last summer he was acting so wierd and i finally figured from himself that he was cheating on me, not in romance feeling but having casual sex with others, he tried to get back to me 1000 times and i did not call him back or anything for 4 months in row. he said that because of too much alcohol during summer break he could not function or what ever! and after a period of time with exception with got back together and than again a week ago he got back to alcohol and got drunk again, called my best friend and tried to have some kinda dirty talk on phone with her and than he siad the same thing that i was so drunk i know you are going to leave me now but give me another chance if i screwed it you leave me. i know that he is not into my friend cuz i know him for this very good but i am very pissed off now and i dont know what do to, we are both university student and i know that his behaviour is just little different from anybody else kinda hippie but i cant make any decision now anymore.
2007-01-13 16:44:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
bail out now!
2007-01-13 16:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by laurameetsworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
four years with someone is a long time, but if alcohol is involved and it's been happening alot over the past four years than you need to stop and think what is best for you. Being in a relationship where someone blames their actions on alcohol isn't a good one at all. That's there way of copping out and trying to get away with things.you deserve better than that and I'm sure there is other guys yu might be intrested in that dont drink and would be more faithful and less likely to blame there actions on alcohol.Move on and if you want just be friends with the alcoholic just dont stay involved with him because you will eventually get you heart royally broken, and I'm sure you dont want that you want something that will last and be right
2007-01-13 17:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by ekhkygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a different attitude has nothing to do with it seriously!! if he continues this pattern he could end up giving you a nasty STD all it takes is one wrong move and you pay for his mistakes just like he will eventually so please think long and hard, is he really the one for you?are you so in love with him you can forgive? and get past this? i know i was in this situation too a long time ago and every time i took him back he did it again and again it was just a nasty repeated cycle forgive and have it happen until on day i woke up and decided i was worth more than that and i walked away knowing it was not my fault and i deserved to be treated with respect not be treated like sh....t i cant begin to make this choice for you only you can and i wish you all the best as it will not be an easy answer you seek to find take care.
2007-01-13 16:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men just have an addiction for drama!
Usually when someone is like that, there's some history there from the way he was brought up or a bad childhood experience. But aside from making excuses, it's still unacceptable. He needs to learn that there is rarely a second chance in life, and when you get one, you don't throw it away.
You deserve better.
2007-01-13 16:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should actually seem at your self ,and observe in the experience that your imature sufficient to have sex. i recognize i lost mine at 16 and that i favor i had achieved different i comprehend i grow to be so valnuerable with men. they could truly trick you into questioning that your there in trouble-free words one , yet frequently at that age sex is all they favor ... the overall public. only use protectiona nd always placed your self first. He needs you to provide him oral sex,yet in case you do not sense mushy then do not. He shoudl appreciate you and if he would not then he's not nicely worth a even as your nevertheless youthful and theres a lot of fish in the sea! only ascertain you come back first earlier some thing !
2016-10-31 01:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by roca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is obviously not Worthy of your honor, it's time for you to stand up for yourself and stop messing around even with him as a friend. Try following my 5 biblical principles for finding that true guy that will love you for who you are inside first than out! Ask Yourself does he?:
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process. God Bless!
2007-01-13 16:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has done it once his personality won't change and he will do it again. I know this is hard because you have feelings for him but I would get out now so you arn't more hurt later when he does it a fifth, sixth, 50th time. Get out and find someone better who you really deserve.
2007-01-13 16:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it! he's making u look stupid in front of ur friend (the one he was talking to on the phone) but he needs to learn that no female is gonna put up with that. only if u promise to leave him if he does it again thats the only way i recommend u go back with him.
Good Luck
2007-01-13 16:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex bf does that.. i ran away from him.. then he runs after me and begs me.. then i open the door for another chance.. and he breaks up with me again.. and it goes on and on! i have asked several questions on yahoo answers pertaining to this problem of mine.. some of them would say give it another chance.. some would tell you to move on.. if you love someone you could be crazy and stupid in making decisions.. but i figured i have to love myself..
what can i say to you my friend? it's your decision. it's all your call. it doesn't matter what people say. whatever your decision is.... be BRAVE to get hurt.....
we all always move on from everything... looking back we can only live forward....
just remember.. BE BRAVE TO GET HURT...
2007-01-13 16:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY BUTYOU MADE THE RIGHT DECISION THE FIRST TIME YOU LEFT HIM. HE WILL NEVER CHANGE, GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE, THERE ARE OTHER GUYS THAT WILL GIVE YOU THE RESPECT THAT YOU NEED. HIS DRINKING IS JUST AN EXCUSE AND THAT IS IT.. AND THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR A MAN OR A WOMAN IN FACT TO CHEAT ON THEIR MATE.SO IF I WERE YOU I'D KICK HIM TO THE CURVE. GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-13 16:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has a drinking problem that he has to deal with, before you
an deal with anything else. if he does get this together, he will
contijue to do what he doing, and if you really love him then
tell him he need help and until he get it the realtionship is over
he cheating on you and he will contiue to do this until you do
something about it.
2007-01-13 16:54:45 · answer #11 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋