this guy invited me over for lunch and cooked me a wonderful lunch today he is soooooo sweet and i work with him so i knew him before. everything was great and we talked then he served us lunch then we talked a little more then he pulled out his phone and noted the time and said he had to be at work in 4 hours and had to change before so i was ok and we started talking again and every once and awhile he would get up and go show me something like a pic of his sis or put some food up or something of that nature and hour went by and he commented on the weather and said he was going to go out and look at it and that last hour i kinda got a nervous awkward vibe but we were having a great convo so idk. but when he went outside i went with him and grabbed my purse and we stood outside and talked about the weather and i said i should better leave and he was ok well bye and i thanked him for lunch and he went back inside quickly. I dont' know what that was all about. I need help!!!!
2007-01-13 18:16:57 · 28 answers · asked by whatdoesitmatter05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we were both talking i was kinda wondering what he meant by that comment and at the times i thought i was going to be able to leave with out being rude i tried to find the right words to say so i could leave, but he would start on another subject thats y the certian comments he made were confusing me.
2007-01-13 18:17:49 · update #1
It is hard to say, but it does sound like he gave you mixed signals...dropping subtle hints like maybe the lunch was over, but then initiate a conversation again when it appeared that you were going to make an exit.
If he is normally a shy guy, it could be he was just nervous and part of him didn't want the lunch to end, but another part of him wanted it to be over because it was making him feel anxious and awkward.
If he is normally an outgoing guy, I would be worried that he may be involved romantically with another woman but testing the waters to see if you are interested. The mixed signal then could be he is not sure what he wants or it could be just that he is testing himself to be sure he is still marketable and the times where you took as a hint to exit he turned around to be a challenge to keep you there and interested in him.
2007-01-13 18:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is probably a guy that was unsure of himself in a situation of having a young lady over---first time jitters---nothing was going right so he resorted to unavoidable inane talk. I would hope the next time goes better. Next time put on some nice smooth music, set a nice atmosphere by maybe sharing the cooking or having a conversation topic picked in advance---help him with the unsteadiness--he'll get past all this. Set the table--move in a nice easy way---let him relax a little if it seems tense---take his hand and say---hey, it was nice of you to ask me over---next time let me take you to lunch. Big NO NO--- don't talk work or past loves---talk anything but those things. Ask if likes dogs or cats---anything but stressful stuff. Do you drink wine??? A nice merlot works wonders. Anyway, just be a lady and be nice, have fun---if it doesn't work out----you tried---move on. Good luck
2007-01-14 02:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically work relationships are actually a better idea than any other sort of relationship. The have a 50% chance of turning into a long term relationship or marriage. That's considerably better odds than anyplace else. Give him a one or two more dates and see what happens. If things go better on the second date then great if things go the same or not so well on the second date then you don't need to have a third.
2007-01-14 02:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Frank Edwards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably really nervous and didn't know what to say and do. People do crazy things and it's okay to question it....just don't make fun of it. The chances are that he was nervous and he wasn't sure if he was making a good impression. Either that, or he was just simply being himself. There's nothing wrong with that!
Oh yeah...and a good way to really find out is by talking to him but some people aren't talkers...they can be observers too...
2007-01-14 02:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by lady_ellie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found it difficult to read your rather long sentence but if I've understood it right, it sounds like he was just really nervous. It sounds like he likes you and wants to get to know you better. The stuff about him showing you pictures and going to get food is just him struggling to know what to talk about but wanting to keep you interested. When you left, it sounds like he was still nervous and that's why he went so abruptly.
Don't be so harsh on him and give him a chance. Maybe once you get to know each other better, he'll be better. Also, he wouldn't know whether to kiss you or what to do would he? Some men don't.
2007-01-14 03:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by kpk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he sounds like a real polite man, next time, just tap say "oh well, this is fun" and stand up, i mean u knw he need to be at work in 4 hrs so that movement would make u considerate.
He prob wanted u to do that but u didnt so he didnt want to send u the wrong vibe by asking u to leave.
He's a nice gentlemen, frm wot u wrote, take it slow babe! :D
2007-01-14 02:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like you two have a mutual crush. I think he was trying to get you in the sack with all that stalling and saying he had to change before work. When he realized it wasn't going to happen today then perhaps he was a little embarrassed and wanted to be alone. Nothing to worry about.
2007-01-14 02:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you felt awkward, just try not to bring it up again, except to say something like, "Thanks for making me lunch. It was great." He was probably just as nervous as you were and so he was trying to fill the space in the conversation by saying random things. That explains the comment.
2007-01-14 02:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by therightanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that he likes you and was getting nervous and maybe a little shy. Voice of experience and all that!
If you like him why don't you ask him out for a drink and see how he is with you this time. Need any further advice don't hesitate to email me.
Good luck, follow your dreams.
2007-01-14 07:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeed hunny, this sounds a bit weird.
He wanted to see you for lunch, he was really sweet, yet he kept lettin you know that he needed to get ready for work and towards the end he told you TO LEAVE?
Why did he just keep talking and talking if he wanted you to leave so he could get ready for work?
Hmm *scratching head* Men are weird creatures hunny, and i'll never understand them! lol
Good Luck on understanding this one!
2007-01-14 02:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Daft One 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋