I called my gf's parent's house, because I haven't heard from her in 3 days, and I was worried sick, I asked her if she wasn't talking to me anymore, and she said that she wasn't, so I just told her I wouldn't call her anymore.
When she got home, she called me, and the first words out of her mouth were " why are you stalking me " now this is the first and only time that I ever called her parents house, and she is the one that gave me the number.
Now, she is 29 yrs old, and afraid to tell Mommy and Dady, that she said yes, that she would marry me, when I asked her, I even bought the ring, etc..
So I will let you people decide what to do.
1. give her another chance.
2. tell her it's over, and have nothing further to do with her.
3. just let it go, and pretend like nothing happened
2007-01-13 18:06:24 · 11 answers · asked by shezdoni2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, more details, her and I talked on the phone everynight, there where times when she would call me, talk for a couple of minutes, then fall asleep on me, while still on the phone, so I would just hang up.
I have been faithful to her, but lately, I have been getting the feeling that she has someone else, she says I am paranoid ( which I am a little from my anxiety meds )
but the way she acted and was talking when I called her parents house just gave me that feeling that she was there with another guy.
2007-01-13 18:23:42 · update #1
why would she be afraid to tell mom and dad if she is there is something wrong..you need a girl that will want to show you off to the world and be thankful that you call and you are worried about her dont' waste your love one someone who doesn't deserve you at all! I know you might love her and all but still she should def have the guts to tell her own parents how in the world are you to ever going to get married if she doesn't tell them... I say number 2 myself you are so much better than her.
2007-01-13 18:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by whatdoesitmatter05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just cool it with her for a while - don't try to contact her in any way. Don't be sitting around wondering what she is doing or when she is going to call. Keep yourself busy.
I'm sure she will get in touch with you soon.
The fact that she will not tell her parents that she accepted your proposal is a little mystifying.
Maybe she isn't sure if she wants to get married. That's more reason to give it time.
When she does contact you, keep level headed, don't be "gushy" about the fact that she got in touch with you.
When the time seems right, and not over the phone, try to talk to her, candidly, about her reaction to your calling her parents and her reasons for the reaction.
It may not be the answer you are looking for but by taking more time to delve into your relationship, you might find out if she is really the one you want to marry.
I just read your additional comments. Maybe there was someone else there or maybe it was the meds. If she truly cares about you she will be willing to work things out with you. I know I keep harping on this but, take it slowly and give it time. I think and feel that, if you do this, you will know in which direction to go.
2007-01-13 18:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Oenophile... (Lynn) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder how long you've been in this relationship, because my gut instinct from what you've told us is that maybe this relationship is pretty new and that she was a bit surprised that you asked her to marry you, so she said yes, but she's actually feeling that its too soon.
What you need to do depends on what you both are really feeling and what you want out of this relationship. If you aren't dedicated to the relationship enough to work out something like this, then you should probably end it. Also, if she is pulling away as it sounds like she is, then again, probably best to end it.
Just my two-cents for my two-points. Best of luck.
2007-01-13 18:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by well now i'm antsy times 4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) If you do this...It would be best if you both wait before tying the knot.....It sounds like she really needs to mature some. See if she would agree to some pre-marital counseling. (see source below)
2) If you do this....case closed.
3) If you do this....Pretending will not make it go away....Find somebody you trust (like a close friend or relative) to talk to...it will do you a lot more good than just trying to bury it.
Good Luck!!
2007-01-13 18:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her first. men! she is 29 years old isn't it time to decide on her own? If the talking part did not do anything it's time to let go.
2007-01-13 18:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Shai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds weird to me. I would meet in a public place, like a restaurant, and have a really long talk with her.
2007-01-13 18:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by dallygirl89 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2. tell her it's over, and have nothing further to do with her.
she doesn't want to marry you, by the sounds of it she doesn't even want to be with you.
2007-01-13 18:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2. tell her it's over, and have nothing further to do with her.
2007-01-13 18:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by Spirit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Run, run, run, run, RUN. She is a mental case. A nutjob. If you do not run you will be in for a lot of misery.
2007-01-13 18:10:03 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2,,shes a rude biatch that doesnt know what she wants or cares who she hurts.
2007-01-13 18:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋