The parent of the other white little girl found out about the trio and told her daughter she can't play with the African American girl. My daughter is upset now because she feels like she has to chose between 2 good friends (who now can't play together like they used to). Any suggestions?
2007-01-13 17:23:49 · 19 answers · asked by spiritualjourneyseeker 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
First of all, someone needs to tell all three girls they can play together at school.
Tell your daughter that some people are racist - they think others aren't as good because of the color of their skin. Tell her you don't agree with racist people because it's wrong to think that way, and encourage her to try and play with both girls at school.
But on second thought, are you sure it's because of race? Maybe the AA girl is a trouble maker, uses foul language, etc. You should talk to the other parent and find out why she made the rule.
2007-01-13 17:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow in this day and age too. I am sorry this is going on. I think you need to realize here though there is not much that you can do. The children themselves are the ones that can solve the problem. They need to make a stand together in a world where adults seem to take charge. I would say pray about this one. My first reaction was this is so dumb, but a lot of white people are still taught strange ideas and they grow up beleiving them. You could start with the school and tell them that there is someone who is being racist. Maybe the teacher or the principal could help. There is no harm in trying.
2007-01-14 16:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parent of the other white girl is a *&%$@ for thinking that. Unless the African American is a mean person, then I understand. But if the mother is saying that based on the African American's skin, then that mother needs a reality check. Perhaps, they should just hang out at school and not tell their parents.
2007-01-14 01:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your little girl that she has to do the right thing even when no one is looking. Sometimes it isn't easy but thats what makes us good people. She needs to know that the other child's parents are racist and that kind of behavior is not acceptable because it is hurtful and that hate not only destroys the person that is being hated but the one who hates. Emphasize that it is not the little girl's fault but, her parents. There are many great books for young children about racism and prejudice and this is a learning experience for all. What you tell her and model for her today will effect the decisions that she makes further in life.
You could, as a family donate the books to the classroom so that the teachers in the school could address the problems.
2007-01-14 14:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really breaks my heart. My daughter is biracial and if any parent said my daughter couldn't play with another because of it, I can't even think about it...
I would tell her she does not has to choose. Be friends with both, take turns with who she can play with at recess, etc. or maybe she can play with a bunch of other kids so no one doesn't have to feel left out, Suggest to her to have 5 or 6 kids play kickball or something like that.
I would def talk to the teacher about and let her know what is going on, maybe she can address the parents but if they are racist, I doubt anything can be done, chances are the little girl might turn out like that too if she is brought up like that.
Maybe you can have the girls over on the weekend or after school separate so she can spend time with both of them and that might ease the pain.
Good luck......
2007-01-14 19:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Willow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd inform the school about what these people said as racism can't be tolerated. It would also give the teacher a chance to discuss why children shouldn't judge people on their race, giving the white child a chance to see that her racist parents aren't right in their views. I'd also have a word to the black child's parents about what was said because they need to discuss this with their child so she isn't left feeling hurt and confused.
I'd encourage your daughter to play with anyone she wants, regardless of race or religion, but if it really does come down to a choice then I'd advise your daughter to stick with the black girl. It's a shame on the white girl but you can't allow your child to mix with racists (otherwise you risk her picking up some nasty ideas) and maybe seeing their daughter miserable will be what it takes for her parents to get a grip on reality and realise there is no place for racism in 2007.
2007-01-14 16:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents of the other white girl are racist. I would set a time up to talk to them. If they are not willing to accept the world as it is now, tell them you will pray for them. Let your daughter know that some people are just living in the past and unable to step ahead. She also will have to cope with only playing with one friend at a time. Bless you and your daughter.
2007-01-14 01:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by justcurious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it is simply amazing to me that in the year 2007 there are still prejudices against the skin color of another individual. There are many, people on this planet, Asian, African American, German, Indian, etc. and we all must learn to get along. We all live on this planet.
She shouldn't have to feel like she has to choose. She can still be friends with both of them. I would hope that you would encourage her to do that. We all need friends and to get along in life.
2007-01-14 09:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by operationspiritlift 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your daughter and tell her what is going on. tell her that there are still racist in this world. If it were me I would tell her that if they all want to play together then so be, just because the parents are crazy dont make your daughter choose, she shouldn't have to.
2007-01-14 01:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW how sad is that, hmmm you should talk to that mom she just took your child's innocence away, welcome to the world of racism. what a shame i would be so angry with that mom and yes i would tell the teacher, the principle and anyone else who will listen, i am so sorry for your little girl, but more sorry for the little girl who's mom is a racist, this is a heartbreaking story
2007-01-14 01:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋