Everytime I find the [[perfect]] guy, my ex boyfriend pop's back up. And I don't have feelings for him again, I just see a picture of him or talk to him and It makes me go crazy. Like I start to miss him like woah. I'm completely in love with my boyfriend [[paul]] but idk I guess I'm proving to myself that I'm never happy. Last year, in May [[i think]] Me and this guy TJ were talking, and then my ex [[dustin]] Came back into the picture. I broke up with TJ and started dating Dustin again. And I am so not letting that happen again. But I don't want to stop being friends with Dustin. What can i do?
2007-01-13 18:14:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dustin pops back into the picture because you allow him to. He is a part of you because you shared some special times with him and that is ok. The key here is not to allow those feelings and experiences to invade the current relationship good/bad alike, the new relationship has no chance if you dwell on what was and not what is. It is also perfectly fine for you to still want to maintain an admirable relationship with him, but it has to be two sided, you both have to realize it is over without hidden agenda of wanting to sabbotage the new relationship in hopes of getting back together, I question Dustin's motives for just popping up.Sounds to me like you would be better off if you were friends from a distance, eventually he will fade and accept it is over and he too will move on, but any close one on one friendship is impossible at this stage of the game because it sounds like Dustin has his own agenda. Stick to an occasional phone call, or how are you doing? Make sure Dustin is aware that you are happy in and doing well in your new relationship without flashing it in his face offensively, and don't get into deep personal talk...stick to small talk.... or general how are you doing...it's great you are moving on etc. Talk you would show someone you haven't seen for a long time in a store, short, sweet, general, but sincere. If that doesn't work I'm afraid he won't be the type you can maintain a friendship with...in that case let things be and go on with your life and privately wish him the best.
2007-01-13 18:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by fleaflopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you have a thing for Dustin, but he only seems to want you when he cannot have you, the cycle will continue until either you end all times with him so you can focus on your relationship with your current boyfriend, or he finds someone who he really is crazy about and wants to be committed and he won't be chasing after you at all.
It is hard to let go of someone that you have deep feelings for, but if you have a "love jones" for them, your heart desiring them when your head is telling you don't go there, they will always be able to trigger a spark in you to bring them back to them (and usually not because they really want to be with you, they just don't want you to be with another guy...guys are very territorial even with the ex's) and you will be miserable.
2007-01-14 02:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dustin?
2007-01-14 02:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't want you to go out with anybody else.
2007-01-14 02:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by redd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋