and melt...but even if u r confused right now...do what ur heart says...i believe it is better to listen to ur heart than ur brains when it comes to relationships..if there is a doubt or not a confirmed yes from ur side to take a step forward..give urself some time..and follow ur inner voice

Answer 5

He is obviously making up excuses to keep you in his life but it is hard to tell what his motives from this brief description. It is likely he doesn't know what he wants at this point either as it is not that long ago that you moved out.

A change in anyone's life can be a painful experience...it could anything from seperation anxiety and fear of being alone to truly wanting you back in his life.

It does sound like the ball is in your court to determine what you want the relationship to be from here.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I'm not a guy either but its easy to figure out that he misses you and probably has,nt had any luck hooking up with any one else. Dont go over by yourself, take a friend.

Answer 7

hes prolly just using it an an excuse to hang out with u or something

Answer 8

It really sounds like he wants you back. But you might be right with that whole friends with benifits. But I think he either wants you back or he wants laid.

Answer 9

basically he doesn't know how to file his tax. Move on you deserve someone better.

Answer 10

He is wanting something........cuz if all you left was those things .......well he could of pitched those in the garbage.........