My friend came to stay at my house for a visit for a few weeks and we were really excited and so was she. But when she arrived the first few days were fine but then she started to complain about everything including why would I want to be in a committed relationship to the colour of sand at the beach, it wasnt the same colour as in her state. Then she just stopped talking to me and my b-friend and that really pissed us off, cause we would come home from work and she would just go into her room and shut the door, anyway this lasted for a few days and everytime I asked her what was wrong she would say nothing that was just how she was. In the end we had had enough and I comfronted her again and she turned around and said "thats who I am if you don't like too bad", so I turned around and told well she can leave then!
She looked horrified but didn't care cause she left leaving stuff i had bought for her behind. We had been pals 4 nearly 10 years. What do you think was her problem.
2007-01-13 17:03:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She definitely has a problem, and you can't really blame yourself for getting angry with her because she was basically acting like a two year old. I would just let it be for now, and if you want talk to her to do it when you both calm down. Maybe then she'll tell you what was bugging her, and if not...well who really needs that instability.
2007-01-13 17:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years is a hell of a long time to throw away a friendship. It does happen and it happened to me with a miserable friend who pulled the same number on me...I sensed she was jealous of my happiness. It also happened to me once with another friend I knew forever and that friendship remains strong. I cared enough about her to tell her that we were bonded and we knew each other for too long to just stop being friends. I also told her that she could tell me anything and I would always have her back, but she would have to stop disrespecting me. Turns out that she was miserable...at a really down point in her life; I was the person she treated badly because we were close. In the end, I realized it had nothing to do with me and I was willing to forgive her. You have to decide whether this friendship is worth saving and if you are willing to forgive her. If the answer is yes...confront her one more time when you feel in control (via phone or whatever you need to do) and be prepared for her to act childish at first but hopefully she will come through for you and apologize. If she continues to be ridiculous and you feel you've had enough, well...you can't be a punching bag for someone else! Who the hell knows what was on her mind...maybe she wanted more alone time with you...maybe something happened that she hasn't been able to confront yet. Either way, this is clearly not about you and after 10 years you have got to know she isn't insane....she is just clearly not at the most stable time in her life. My opinion is if she has been a great friend for the rest of the 10 years and has supported you in the past, this is obviously not a reflection of who she is and you may want to give her a chance to explain. If she has let you down before...cut your losses.
Good luck!
2007-01-14 01:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As childish as she may have been acting, you shouldn't just let go of a ten year friendship. Chances are if you've been friends for that long you were really close. She probably just feels as though your boyfriend took her place. Try to understand where she's coming from. When two people are in a very serious relationship, they tend to forget all the other people that used to be an important part of their life. Think about it. You can do anything for each other. You can go to him for advice, he can make you laugh, he can make you happy, and on top of all that, he might be having sex with you. She probably feels like you don't need her anymore. I say you should have a talk with her and tell her that no matter who comes in and out of your life, she will always be an important part. Excuse her behavior. People act immature when they're sad or angry.
2007-01-14 01:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by therightanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't know anyone until you live with them. Some people are better at being distant friends than up close and personal. Keep the friendship open, but don't ever invite her to stay with you again.
2007-01-14 01:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by justcurious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be going through a hard time in her life. Write her a letter tell her you care about her and if she needs to talk your there
2007-01-14 01:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by sassygrrll7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No idea. She could be jealous of your relationship with your boyfriend though.. maybe she thought it would just be you girls? Or maybe she feels out of place and is not telling you whats wrong cause she is embarrassed to talk about it... Maybe she started her period?? LOL
2007-01-14 01:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem was that she changed and that's it. Give it some time---she may apologize--if not ----too bad move on and forget it. There is no accounting for what happened----odd to say the least.
2007-01-14 01:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 points
2007-01-14 01:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jesse 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is it possible she was jealous because you spent more time with your boyfriend and she had expected more of your time , I'm just guessing that's a possibility but you would know not I .
2007-01-14 01:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she must have been jealous of you...about being in a committed relationship and she couldn't get over it...
2007-01-14 01:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋