How do you deal with a compulsive liar and you recently started......?

Question

dating him again to find out after all the talking and spending time together he's still lying and messing around but you love him so much it really hurts to let go. We've got passed alot of things but now my kids are telling me along with their girlfriends that he's seeing other women and their saying that he's their boyfriend. And i don't usually put up with crap like this but i've loved him for a long time and it's really hard to just walk away. But he was there when my kids were very small and now he's dating girls their age. He's in his early 30's and the girls are 17-19. I'm so hurt now i don't know what to do and i know that i need to just dump him but how do you get over someone that you have deep emotional ties to. I really don't want to depend on medicine to get me through life but i am so depressed until i feel like that's what i need to do just to keep myself together and i've answered plenty questions like this but now i really don't have the answer for myself. Please help

And i have prayed so hard for us to get back together and even asked God to reveal to me what he's doing if it wasn't right and he's giving me plenty of that as you can see but i still don't want to let it go. Why? I just want to know why do you try to hold on to something that just isn't fair to you?

Answer 1

Honey, I'm you but on the other end. My girls are 8 & 5. I'm done with her effective 1/1/07. We're better than that. Don't stoop to there level. Depressed? Hit the gym. Stay committed to it. You'll turn heads before you know it.

Answer 2

I was in a similiar situation, so I completely understand what you're going through. The thing about compulsive liars is that no matter what you do, you can never change them, and don't even try to convince yourself otherwise. First of all, you need to understand that there are other people out there, other people who deserve you, and who DO NOT lie to you. That's what you want. Tell yourself that you don't need him. It hurts but dump him. Tell him that you deserve better than that in your life and believe it. If you happen to have any letters or anything like that from him, get rid of them. If that's too hard for you right now, then at the very least, do not look through them. Listen to songs with the "I don't need him anyway" theme. To get it off your mind, exercise and hang out with your friends a lot. Dancing is really good, because it's fun, and it makes you feel sexy. If you can't do it, enroll yourself in a bellydancing class. Also, put on a smile. If you look happy, you'll feel happy. Time heals everything. You're strong. You can do it. Good luck to you. I hope it all goes well. :)

Answer 3

OK, so you either dump the inadequate pilchard or just love him so much and beg for him to change and take heaps load of sheite in the process..... you are feeling depressed now as you take this as a rejection.... this is a man who would do this to anyone and everyone... that is the way he is - you deserve better and in maybe a few months you could laugh at this episode - have the strength and dignity to ditch him and move on... things can only get better.

Answer 4

Paleeese!!. You are so much better and deserve a better life. You have no idea that there are great men out there. You hitched your wagon to a loser. Move on now. Life gets better when you realize you have the power. You don't need a man. I had a girlfriend who went out with me once she dumped her old boyfriend. I had no idea and could care less. She told me after we got serious. We broke up after 2 years. I found out that she only dumped me when she had a new man waiting in the wings. What a loser. Don't be the same. Men are attracted to woman who is sure with herself.

Answer 5

ask him how he gets 18-19 year olds and let me know his secret

Answer 6

you need to get strong and sling him it may bring him to his senses and if not you have got rid of a bad lot.

Answer 7

i wish everything gets fine as u expect them to be

Answer 8

YOUR LYING

Answer 9

poop