my husband did this to me and now i need help to help him and give advise to him. i want to raise our child the christian way but he doesnt.
2007-01-13 16:26:04 · 15 answers · asked by tbfox3 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
As the wife it is your responsibility to honor your husband. You should still be able to raise your child in the manner which honors God this should not annoy your husband because it is only doing what is best for the child. You and the child should still be able to go to church (Sunday school) and still have time to do what your husband would like to do. I would not suggest coming on strong re Christianity with him but let your ways be your testimony to your faith. Give him time and continue to pray for his relationship with the Lord.Do not provoke him to anger but tell him your faith is real to you and you cannot compromise it or it will not have any value. He knew what you stood for before marriage that has not changed. Hope you can work it out.
2007-01-13 16:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Steiner 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is a lot more to this than relogious belief. There are a lot of values, core beliefs and attitudes that come into play. Religion can be interpreted in many different ways but there when it comes to decisions around children things get "real".
You and he need to talk these issues out in detail and it sounds like you need help. You can talk to religious counselors ( which may have a particular bias one way or the other) and or professionals. Your choice but my gut tells me you need help talking through it. The kids always come first.
2007-01-14 00:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by consultant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that your husband lied to you about his religion? You've got WAY more problems than how your children will be raised. Deal with the trust issues before you breed.
2007-01-14 00:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get professional help and preferably a person who is a Christian.
2007-01-14 00:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Midge 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible. If he lied about that, how many other things has he lied about that you don't know about? Think about that one. I hope you can figure out the answer. I don't know what to tell you, but you should beware for sure! Good Luck & God Bless.
2007-01-14 00:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by dravensmama1216 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How does he want to bring the child up ?
2007-01-14 00:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to a counselor about this; your husband deliberately deceived you and it will take a long time to get over this.
2007-01-14 00:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well hard to say.
you make the standard agreement with him you take them to church and sunday school pointing out the benefits (good behaviour) and agree that kids make their own choice at 14.
or you divorce.
2007-01-14 00:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah if ur married to him you should be able to be straight forward with each other, and if he lied to you, that's not cool. You need to have a one on one sit-down convo about it, and talk ur way through it. If he doesn't give in, then Idk what to tell you, it may not work out.
2007-01-14 00:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by baller 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He only told you what you wanted to hear. He wanted to get into your pants, and if marrying you and lying to you is the only way, then by golly gee, that's what he would do. I would divorce him.
2007-01-14 00:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋