my bf is sooooo sweet and loves me very much,he's asked me to marry him several times,but i don't feel like getting marry so soon,i'm 25 and he is 28.we have been dating only for 4 months !!i don't wanna settle down yet!!i love him so much and i don't wanna hurt him,he thinks i don't admire him 100% ........what can i do to keep him but postpone the marriage?
2007-01-13 18:35:57 · 34 answers · asked by susie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all you can really do is tell him straight up how you feel about getting married, that you are not ready to make that step yet in your life. and if he really does love you and you love him, then what s the rush.? let your relationship have time to flourish. 4 months is verily enough time to know each other very well. give it time, and after you feel more confident, then go for it if it does get better, but dont rush into it. that is a very strong committment and one that should be considered as a long term aggreement between two people. one that is sacred, one that will effect the rest of both of your lives. consider all the aspects with him and maybe he will understand and agree with you.. lay it all out in the open, be honest, and be straight up about all your feelings..
and let him know too. that even though you are not ready for marriage that it doesnt mean that you dont love him cause you do.
2007-01-13 18:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have told him that you are not ready. Also, ask him why at 4 months he feels that it is the right time to get married. It isn't because you do not love him, but give him an appropriate time that you would feel comfortable with a proposal, like a year from now. Another thing, I don't think you are too young to get married but if you feel that way, tell him the age you prefer to get married at.
2007-01-13 18:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by Keyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to chill out, 4 months is way too short. Tell him EXACTLY how you feel. If he really loves you then he will wait. Dont lie to him or come up with excuses. Tell him 4 months is way to short to decide on a lifetime. Some guys are too....nevermind. Sorry 4 months is not even long enough to build a strong enough love, yall still are new to each other that newness will wear off and if you are married when it does then your stuck in a divorce.
2007-01-13 18:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jack P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that. Let him know that you have been dating for only 4 months and you are not ready to settle down just yet. Tell him just what you wrote here. Let him know you love him, but he has to understand that marriage is a big step and while you love him a great deal, this is a lifetime committment, and you want to be ready. If he loves you, he will hang on to you.
2007-01-13 18:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months.. really is a short time. Just sit down and explain to him that it's not because you don't love him... it's because you'd like to be in the relationship a little longer than 4 months. Tell him you just want to wait a little while for the marriage, and that you don't necessarily need marriage to feel completely connected to him.
2007-01-13 18:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by Crimson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that getting married at 25 is not what you want to do. Tell him that you don't want to do it until you are 30. You could have a long engagement or tell him to wait until you are closer to 30 to ask again. Let him know it has nothing to do with him but you aren't ready to be married and you want to stick to your plan.
2007-01-13 18:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be pushed into getting married if you really arn't ready. I would talk to him and say your really not ready and you just need more time. Ask him why he wants to rush into marriage, if he says its cause he loves you so much and wants to spend the rest of his life with you (and he's serious) then say, 'if you love me this much you will wait till im ready'.
Hope it all goes well :)
2007-01-13 18:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by yahoooooooooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just told yahoo. He should understand if he loves you so much. Being bf and gf is way different then wife and husband and its only been 4 months he just needs to calm down!
2007-01-13 18:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by Phapha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to marry this man if you did you would have already been imagining the two of you together in it for the long haul. Don't string him along. Let him know he's not Mr. Right, just Mr. Right Now.
2007-01-13 18:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married dear.you are lucky.you will admire him 100% after marriage.
2007-01-13 18:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋