I am 23 years old and I do live with my parents. I am right at 6 months pregnant and the father and I have had some problems. We have worked them out but cant live togather at the moment. My Mother refuses to let me even talk to him or she is going to kick me out and I have no where else to go. So now we are having to act like 15 year old teenagers hiding and sneaking around. What can I do? My mom is very adament about me not seeing or talking to him or I will be kicked out. I love my parents but I cant live like this. I mean him and I will be togather soon and what am I suppose to say. "Hey mom I am leaving" I dont want to so it that way. We have had so so so many fights on this and I just want some peace. Please Help.
2007-01-13 16:01:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He has a job but at the moment is also living with parents, we lived and worked togather(at the same place) for 2 months but had lived togather before that for 6 months, we quit the job to come back home when we found out I was pregnant because we wanted to be closer to out families.
2007-01-13 16:14:18 · update #1
Go to your friends house or take a new house if you have that much finance going away for a while will calm things down.
2007-01-13 16:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by neil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you,
I was in a situation sort of like that, accept, I am a guy, and my mom took the woman's side. The girl that I got pregnant and myself never really got along, anayways, your parents need to realize that you are infact 23 years old and that you are your own person and you are going to do what ever you want to do. My mom kicked me out cause of everything. She is just trying to protect you. Or so she thinks. I would try to sit her down and just talk to her, and let her know that yes, it did take two people to make the baby, and that you do want the father in your childs life. It is hard to do this by your self, trust me, I am a single father, and it is definatly not the easiest thing in the world, and I am only 22. Now, I have my own place and what not, but it took some time for my mom because I did go against her wishes and didn't do what she wanted. When you do know you have a safe place to go for you and your child, then would be the time for you just to talk with your mom. If the world comes down around you, at least you will have somewhere to start.
Good luck.
2007-01-14 00:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know that she is only doing what she is doing because she cares for you, even if she is not handling things right. Unfortunately, she has the upper hand in that she does have the right to kick you out, even if it is the wrong thing to do. Try your best to preserve a good relationship with you mom, without letting her control you. You should try to move out so you can be free to make your own choices without her controlling you. If that is not possible, than you need to talk to her and try to come to another solution. If it is not possible to move out, since you need a place to stay, you may be forced to live there under her conditions, however, I would let her know how it makes you feel to be treated like a 15 yr. old. Have some good ole mom and daughter talks where you try to convey to her how you feel and you try to understand how she feels. Unite with her as a team to try and resolve your current life's situation. Maybe try for come compromises. Hope this helps. :)
2007-01-14 00:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost 23 and I live at home, also. Now, I have no rules or restrictions at all... but I don't go around actin' a fool.
I think it's very deceitful of you to sneak around your parents back. Your momma knows what's best for you and if she doesn't want you exposed to this joker, then there's a darn good reason for it.
Ultimatly, every thing has rules, if you don't want to obey them, fine, but you have to deal with the consequences.
I don't care if your parents insist you stand on your head and whistle dixie every morning - that's the price you pay for living in their house. Deal. and grow up. You admit to acting like a 15 year old, why shouldn't you be treated as such!?!?!?!
2007-01-14 00:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by Tiff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does the father of the baby have a job and a place of his own to live? Has he been abusive to you? Do you work? If the answer to the first question is yes- you are an adult and you can choose to live where you want to, so if he IS NOT abusive to you- move in with him, if you have a job then look for a cheap place to rent and go talk to Planned Parenthood about getting assistance for you and the baby. And maybe tell mom " please I am an adult and can make decisions on my own- but I do not want to fight about this with you anymore so PLEASE do not bring it up again or I will be forced to move out whether you approve of where I go or who I see or not"The stress your under is not good for the baby either.Good Luck !
2007-01-14 00:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by buffster06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you ask a really close friend if you can stay with them for a little while and ur mum should be glad that you are still talking to the father of ur child. every child needs a father and ur mum needs to wake up to her self and see that
2007-01-14 00:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of your parents' house. If you live with them you have to live by their rules. You are playing adult games so live like a grown-up. Move out.
2007-01-14 00:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take some advice, ardent advice from a spinster seamstress, with attitude.....................Mind your manners and obey your mother.
2007-01-14 00:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by marysoilex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋