Do you have an alcoholic father?

Question

Its hard sometimes with my father being drunk alot... how do you deal with it?

Answer 1

It is very hard.
Get support, make sure a school counselor knows your situation.
Also, look into Al-ateen, that will help a lot!

Answer 2

Sweetheart,
I am 22 years old. My father has been an alcoholic his whole life. Very abusive, he has been in and out of rehab most of the time that I have spent around him. It is very hard to deal with, cause when they are sober, they make promises, and tell you things to get their hopes up, then they get drunk, and crush your dreams. You are stronger than that. I really hope that one day he will realize that he is also hurting everyone around him too. Especially the ones that he loves. I don't know how old you are, but when I finally realized what was going on I was 13. It is very hard, but keep you head up. Please also keep in mind that alcohol is not the way to live life. The way I dealt with it is i just figured in my mind that I am not going to be like that when I get older, and always no matter what tried to keep a positive attitude.

Good luck, and I'm sorry

Answer 3

I do not have an alcoholic father, however, my mother's boyfriend is ALWAYS drunk. I hate it, I hate him. It's nearly impossible to deal with, and I wish that I could tell you a really could way of dealing with it but I can't, because I don't know one. The way that I deal with it is just to ignore him. It works well for me, but I'm sure that it's even more difficult when you are related to the alcoholic. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. If you would ever like to talk you can feel free to message me.

Answer 4

I had a man who was married to my mom, will never call him a step father. He was an alcoholic, bad. I was young, and I didn't deal too well with it. All you can do is be strong. I hope he is not abusing you in any way. Have you tried to talk to your mom about this? Maybe she sees this, but needs to hear how it is affecting you. If you are in school, you might talk to your counselor, they could help you out and even give you resources on where you could go to seek help or advice. Take care of yourself first and fore most, but seek help, don't keep it in, in the end it could hurt you more than any thing else. Trust me on that one. Good Luck

Answer 5

Yes.
1.When he is not drunk show him to some one who is drunk and tell him that when he is drunk he is more boring than that person that he has seen.
2.Take your father to a doctor only after you visit the doctor first and tell the doctor to tell your father that he has some serious medical faults that is a cause of drinking and tell the doctor to convince your father to kick the habit.
3.Or approach your father and threaten him that if he doesn't quit that you will start the habit of drinking.

:)

Answer 6

No, I don't have an alcoholic father, but I've been around many family members who are.

If you can, depending on age and transportation, I'd highly recommend you go to a support group for children of Alcohalics.

Call this number, it doesn't cost your parents to call it. It's 1-800-577-4393. Tell them that your father is an alcohalic and you want to know where in your town, there is a support group for children of alcohalics.

If they don't know, then call your local community hospital and ask to talk to one of their Social Workers, tell them you want to know if they can tell you where a group for children of alcoholics is that you can go to for free. Drug treatment centers in your area may offer a group as well and there are free groups. Talking with other kids your age who are in the same situation, in a group will help a ton.

REMEMBER you are not responsible for this problem and it's not your job to hide your fathers drinking. You are also not alone, you'll be surprised at how many other young people are in your same situation.

You are not responsible nor are you the cause of your fathers drinking or the anger and other problems you may live with in your home because of his addiction.

If when he is drunk he hurts you, then you need to tell on him and get help for yourself; whether he will accept help or not is up to him. You can never beg or get a drunk to promise they'll not drink. YOU NEVER DESERVE TO BE ABUSED.

You just do your best for you, only he can fix him, you cannot and should not try to fix him. His addiction controlls him right now and only when he's sick enough with himself and his addiction will he chose to get help.

Love him, but do not help him by hidding his alcohol or lying for me.

FIND a group soon! GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

I am sorry about this problem. I know what you are going through! My mom was an alcoholic years ago & she died from cirrhosis of the liver from alcoholism. If I were you, I would try to get my dad &/or myself in to counseling. Or, maybe a place where he could "dry out." But, he has to want to quit drinking to "dry out." Also, try to be gone &/ or go in your bedroom & shut yourself off from the situation when he is drunk. Also, God hears our prayers, so you may want to pray about that situation. There is POWER IN PRAYER!! This is the advice I give you. Hope it helps you!!!

Answer 8

I did. He died when I was only 22. I didn't have a dad to walk me down the aisle, or be there when I had any of my kids. It was sad.

I lost my mom years later.

How did I cope? I didn't cope well. I never brought people over because I never knew what to expect. I went out a lot to get away from it.

There are support groups called ACOA, Adult Children of Alcoholics for people like you and me. They help. You have to grow up so quickly you lose part of yourself and your childhood.
Pray for you Dad. I hope things get better.

Answer 9

I grew up with an alcoholic father. I loved him but I didn't like him. I never really listened to a word he had to say. When I was younger I was attracted to carbon copies of him, because I couldn't save him I tried to save them? When you are older you will understand. Guard your heart. You can't "fix" anybody. Take care of you first.

Answer 10

My dad is and he is very angry drunk i have just tried ignoring him go to my room shutting the door. Not being at home as much. The res not really anyway around it to much but its something People learn to live with unfortunately