I am 19 years old and I have yet to expirence a relationship that lasts more than a week. and the only one that lasted more than a night was meaningless and in middle school. I was a bit shy then but I have blossmed and I am confident, funny, nice, hot, dude if I was shy and insecure then why would I post that I think I am a hottie. So I don't get what the deal is. I have had guys want to do me but I can count those expirences on one hand. So please why do guys not want to date me? I have a few flaws but everyone does. All my guy friends and my girlfriends don't know why either, they all told me I'm a good catch, I have really honest friends too. I just don't get it. I haven't had a guy ask me out in 4 years. What the heck?
2007-01-13 18:08:38 · 23 answers · asked by Hannah A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry if this sounds rude, but you're not a hottie if a guy hasn't asked you out in four years. This being said, it doesn't mean there is no hope for you. What are you doing to try to meet men? Put yourself out there more. Maybe try internet dating on something like match.com. There are A LOT of single guys out there, and if you're as great of a catch as you say, I am sure they are waiting for you.
2007-01-13 18:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Miss D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am just a few years older than you and have only had one boyfriend...which didn't last long. I have learned that the "good guys" are usually one of the following: too scared to ask a nice girl out, have too many friends who like you as well, or they realize the time, energy, emotions, etc. that a serious relationship takes and they want to be courteous enough to not get themselves in a situation that they can't handle.
Another thing is, never be so flirtatious that guys think you're desperate. If you are really as confident, funny and nice as you say you are then don't worry! One day a nice guy is going to come along and sweep you off of your feet, but DON'T compromise yourself just to have a boyfriend. Most of my friends are single, and we all are just enjoying these last few months or years of singlehood, since we won't get that opportunity again, most likely.
Start to meet new people, find some good friends and spend a lot of time hanging out in a mixed-gender group. Guys can get to know you a lot better when the pressure is off. Don't sweat it and have fun!! I know you'll meet the right guy some day but enjoy this time while you have it!
2007-01-13 18:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jdogg1508 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you don't get out enough or go to the right places to meet someone or your view of yourself is a little flawed. Why don't your friends set you up if they think you are such a great catch? Certainly their single friends (or for that matter, any single guy friends you have might have a crush on you) would agree you are a catch worth persuing if you are as hot and outgoing as you say!
Somebody isn't telling you something because hot girls generally get asked out a lot. People who think they're hot but don't get asked out have an incorrect assessment of their appearance or personality. Your 'really honest friends' aren't being honest.
Being hot doesn't guarantee a relationship, but it does guarantee more dates. Sorry to be so blunt. Try posting your picture on www.hotornot.com and you'll get an honest assessment from people who don't know you. There are many reasons not to do it, but if you don't do it because you are afraid to, maybe that will tell you something about your confidence?
2007-01-13 18:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by jaferris166 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have someone watching over you. Be thankful! You are only nineteen and I know you feel grown up but listen to what I just said, "19". Nine TEEN. You are a teenybopper! Don't rush it! Enjoy these fun years, hang out with friends, eat ice cream with your girl friends until your stomach hurts. Life and love is a for sure thing and once you experience it, you'll realize how simple it was before. I know, you 'aint buyin' it. Well, neither did my 18 year old and now she wants to come back home where the cold, hard, cruel world isn't in her face all the time. Adulthood and responsibility is not fun, get there only when you have to! Now, go slip n slide or something and relax that mind!
2007-01-13 18:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just havent met the right one yet, and you will be happy that you waited when you do find him. it takes time sometimes, I never even married until I was 27 and my girlfriends were all getting divorces. then.. but then I now wish that I never even married the guy I did, except for one thing, I wouldnt have my son now that I have.. so even with the bad is good.
your still very young. and I used to feel the same way at your age. I couldnt figure out what was wrong with me and why guys didnt want to go out with me or why no one had ever wanted to marry me. I got over it however. and wish I had done some things differently. but I didnt and even thou now I am divorced too. I don't think that I will marry again. it was that bad.. unless I feel that the guy I am in love with realy does love mema nd we get along for more then 2 or 3 years, then I may consider it.
if you are wanting to find someone that will take an interest in you. go to places that you enjoy going to. either museums, or the movies. or the mall. what ever it is that you like doing.. try different places, if you ski.. go skiing., if you like to go bowling, go bowling. do what you enjoy and you will more then likely find a man that enjoys the same things and you will find someone not only interested in you but enjoys the same things you do. ..
good luck..
2007-01-13 18:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way for anyone to know this without knowing you. Do you take care of personal hygiene? Do you have any annoying habits? Do you stand out in a crowd? Maybe you have an image of being unapproachable. Be yourself. Relax and let love find you.
2007-01-13 18:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont problem. Im thirteen going on 14 and Ive under no circumstances had a boyfriend both. Yeah some men requested me out yet they werent the right ones for me. some day youll locate the right guy for you. only wait. have relaxing being unmarried! :)
2016-10-31 01:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by roca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you clingy? Needy? Did you call the guys you did date everyday? Are you aggressive? Do you dominate the conversation? You need to examine your own personality and how you act around guys. Something is driving them away. Could it be your friends arent being honest about you? Maybe there is something annoying and theyre too nice to tell you.
2007-01-13 18:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Since you have no other question or answers in your profile, I can't really tell you that. Do answers for a while and give honest answers and questions you would really like the answer too. Then ask this question again.
2007-01-13 18:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by shadycaliber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe people see that your not a shallow ***** and wont put up with a one night stand so they dont want you. your lookin in the wrong places. if you want a boyfriedn and not a fuckbunny then hang out where real people go like bookstores or cd stores n meet people who like the same **** as you. not bars.
2007-01-13 18:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋