For anyone who says that I am complaining, I AM!!! I just want the wealthy to know that there are people who are out there (like I am), who have actually tried to BETTER themselves and their lifestyles-- by going to college! Both my fiancee are college graduates with bachelor's degrees and are still RAMEN-EATING POOR! We both have jobs (of which our "so necessary" college led us into), but it barely covers our bills much less buy the groceries we need...
I am trying to plan our wedding because I just found out I was pregnant, and all that we can afford is a Justice of the Peace wedding...
I just love how people stress college and how great you have it after is, but we are both left with a mortgage, approx. $35,000 debt for our college education EACH, and the price of the ever so popular GAS that seems to be rocketing!
Is anyone as upset as me after they worked so hard to get where everyone else says it's "Heaven" after graduating from college???
Please help me vent! Thanks!
2007-01-13 16:28:08 · 7 answers · asked by Tasha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thank you everyone for helping me see the "light at the end of the tunnel!" Look at what some jerks put in response to the same question that I posted somewhere else:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArdCTgOQtdG79JSsRlhNjdfsy6IX?qid=20070113214046AA4bwf5
2007-01-14 14:57:03 · update #1
I think at one time it was beneficial to go to college, like when everything was cheaper and cost of living didn't exceed the amount you make. Unfortunately it seems everyone is struggling, with everything going up and no company's up their pay enough to cover cost of living. My fiance and I are also doing the JP wedding Feb. 16th 2007, we have 3 kids and work our asses off so we can have the bare minimums. Money sucks, debt sucks and sometimes the only thing keeping me sane is that I have a wonderful man and 3 wonderful kids, and every Wednesday and Saturday night I have some hope that those damn powerball numbers are going to match the ones I have on the paper. Smile, because there is ALWAYS someone out there that has it worse than you!!! Good luck with your marriage and stay away from credit cards!!!
2007-01-13 16:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by imalwysrite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think when everyone is talking to students in high school about college they just tell you to go anyway you can they should talk to students more about the debt you will have after. You are really in a tough place but it is not about the wedding it is about the marriage. I think a Justice of the Peace wedding is a great place to start and most people I know that did it that way lasted longer than people that had big expensive weddings. Girls that have to have their fairy tale weddings expect a fairytale life and get disappointed. I can tell you have your feet on the ground and I know you will find a creative way to make your day special. Nothing beats being poor and in love you will look back on this time one day and wonder how you survived it and you would not trade it for anything.
2007-01-13 17:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by puzzled 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Happened to me and I embrace you with open arms. Poor dear, it is disheartening. My husband of a year and I drove to Gatlinburg, TN with barely $500 and had a very county-fied wedding/honeymoon. We are still eating Ramen Noodles as well and did so on our honeymoon as well so that we could afford the gas and other expenses. After years of struggle I somehow thought it would work out only to realize that while my husband has taken the plunge and started grad school this semester neither of us has been able to find work yet. We've been told to "move somewhere". First of all, where is "somewhere" and exactly how are we supposed to afford the gas to interview in somewhere much less move there? It is absolutely ghastly and the only thing I can say that is good is that we have each other and the major retailer he works for (for barely minimum wage) offers insurance. So, at least we can afford our anti-depressants and therapy. Vent all you like dear, I agree that you need to and deserve every opportunity to have at it! Email me if you would like to vent more.
2007-01-13 16:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Valrosa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep working at it - you're not "there" yet. Without the struggle you'll never appreciate the goal.
My dad used to tell me that, "If there was never a rainy day, you'll never appreciate the sunshine".
If all you can afford is the JP wedding, make the most of the wedding (ceremony) and plan the most awesome vows and make it really meaningful. It's all about the marriage and very little about the party and the gifts. Al that's just fluff.
Then, after (insert number of years here) and your husband's career has taken off and your child has been raised, renew your vows and celebrate the success you've worked so hard to enjoy.
(FYI - this is coming from a woman who has worked hard all her life, always paid her own way and was widowed young and raised 2 kids alone...)
2007-01-14 04:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
right now i know u dont believe it but it gets better, not much, but it does. my saying is "this too shall pass" we all have done the college thing and most of my friends have been downsized more than twice from fortune 500 type companies. what is really bad is when u can afford steak but keep geeting ramen noodles cause u never know when the steak money is gonna stop again. that is no way to live. i am gonna find a nice civil position and not worry about climbing the ladder anymore. its safer at the bottom :)
good luck on that wedding, enjoy that baby and this to will pass!!!
2007-01-14 12:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by ray g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went to college to be an accountant, I am now a photographer.. go figure. But the rich don't care, Mommy & Daddy bought their education they don't know what the word "student loan" means.
2007-01-13 17:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you.
Congratulations to you both
for the wedding and the baby.
I hope your financial situation gets better.
Stay positive. You have alot to be happy about.
2007-01-13 17:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by LostVega$ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋