My 14 year old cousin made out with her best friends older brother, who happens to be 17... It happened at like 3 am on New years, and when her friend walked in they were on the bed... I want to tell her to watch out for stuff like that, but I don't want her to keep that stuff from me in the future, or ffel like I am judging her... What do I do?
I am worried about her losing it, but I could also lose her trust...
2007-01-13 18:43:17 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a very good ques., & she's a lucky girl to have a cuz that has her back so tight. Definitly tell her to watch out. You know you can't stop her from "experimenting". hence, growing up. But let let know what boys can be all about at that age, and make DAMN sure she's ALWAYS protected.{ good idea to supply her with it, just in case} If you try to talk her out of what she's doing, you will lose trust, AND "force" her to keep secrets. I have 2 teen sons. I've worried about the same thing. My fear is mostly drugs. I personally have attended more than one funeral of dear & close friends cuz of O.D.s. I talk very openly to my kids, making sure that if they ever got into some kinda "trouble" with drinking, drugs, etc.. to call me right away, they would NOT be in trouble.{lets face it, I was a teen once, they "try" things} Luckily, they tell me EVERYTHING they do!! Good luck, sorry I was so long winded, I could actually go on...
2007-01-13 19:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by isis8x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would firstly express what a great friend she is to you and what your friendship means then say that you feel you can tell her everythign and you have some concerns. If she takes it well say that I hope you can do the same for me when I have something dsimilar happening in my life and thank you for hearing me out. If she doesn't take it well has she really listened to you at all in the past and is she truelly a friend. Good luck with this and you are a good friend to her because you care :)
2007-01-14 02:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by ANASTASIA_NIKOLAIEVNA_ROMANOVA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try talking to her and telling her this....tell her you only worry about her and that you don't wanna lose her trust. Don't make it sound like ur judging her. Let her know it's because u love her that u wanna talk to her.
Just be honest :)
2007-01-14 02:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by big h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bugger her trust. She is playing with things and emotions she has no clue about. Tell her parents to keep a closer eye on her.
2007-01-14 02:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling her to be careful shouldn't break her trust. She might be telling you this so you will say some thing to her like watch yourself or be careful or some thing like that
2007-01-14 02:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by bigb62960 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without letting her know ,tell her parents 2 keep a close eye on her or u can even tell her best friend to do that.
2007-01-14 02:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey inside she'll trust you and respect you more knowing that you're looking out for her. Just like those PSAs about drugs.
2007-01-14 02:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both Minors. What they are doing is illegal. You need to tell the parents of both parties.
Hope she is not pregnant.
Teen pregnancy is hell.
2007-01-14 02:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know she can tell you anything, that you won't judge her and that you can help her with advice (if she wants it.)
2007-01-14 02:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her and tell some guys only want one thing and that she is too good for that to happen
2007-01-14 02:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by starr67 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋