20 and still no boyfriend?

Question

I dont understand, I'm not great looking, but I'm cute, I have a good personalty from what I've told, but still no boyfriend. I am very shy and find it hard to make eye contact. I am not very picky but dont want a jerk either. When I did come close to a boyfriend I got scared and backed off and now hes with a girl hes been with for a year. Will I never find anyone?

Answer 1

Relax, this feeling happens at your age, but there is still time, you may get a good prince charming soon.. gud na you didnt get that boy, he is not trustworthy.. just bcoz you didnt go close he went to other girl...

Answer 2

Lighten up. You're trying too hard. Don't look for a boyfriend. Look for a friend and see where it goes. Never settle for less, be picky, picky, picky, and you will have guys beating a path to your door. These things happen when you least expect it and it is very good when you like the person as a friend first. Practice looking people in the eye, look everyone in the eye-always. It's the best way to figure out what they are thinking. Make it a game and practice, practice, practice. Look people in the eye across a room, look up and look down, stare long, try all kinds of things until you are an expert. It is great fun. Then make it a little flirty, then a little shy. See what works for you. Take a look in films and see how women handle themselves in different situations. Try it out. Can't do any worse than you're doing now. Pretty soon you will be laughing at yourself and having a great time. Being shy is just lack of experience and lack of confidence to handle situations. You've assessed yourself. Your cute and have a good personality. That's all you need. Take a deep breath and go for it!

Answer 3

Many guys around your age are having hormone surges that make them look for "a good time" rather than a girlfriend. I know you want companionship, but you must realize that nothing worthwhile comes easily. Know what you want in a boyfriend and seek it out. If you want a guy who is intelligent, take classes and network on a level that is not threatening. If you want a spiritual guy, then go to places of worship and get involved. The internet is a good place to widen a net for possible canidates, but please be careful and smart about it.

It's okay to be shy. Many guys find this attractive and will pursue you so they can make eye contact. In many cases, shyness equals "good girl" and this keeps the jerks away. Keep your spirits up. In a short time you will look back at this time in your life as a small stepping stone to a good, healthy relationship.

Answer 4

I'm 24, Male, and in the same situation (almost identical, except I'm looking for a female). I Don't drink, smoke, or like very loud music (coz it hurts my sensitive ears), so most social forums are eliminated there, and I'm not religious, I work in a different place every few weeks at the most in my line of work, and I love to cook at home, visit family, and bushwalk / hike. None of these things are really all that social, and I meet lots of people but never get to know any of them. I live on a strict vegan diet, and I'm quite shy, which helps to make me even more reclusive.

I ask the same question as you: Will I never find anyone?

Answer 5

Please don't think that you will never find anyone to be the special person in your life. Being shy is OK but maybe you can practice making eye contact. The fact that you got scared off by one guy is really not a big deal. He probably wasn't the right one for you. Most guys want a girl who is a good listener, but also don't be afraid to talk. Be yourself, a lot of girls think that they have to act loud or obnoxious for a guy to notice them. WRONG.
think about where you go to try to meet guys, maybe you have been looking in the wrong places.try to find someone with similar interests as you. This will make conversation easier. Is their a sport, band,music you especially like. It may be easier to talk about things that you are knowledgeable in. Good luck!!!

Answer 6

Get your financial aid package together and go to college. Study hard and make good grades and try to participate in social events if you can. You may take longer to become comfortable in social situations, but it will come to you. Don't rush it. Learn to enjoy being with people you like and sharing your time with good, hard working, honest people, and sooneer or later someone will approach you and that will be that.
Don't be in such a hurry. There are lots of things more important than having a boy friend. Take your time.

Answer 7

Of course you will find someone. You are still so young!! You've got the rest of your life ahead of you. God will bring you the right one in His time. You just weren't meant to have someone yet. Just have faith in God. In the meantime, enjoy the single life. You don't have to worry about a boyfriend, don't have to deal with the pain and heartache, etc. In all honesty, I think having a boyfriend and not having a boyfriend comes with the same worries. lol. Because there are really happy times... and then there are really sad times.

Answer 8

nope you will not find anyone i can say that with confidence. you will not find anyone because you seem like you don't want to find anyone. i understand you're shy, but you can't be shy forever or the opportunities will pass you by and you will be thinking "what if". just one time build up as much confidence as possible saying to yourself "i'm not afraid" and go up to the guy and start talking and ask a guy out. believe me you will feel soo much better like a burden was lifted off your shoulder. not only will you feel better but you will have confidence and will want to go and asks others out. believe me you just need that 2 seconds of confidence.

Answer 9

You will, just don't have such a poor attitude about it. That's probably the reason why you are still single. Get yourself out there, get your friends to help set you up, join a gym, ask for a guys number you meet at the local store. There are possibilities every where, its up to you whether or not you want to stay single.

Answer 10

Dana, I suggest you take a class on assertiveness so you can learn to look people in the eye. Your main problem is a lack of confidence. Guys just dont know how to deal with that. Check your local community college for one. If you dont see one listed call them up and ask if they know of one or a support group you can join.