am i a bad person???

Question

im gonna be honest about myself so please dont report me.

negative:
i only go out on one night stands, i have no problem picking up hookers, i love getting drunk, i like to pop the occasional painkillers, downers, cocaine and marijuana (but i never do these drugs frequenlty enough to biuld an addiction). i tend to go for girls who have no respect for themselves and are incredibly drunk. i party constantly, im a bartender. i love to go to vegas and gamble like crazy. i have also been involved in drug orgies(only 2).

positive:
im very deep, very into philosophy, spiritual but very from from religious, friendly, loyal, funny, every woman i have had a real relationship with i have remaind loving caring and faithful and treat her with respect and like a queen. i see the world for what it realy is and dont exist in denial or delusion. i cant stand any type of organized religion.

but what do you think of me? what kind of person am i?? am i messed up?

Answer 1

I think you're a drug addict...sorry.

Answer 2

Well, I like how you proposed your question, so I think I'll do the same if it's all the same to you.

The negatives of your lifestyle are that under the influence of drugs and alcohol, it's very easy to make rash and unsafe decisions, like say having unprotected sex on a one night stand with someone who has been around so to speak. Any one of those poor decisions can lead to a life threatning disease.

Also, as you know, drug and alcohol abuse are doing damage to your body, and will surely catch upto you. Not to mention that this along with the gambling bit is setting you up for a life of work. As a contractor once told me, your di... ahem, piece will still be there when you're 30, now is the time to get your life set. On that note, working as a supervisor in a casino, I can tell you that you will never, ever, do anything but lose in the long run, and that's why we're opened.

The neutral bits are with women. If all you're looking to do is be permiscuous, and have short sexual relations, the girls that go for it are guarenteed to be those with no self respect, no self esteem, and probably drunk, heh. That's a simply subjective moral qualm though, and there's nothing definitive on it. Everything is based on societies view here, or moreover religiously influenced morals.

The positive things are like you say, very philisophical, not into organized religion, etc. You're probably fairly well educated, and if you don't follow religion, realize that there isn't any overt purpose or meaning to life, and you simply live it up. I wouldn't knock anybody for that, and think everyone should make their life as good as possible, I just think you're looking too short term.

In 10 years, you're still a bartender, but fighting health problems, and it's a coin toss on whether or not you have an STD that cannot be cured. That's my opinion. You're not messed up, but the kind of person that simply doesn't have enough foresight to knock all that bullshit off and make really good things happen. Go out, get the girls, but consider where you want your life to be someday, and perhaps use that philosophical skill for psychological reasons and consider what deters you from any real companionship. You might learn something :)

Answer 3

Hi there

You have to give up the drugs no matter how much or how little you take. You will be more stable with yourself and kowing who you are and what you really want iny our life. I'm sure you treat your long term relationships with respect but you must also show yourself that you can respect others, especially if they are intoxicated and incoherent.

You ned to have something in your life that is stable , why not let it be yourself and then you can move on from there. Okay so you gamble, sleep around and live the high life. How will this impact later inlife. What if you find the right woman to be with and your past comes back or if you have children what stories would you like to share with them, ones of picking up prostitutes and having no respect for yourself or others OR a story where you discovered who you truelly are and that you are a strong minded persson and not WEAK minded succumbing to drugs, drinking an gambling. Only you can make the change iny our life and the only person to judge your character is God, no one else. Sp eace be with you and God Bless :)

Answer 4

I'd go for no morals rather than messed up, maybe you should see a doctor picking up all these hookers then sleeping with other women a huge number of people have aids and don't know it and you could very well be passing it onto plenty of people and ruining their lives if you do have it. Maybe you should also think about the other people how many of these drunk girls you go picking up feel like **** in the morning knowing they couldn't quite remember everything and got used by sleazy guy that if sober they'd probably never have gone near if sober.

Answer 5

Believe me being the way you are doesn't necessarily makes you a bad person, i won't judge you and i wouldn't say that you are messed up cause you recognise your flaws. After all everyone is human and makes mistakes. However everyone aims to work on their mistakes in order not to make them again. To take drugs and to go for girls who are incredibly drunk is not having respect for them or i may even say it's taking advange of the situation; to do those things and to expect that someone will tell you that it's all ok is being delusional. But you seem to realise that what you are doing is wrong but what suprises me is that you can't recognise the damage you are doing to yourself by getting drunk,taking drugs,gambling and wasting yourself that way. I think you should know that what you are doing to yourself isn't too good and take action now...you deserve to be happy and i'm wondering whether you truly are???!!! i dunno why you are messing up with your life. You should realise that there is so much more to life, you truly deserve to live and be happy!!!!!
take care of yourself and i'm sure you'll be alright =D
hope i've been able to help

Answer 6

You don't give an age, but I guess under 25. You are still experimenting and that's okay as long as it doesn't mess you up permanently. You are ying and yang-- you like to be bad and you love to be good---it is up to you which one will win in the battle. I hope when you meet the "one" and believe me, there is the "one", she is the person that one look at her your heart moves to your throat and well, you get flushed all over-- like in the godfather. They call it the thunderbolt- but in all reality it is a deeper more spiritual connection - like your two souls knew eachother in another life and recognized eachother in this one -- and I'm not keen on any of the mumbo jumbo religious stuff going on either but I do believe in this and no, there is NOT just One out there for you- if that were true 99 percent of the population waiting for the one would die old and single.

So that you are still healthy to meet this person, I would like to recommend you curb your crazy hazardous ways of hookers and perpetually partying-- you can get aids very easily and that would ruin the rest of your life------ and judge just one thing--- how do you feel when you wake up the next morning after one of these party episodes? Are you euphoric?, stupified? or just hung over feeling same/o same/o if it is not euophoric-- really reconsider taking your partying down a notch or two .......and by the way.....we ALL have partied more than we want to admit- you were honest- most of us will not be that forthcoming with our shortcomings--- and you can't know WHAT you want until you try a lot of what you DONT want--- I don't buy a dress without trying it on, I wouldn't marry a man without trying him out either.....it doesn't make any sense to be anyother way...........good luck to you

Answer 7

well picking up hookers can lead to Std's seeing as herpes and warts can be transmitted even while using a condom, as for the drugs and alcohol, well you don't set a very good example for young people but your not alone in this.
If you ever want a family with kids you should get yourself cleaned up.
Do i think your a bad person - no but i think that you should talk to a shrink to help you deal with what's making you do all these crazy things. My sister was a bar tender for 5yrs and she drank and did drugs and went to vegas and cuba and all the fun places and she gave it all up because she told me that how much alcohol can you drink before you pass out and how high do you really need to get. My sister finally told me that she had to go to rehab from drinking to much while at work, but she now has a steady job and relationship and is happy.
Good Luck!!! I hope things work out for you.

Answer 8

Negative: Be careful not to get into trouble bc some girls lie when they can't remember and with drugs in ur system ur screwed.
Positive: at the end of ur paragraph u say am i messed up. what u do is ur bussiness and who u want to tell. if they think any less of u then they don't really love u for u. judge and be judged

Answer 9

Funny how you list "i cant stand any type of organized religion" as one of your positives. To answer your question "bad" is a very weak and general term usually used by a degenerate who uses drugs and sets bar low when comes to personal relationships....wait a sec that's a perfect fit in your case lmfao.

Answer 10

I personally think that you live in the harsh reality of your own personal world and personal hell. If you are content on who you are do you really care what we think ? If your honest with your self and honest with the people around you, and they love or hate you for that it is their problem I suppose but where has your self respect gone hun, your worth so much more then this ! I wouldn't want to live the life your living that's for sure.

Answer 11

No, I don't really think you are all that messed up. You sounds like a *normal typical male* actually, hun. No Big Deal.

Everyone has to go out and sew their wild oats and have lots of fun before settling down. And some people never actually *settle down* and find the *right one*.

If you are happy and comfortable with yourself, then keep up your fun life.

but if you are not happy and want something *more* something more *fulfilling and satisfying* then use some good effort and try to get self respecting, considerate, sweet women to go out with you then pick which one you wanna spend the rest of your life with!

Good Luck Hun. :-)