My first child is a girl and I love her beyond words. All I want is for my second child to be healthy, I don't care about the sex of the child. Why do they keep saying this, and is it as rude as I feel it is?
My mother also did this when my sister was pregnant with her 2 children. What is she going to say if it turns out to be a boy? Should I say anything to them?
2007-01-13 17:25:50 · 19 answers · asked by wendygirl1000 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My mother in law also said this in her annual Christmas letter! But she said it in such a way that it sounds like we've already told her the sex of the baby (which we don't even know ourselves).
2007-01-13 17:41:39 · update #1
get over it, it's not a big deal. it's not rude for them to hope that you have a girl, nor does it mean that they will love your child any less if it is a boy.
2007-01-13 17:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It sounds like your a little Over emotional about the whole thing to tell you the truth.. I don't see anything she said that sounds like she meant to be mean.. it sounds like she just spoke before thinking how it could come off to you. I would be Thrilled if my mother in law was holding onto baby clothing for us and keeping toys and a pack and play for overnights at grandmas house.. I mean.. god forbid she dare give you a hand me down then buy all brand new for your baby. I think your trying to turn it into more than it needs to be.. so what if she wants a baby boy? Can she not have an opinion? That is a good thing.. she wants a grandson since she already has a granddaughter.. OMG! Sound the alarms. You need to try to relax. It's hormones.
2016-05-23 23:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she is your mother she already knows that there is no way she can influence the sex of even her own child. Maybe she is merely wishing out loud, some women I know say a girl is easier to care for, others say no, a boy is easier to care for (because we are soooo verry predictable)
It's more of a mother thing. Be grateful if some jackass doesn't rub your belly "for luck"
Meanwhile take whatever joys you can from motherhood. Mothers are special, and some day your kids will tell you that as well.
2007-01-13 17:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by brotherjonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they sound a little pushy.. tell them to back off. But I will tell you one thing. You are lucky to have parents that are happy about your baby. I am having my second baby and no matter how happy I am, I don't get one congradulations from my family. Because I am not 'married' and so no one is happy, they are all sad that I can't just follow the religion. If I was miserablely married they would have been happy.. but since I am single and happy they won't be happy for me. I am pregnant with no family to even be excited or say congradulations. I didn't mean this as a guilt trip. Your family has no right to upset you or be pushy... but I am just saying.. at least they are happy with you
2007-01-13 19:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just try to brush it off. However, if it bothers you to this point you should just let them know that you'd appreciate it if they didn't state their preference, because it does offend you. Especially since you're more sensitive during pregnancy. Also, why don't you state why it offends you. If they knew that you'd feel bad for the baby, if it was a boy, because their comments, they might bite their tongues when around you.
2007-01-13 17:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them that you hope you have a boy so you have one of each and that your husband would like to have a boy too.....but if it is a girl, you don't care either so you can have two little princesses at home. this way, they know you'd like to have a boy too.
when they know that you would like to have a boy, they may keep quiet but you know what? inside them they want you to have a boy but don't want you and your husband to get disappointed, so they are trying to tell you that it isn't a disappointment if you have a girl.....they are just preparing you just in case.
once you have a baby, whatever you have they will love....and if it is a girl they will adore her and if it is a boy, they will be soooooooooo glad that you have a boy, just you wait and see if i am not right.
2007-01-13 17:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No why bother, the child will be what it is suppose to be, and if it's a boy they might surprise you don't worry once they look at that baby no matter boy or girl it will be all love
2007-01-13 17:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by melissa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them what you just said that as long as the baby is healthy, you will be happy. Grandparents sometimes don't think before they say things but they are excited about your baby and will be happy whatever it is. Don't worry too much about it.
2007-01-13 17:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by Dyan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no don't say anything, this is almost always happens i think.
while i was pregnant everyone thought they knew what it was,i think it's just a guessing game for them. i don't think your mom will care what the sex of the baby is as long as it is healthy.
2007-01-13 17:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by chan72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just make it known about how you feel, like be all subtle about it. By retorting each time she says that with "I don't care as long as he/she are healthy" hopefully she will get the point after you say that a few times to her.
2007-01-13 17:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them how you feel. They keep telling you this because thats what they really want is a girl. My mother in law is doing the same thing and its driving me crazy!! Oh and wait for the "you should or shouldn't do this"!!
2007-01-13 17:29:47 · answer #11 · answered by leslieh338 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋