My mom bought me this big jacket cause it been getting cold lately and she though i needed a better coat. It was too big and it really was a boys jacket so i asked her if i could exchange it for something else. She got really offended and said that i was ungrateful and all of my family agreed. Was i wrong for not wanting it? There reactions really hurt my feelings and now i feel like im being a brat. Was i wrong what do you guys think?
2007-01-13 16:18:49 · 39 answers · asked by nobody 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i don't think so and i am a 40 year old mom. your mom probably does not remember what it was like to be a teenager. i went shopping with my kids last night and they told me that if i thought it was cute, then it is definitely ugly. ;-) i remember that i hated wearing clothes that my mom thought were cool. the fact that you want to please your mother tells me that you love her and you are not ungrateful. i think it is great that you want to please her and i think it is great that you were honest with her that you didn't like the style.
2007-01-13 16:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by laura c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not believe you were being ungrateful if the jacket was too big for you. If the weather is cold where you are, then you do need a jacket to fit so that it will keep you warm and maintain your body heat.
Talk to you Mom and let her know that you really ARE grateful for the jacket, but just want to exchange it for a smaller size so that you can remain warm in the cold weather.
If you are honest and respectful when speaking with her, I feel that she will then understand that you are not being ungrateful, but just need the right size jacket.
2007-01-13 18:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by BoilBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I would say to her. "Hey mom, I'm sorry if I seemed unthankful for that coat. I am very thankful for you and that you cared enough for me to go out of your way to buy it for me. Mom, the last thing I want to do is hurt your feelings, and you may not be aware of this, but did you know that this is a boys coat? It makes me feel funny wearing a boys coat. Also, its too big. Are you wanting me to wear this coat even though I feel funny and uncomfortable"? Get her response. If you do this in the right attitude, I think she will be more likely to understand. Good Luck. :)
2007-01-13 16:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you were being honest and polite by asking her if you could exchange it. It would have been different if you just gagged at it then exchanged it without her knowing then surprising her with it. You tried to say the least. Besides, you'll be the one wearing it, I'd rather give you you something you like than force you to wear it just to keep myself happy. That's the hard part about accepting or getting things from other people sometimes. You don't always have the same tastes.
2007-01-13 16:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Skypride 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are ungrateful. I just think you hurt your mom's feelings. You might tell her how much you appreciate her thinking of you and going out and getting you a coat. You might tell her that you were just wanting to exchange it for another coat that fits a little better. I wouldn't go out and exchange it for anything else though.
2007-01-13 16:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by leahcutie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say based on this one incident...if this is pattern behavior for you, then I'd have to side with your family.
But...taken at face-value, I'd say you are not being ungrateful. A boy's jacket that is too big is just a waste of money if you will not wear it. Nothing wrong at all with wanting to exchange it for something you will use and wear, as long as it is comparable in price.
2007-01-13 16:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are. Either way, you may really have appeared ungrateful. You didn't demand a new coat, she bought one for you on her own. I'm sure you can choose when you can pay.
My daughter reacted the same way, but she helped pick it out. She still complained that it wasn't THE coat she wanted.
When we (parents) know there are children WITHOUT coats at all, we feel shocked when kids refuse to be warm because of BRAND.
2007-01-13 16:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jasmine Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say they need to be a little more understanding. But on the other hand do you know your mother is like this ? I know my mom is kinda like that. My mom has this notion that a gift is a gift and you keep it till the day you die... I would say use this as a learning experience. You dont need her approval to exchange it, most stores if it is new will allow you to swap it for an equal item. Maybe just kindly ask her where she bought it then swap it on your own
2007-01-13 16:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by Dylan m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think so. If, you just want to get something that fits you better, is a more comfortable fit and probably keeps you warmer.
Ungrateful would be exchanging it for jewelry or an MP3 player. Something not in the intent of the original gift. That's the difference.
2007-01-13 16:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by charley128 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in a way it was. I mean, your mom I think seemed very excited when she bought the coat and gave it as a srprise to you and thought you might like it. Maybe while buying it she was imagining you being so grateful. She was hurt and quite disappointed because it turned out that you didn't like the coat; and she didn't expect it. But that's just how I interpret it! And well it looked like you're just being practical. But maybe just keep the jacket. You might need it someday.
2007-01-13 16:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not ungrateful for the coat; your mom's taste is not the same as yours. Just as my mother's feeling were hurt the same way and then mine got hurt the same way. And one day your daughter will hurt your feelings. It's all just part of life.
Talk with her privately. Explain that you love her for getting you a coat, but could you please get what you like? She'll get over it. (And maybe tell the rest of the family to butt out.)
2007-01-13 16:24:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋