He's "broken up" with me 3 times in the past 4 years we've been dating. The last time was this past week, and I told him it was over, but he begged me not to and said we could go to counseling to work things out. So I decided to take him back.
Now I don't feel like I'm really in love with him... I suspect that I no longer can trust him to NOT leave me because he's done is numerous times, so if I'm not in love with him and he leaves me again, I won't be upset. It's so strange because when we broke up I was thinking about how much I loved him and I didn't know how I'd go on without him.. now it's like I've gotten over him even though we're dating. Anyone felt like this before? How do I know if I am truly in love with him or if I'm pushing those feelings away just to save myself from future pain?
2007-01-13 17:04:30 · 10 answers · asked by Idaho 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a tough one. I've been in a similar situation; Me and my bf broke up about 8 months ago because I was "so over him" because our relationship had gone to hell and I didn't trust him. We kept in contact evnthough he moved out of state. 6 months after we split we wanted to get back and he moved back here. As soon as he came home I suddenly felt like I didnt' want him or love him and definately couldn't trust him. Well I told myself that those feelings would go away eventually and they did. My biggest issue is the trust and that's getting better. Everything else is fine now. We did agree to go to counseling as well, so you're not crazy for that agreement. I haven't split up as much as you two have but I guess I can only say to stick out and see what comes of it. No relationship is ever easy. I'm sure everyone else will tell you to leave him. Give it some time, a little try, and then i it doesn't work, call it quits. At least you tried.
2007-01-13 17:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by stephyrose87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that once something is broken, no matter how hard you try to glue it back together, it will never be like new.
You both have tried enough times to have your relationship working. When you really love somebody you don't go back and forward. You just stay, solved all issue together, no matter how hard it is....
Also very important: if you feel you cannot trust him, than you have answered yourself: a relationship without a trust will go nowhere. And you want to be off now that you are still young, than wait years and years, throw out your life, and then it is too late.
Remember that trust is the foundation of a true, longlasting and loving relationship. If there is no trust, sooner or later he will break up again....
2007-01-13 17:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Apollonia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's an explanation...he's changed into what you want him to be because he cares about you. The fact that you guys don't understand yet because of your lack of experience in relationships is that although someone CAN change, that doesn't mean they'll be happy with that change in the long run. My opinion is that you'd be better off finding someone that is more like what you want instead of your current bf. He won't like it that you're leaving him initially, but when he matures he'll be thanking his lucky stars that he doesn't have to change himself to be with you.
2016-05-23 23:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clear your mind by doing this... Get a lie detector test! Its only cost 150.00 - 250.00 Its worth it because it'll clear up all lies. You'll no if your wasting your time with him! Do it before you fall back in love! Peace
2007-01-13 17:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by B C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's a tough decision. It really depends on the size of his penis, I'd say if he's bigger than 6 inches, keep him. Otherwise ditch him.
2007-01-13 17:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Bob S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your first mind and stop making the same mistakes over and over.
2007-01-13 17:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling? thats not right. if any relationship needs counseling then it's not worth it. they should fit together like a really easy puzzle. not one of those 3d puzzles! ditch him, find someone else.
2007-01-13 17:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by fuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it time to let go of this one and move on, this back and forth
nonsense is crazy, if you dont have trust then you dont have much of anything any way. time to cut the ties to this one and
go your separate ways,
2007-01-13 17:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to have sex , if the sex is good that meant you still love him if ...leave him and look for another guy quickly
2007-01-13 17:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by z1010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u love him any more........this time , u break up with him...then i geuss u will be able to answer that ?
2007-01-13 17:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by URworstNITEmare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋