i made my bf who i really adore wait two years b4 having sex with me and since i let him he started doing it everytime he sees me and if we ddnt have it he just starts kissing and making out and i never can let him stop cuz he does it in a very great and amazing way(romantic)
everytime i feel like it is the first time cuz he is so soft and he treats me like a queen
i really love him
it is just he talked to me and he wanted to try to have unprotected sex
and he told me the it is the wish of his dreams and i dont want to make him sad or mad of me do u think i should do it and what r the problems i might get if i do it
f u think i shouldnt is there any other way to please him???
2007-01-13 17:41:14 · 16 answers · asked by aha i wanna know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Asking you to go without protection is selfish and not at all being considerate of you. To go without, you are at risk to catch any std's he may have. He may not even know of any that he is carrying right now. You both should be tested for several std's (that's being fair) and for hiv. It takes six months for some diseases to show up so you would need to use protection after the testing for six months to get an accurate answer. Then, and only then, would I even consider going without protection. Then you'll know if you're playing with fire or not. You deserve that!
2007-01-13 17:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there are a couple problems with unprotected sex. First of all, you could get pregnant or get an STD. If you guys are actually dating and that is a choice that you make within the relationship then you need to be prepared for the possible consequences. If he is only your best friend and you are not in a relationship, I would not have unprotected sex until you figure out what you really want from him. If you only want sex then you might be better off looking for the right guy to have unprotected sex with. Don't settle and try something because you don't want to upset him. If you are not ready to deal with the consequences that may arise, then I suggest using protection. Good Luck.
2007-01-13 17:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by deebobeebo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your details, you are obviously quite young. Therefore, let me tell you about unprotected sex. If you do this, you are sleeping with every person your boyfriend has ever slept with and opening yourself up to an entirely new can of worms. DO NOT EVER HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX! Have you ever watched someone with AIDS die? It is not pretty and neither are the illnesses associated with HIV or AIDS. Even if you do not get these two diseases, there are 1000's of other sexually transmitted diseases you are opening your body up to get if you do not wear protection and he doesn't wear protection. Please do not fall for "I can't feel anything if I wear a condom" excuse. It's older than dirt! If you love yourself at all, you won't even consider not being protected.
The fact that he has asked you to have unprotected sex tells me (an older woman) that he DOES NOT love you and is only thinking of HIS needs, not yours. That's why sex should be the greatest gift you can give someone you are married to, and not some casual act between two youngsters. Now that you have indulged in sex, you will not want to abstain from having it again. So, the most mature thing you can do for YOURSELF is to NEVER have unprotected sex with ANYONE no matter how much you love him. Do you naively believe he did not have sex with anyone while you were making him wait for two years? You are letting your emotions rule your head instead of letting your head rule your emotions.
A sexual encounter between two people in love should be true lovemaking, not just "sex". That's why it should be between two married, committed, mature people and not indulged in by youngsters. As a sexually active couple, have you ever sat down and discussed what you both like? Can you sit and discuss anything without it leading up to intercourse?
2007-01-13 17:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by BoilBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you're both completely STD-free, I want you to repeat after me:
I.
Don't.
Want.
Kids.
Right.
Now.
I've been married to my wife for almost a year and we STILL use condoms. While it's true that no form of birth control is 100% effective (including The Pill), you're needlessly increasing your risk for pregnancy. It's not about trust, or a lack thereof; it's about your future.
2007-01-13 17:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by the_bald_one_mpls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cares about u he wouldn't have asked u to have unprotected sex. Don't take that chance!!! if you all decide not to use condoms then u should get on some kind of birth control yourself. Kids, STDS...r u really ready to deal with all of that?
2007-01-13 17:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Help a sister out 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds liek you're really young and naive. Not to be crude or anything, but a man that loves you that much shouldn't ask to put you at risk just b/c he doesn't like the feeling or whatever. Sounds rather one-sided.
2007-01-13 18:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by sarah261981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
f u trust u bf then i think there is no prob. Ok if u want to make uprotected sex u must take care of the *** should not be get inside u. So that preganency prob can be avoided.
2007-01-13 17:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by dipak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think about your health. Having unprotected sex comes with so much baggage. You could get STD's from having unprotected sex. I think you shouldn't risk your health.
2007-01-13 17:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by Sherline 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him your thoughts and if he loves you at all he will not hold this against you at all. After all does he want to start a family???? I know this might be mean but if you scare him enough he will forget it and enjoy what he gets...or none at all.GOOD LUCK
2007-01-13 17:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by golden tigress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can have unprotected sex without knowing that you have protected yourself. Consult a doctor about jellies and female condoms. http://www.healtharticlesworld.com
2007-01-13 17:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by ricky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋