my boyfriend is 16 and i just turned 12.
he wants to have s-3-x but i dont wanna... im afraid hes not gonna luv me anymore if i say no.... i already do stuff with him that i dont really want to do but i have never gone all the way before with anyone... im scared but i really think he might be the one for me.....
should i go all the way? he says it's really fun and i'll like doing it but that doesnt make me any less terrified..... i really want some outside opinions, help?!
2007-01-13 17:33:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm saving sex till marriage.
This is how I feel about it ...
You should stay a virgin till you're married.
God intended it to be that way.
But many, MANY people abuse that.
And God looks down on those people.
You don't just give your virginity to just anybody.
It is the best present you can give your future husband.
It is you... it is all of you.
If you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.
You'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.
It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.
Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.
I am a virgin myself. I have a boyfriend of almost a year that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
2007-01-13 17:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you are 12 and should be enjoying being young. You will have plenty of relationship problems in life, so why not be young and carefree and stuff now? Just dump him. Tell him that how things have been between you 2 are not right and you don't want to continue in this relationship. And he is 16 and should not be with a 12 year old. You are at 2 different times of adolescence and are significantly different. No you should not go all the way with him. And you never should when you have to question if you should or not. Whenever you should go all the way you feel right about going all the way.
Take care and good luck
2007-01-14 01:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by lile79 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't be doing that at 12, I know you probably don't want to hear that. But you DEFINATELY should NOT have sex. You are way too young. There are too many risks, disease, getting pregnant (I don't think you want to be a 12 or 13 year old mommy). If he pressures you, just imagine that you did have a baby at 12, all your friends would go to the mall, have fun, hang out...you would stuck at home taking care of a baby. If he dumps you because you are not willing to have sex with him, then he was never worth it to begin with, and you deserve better then that.
2007-01-14 01:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by William D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the difference between age 16 and 12 is too big. i'm turning 16 in a few weeks and i'll tell you a lot of people at my school hav e sex. it's not unnormal. however, to be having sex at age 12, even in this day in age, is really too early.
Besides, whenever you're being pressured into doing something you don't want to do, it's not a good relationship to be in.
2007-01-14 03:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by thank you come again 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO dont do it first of all your too young and if he really wants to be with you then he will wait until your ready if not then he can move around cause hes was out for one thing anyway you have years to think about sex right now you should be think about school and havin fun with your friends so dont give in and dont do anything you dont want to do youll regret it later if you need to talk more email me
2007-01-14 01:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. T. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea big mistake, a 16 yr old boy was intrested in me when i was 12 and now that i'm older and look back on it, i can't believe how sick he was, trying to get with a 12 yr old little girl. stay away from this guy, hes a perv.
2007-01-14 03:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LIES! If he really loved you he would have respect for your opinion. Clearly you're uncomfortable with it and he shouldn't force you to do something that's not even safe for your age in the first place.
Simple as that.
2007-01-14 01:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by fancy unicorn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it girl unless you are over 16 AND ready to do it .
Even if he leaves you , don't worry , many will like you , you are still very young .
2007-01-14 01:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow he is not the one for you , you are only 12...you shouldnt do anything you dont want to do....you should definitely not have sex with him
2007-01-14 01:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by ytrewq 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if your not ready, your not ready. That fool dont deserve you if thats the way if he is going to be!!!!!
2007-01-14 01:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by ♥LittleMissTink♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋