My husband is blackmail me since day one!?

Question

We got married and on the beginning all was good till I said "I do". I got a prenuptial agreement, my money is my money your is yours. No alimony if it the marriage goes down south. He starts to cheat on me, not pay his household part, bit me and verbally abuse me. I said I going to call police, so he start to bit his head on the wall. He always did that, so if police came they arrest me too! I kick him out many times, and he always breaks in because we still married. I do not have a police report for the beatings. Can I still apply for VAWA? What evidences do I still need? Shout I take him to the court now to get at list the money back? It was a legitimate marriage, not a scam. I already proved to USCIS.

Answer 1

Why haven't they deported you yet?

It doesn't matter what you "proved" to USCIS, by your account here all of that was a lie. You don't have a true marriage but rather a marriage of convenience so that you could become a citizen, one that has gone wrong for you. This is the kind of thing that happens when people try to scam others.


Read her other questions first. She married this man to become a US citizen, and since the marriage was a scam has ended up with a man who treats her badly (so she claims) and doesn't want to divorce him because she might get deported. So she wants to stay with him and try to secretly record him during the times she considers to be him abusing her.

She has used him and the US government to gain citizenship, who knows what else she has done. She is playing the "poor woman' routine and I am seriously considering turning her into Immigration Services.

He can't blackmail you if there isn't anything to use against you. You say that he's been blackmailing you since day one, which means it's been going on for about a year now, and you've obviously been giving in to him. I know that you've lied about your marriage being a true marriage, which is probably part of what he is blackmailing you about, since it's been going on since day one. You probably made a verbal agreement to give him money and pay his expenses as part of him marrying you, and now you want out. Of course, you can't have put that in writing, otherwise you'd have solid evidence to use against you. However, there are all of the receipts for bills you have paid and money you've, which shows a paper trail leading to you.

Sending anything to his job constitutes slander, harassment and blackmail on your part.

Answer 2

Does anyone have an idea that all alien or green card holders women can be actually blackmailed from the very first day? We share our bank accounts with our american citizen husbands. Not all of them are angels. They basically own us. Why? Because unless you get your citizenship you will always be in their hands. He can take all your money and blackmail you just by saying " You know, my dear, you are not a citizen yet! Don't forget that!" Lets assume that you have studied 4 years and got a degree and you have kids but one beautiful day you decide to open your own bank account. In few months you have saved some money on a side for you or your children and then comes a huge fight including blackmailing. So you decide to take action and get a divorce. Poor woman. You are condemned before even you step into the court. The separate bank account is a proof of fake marriage. He can convince the authorities that you were nice and sweet to him but after getting your permanent 10 years green card you have decided to leave him and that is why you have a separated bank account; that all was your plan and he had no idea that he will be put in position to lose his whole family. Poor american guy that has been drinking the most of your pay checks in the local sport bars. If he is smart enough and your kids are too young to defend you then you will lose your green card, you will be deported and most important - you will never see your children again. There was no abuse, so you're naked in the court house with no evidence against him. I hate stories of american complaining about their blackmailing foreign women. What about us? Do you know how many legal immigrant have been blackmailed in so many way just because of their status? Shut up U.S. citizen and put your head down to the woman who works for your family. First stop thinking only for domestic violence. To some European women this is just like living with an animal. Second consider the mental abuse as a serious factor for the misery of your family and your self. The immigration reform has to be done and it doesn't have to be only about raped, abused, beaten victims. The mental abuse can bring a woman to put end of her life. What is a life without love and happiness? I came to see the great nation and now I am sad, silent and alone with my problems. I read a lot and I know that I can get my freedom in two ways: going back home with my kids or getting the "golden fish" the american citizenship so I can finally try to be happy again.

Answer 3

Wow, women are so easily takened by good love making, smooth talking, good looking men, like myself might add.

But, I have no prenuptial, no spouse abuse, and will always try to work it out first, before jumping in the next bed.

You never know a person, until you live with them 24/7, because what you mentioned goes both ways.

Answer 4

in court its not what you say but what you can prove. If you record everything with hiden cameras, which you can find pretty cheap some will fit in your smoke detectors. then take it to the police. If you are serious about the divorce then go to a lawyer. Im not sure what VAWA is but if you can prove that he is abusive towards you then you can get away. Thank you for standinmg up for yourself and choosing to not stay with this boy. I say boy b/c a man knows better then to hit women.

Answer 5

Divorce him! If you have any money, move when he is not around and then file for divorce. Get a lawyer and tell the lawyer your situation.
At the beginning of the section on Lawyers, there is a referral service. Ask for a divorce Lawyer that will give you a free evaluation. Good luck.

Answer 6

Give me your e-mail and phone #, and I will give you mine, so you know what a man is like, a true man. Get that bum out of your life, you seem as if he had broke down your self-esteem.

As you notice I never mentioned any pictures, looks is not so important, and no bragging, I do get compliments of myself. But, all the prettiest women where I live and been with, were dirty rotten ho's.

Answer 7

get you a video camera and a tape recorder and have all this on tape when you go to court. Be sure and tell the law or your attroney what you are planning to do so they cant tell you that you were trying to imtrap him. What ever you do, please be careful and when you get your divorce get a restaing order against him.. take him to the cleaners as they say. Just get out why you can.

Answer 8

as long as there is not any courtroom order about visitation, you could stop them from seeing him yet also too, without courtroom order he might want to stop help yet sometime he will be ordered to pay decrease back help so that you're going to nonetheless assemble from this era yet its only a count number number of at the same time as. regrettably, that's a huge problem with Divorces at the same time as childrens are in touch and not in any respect a element legally might want to be carried out right here, sorry as its way too demanding to educate in courtroom. What he does at the same time as with them is his company and that i see not something that could want to help you get any earnings right here over him in a custody listening to, yet he might want to get himself into economic difficulty if he will pay out for each body of his childrens, yet for you could now stop the visits for emotional causes yet anticipate the prefer to reinstate them. solid success

Answer 9

Video Tape Everything He Does!!! Secret Cameras in HOUSE

Answer 10

as far as evidence goes stick a tape recorder or camera in a house hold plant or something then wen u have the feeling he's gonna do something turn it on