ok so I am in love with this guy and he loves me. He even told me that he was in love with me but....he has a girlfriend and he loves her too. He told me that he is in love with me and his girlfriend. I really want him really badly. Like really badly. How can I win him over? I know that sounds mean but...love is worth fight for right??
2007-01-13 15:45:18 · 37 answers · asked by dancingurl_22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is worth fighting for, for sure.. but it has to be a two-way street.. He has to love only you and want to fight for you too..
So who are you going to fight him for and how..??? This girlfriend,,, how you going to fight her??.. How?? When hearts have to be broken to gain what you what... is it really worth fighting for?? When you have to resort to doing dirty-work to get your man, does it make it right? I don't think so. How can love be worth it when we inflict pain and suffering to others. If he loves you as he says, Let him choose you, then you will know that he truly loves you. When you have not done a thing to wrongfully seduce him, when you have not lifted a finger, and used no magic on him, or curses on her, and without seduction of any kind, bribery, or purchases of anything, he came to you.
I would rather have a man that chose me and loved me and no other, than a man I had to twist his arm to choose me. How could I trust that he would stay faithful if he did not choose me ?? How could I trust he would remain with me..?? or that he really really loved me.. I would always wonder.. I bet you will do. Love is too precious to play games..wait and have patience.. you are worth it and your love is worth it too.
Good Luck.
2007-01-13 16:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference between love and infatuation. Emphatuation is those good "feelings" you get when you like someone alot. We can get those feelings over a puppy, or a new car, or a new job. Those "feelings" is not what makes for a good relationship. Every divorce started with a marriage that had those "special feelings". Love however, is when those feelings bring you to a place where you are willing to make a "choice" to be committed to someone forever. In good times and bad, better or worse, sickness and health or whatever. Love is a "choice" to be committed to the other person and to be willing to make sacrifices in order to help make their life as happy and fulfilling as can be. If this guy loved you enough to make a "choice" to be committed to you, than he wouldn't have another girlfriend. He says he loves his girlfriend. If he did, he would be committed to her and not be connecting with you. If he leaves his girlfriend for you, than you have a guy who will probably leave you for another girl. Is that what you want in a permanent mate? Besides, if you have to fight for someone to leave thier girlfriend, and fight for their love, something is wrong. Know what I mean? Hope this helps. :)
2007-01-13 16:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation, in your case you need to back off and if he really loves you he will make himself single and come to you. Don't try to break them up its bad karma. Just tell him You have a girlfriend so I am not going to mess with you, don't give any ultimatums. Lose all contact for a while if he doesn't break up with his woman than that's that he likes her more or loves her to much and doesn't want to hurt her. How would you feel if a guy was doing this to you, being dishonest, if he does it to her he can do it to you. wait it out don't be scandalous
2007-01-13 15:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In that case no.
He is probably BSing you to be able to have both of you. Even if that is not the case it's BAD NEWS. Trust me on this. Walk away. Plus I seriously doubt either of you really know what true love is. How could you possibly love a guy that is with someone else? If he's with someone else then he's not giving you all of himself so therefore you probably don't even really know him well enough to truly love him. What you're feeling is LUST.
Trust me. Don't take my advice and I'll bet you a million one day you'll wish you did.
2007-01-13 15:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by DiRTy D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That all depends how serious he's with his girlfriend. You can love more than one person but, you can and should be only with one. Is this guy true to you or his girlfriend cause sometimes he may want his g/f and u cause what you don't have his g/f has and what his g/f don't have you do. You know what I mean. Think it over.
2007-01-13 15:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by art_girlt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy may think he's in love with you, but obviously not enough to leave his girlfriend. He's just stringing you along. You need to let him go and get on with your life. You deserve better. If he was as in love with you as you are with him then he would have left his girlfriend already.
2007-01-13 15:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by ~Chozengirl~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty I think u should leave him alone cuz im sure hes tellin u he loves u but doesnt think twice about u when hes wit his girl so u should just go ahead and find somebody else thas gonna love u and only u and doesnt have a girl
2007-01-13 15:50:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is worth fighting for if it really is love,it sound like he does
not know what he want, and trust me, if he cant decide who
he want, then fighting for him would do nothing, he playing
games and you need to move on. if he play both side then
he no good, he need to make a decision. not you fighting for
'him, when he really not worth the fight.
2007-01-13 15:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be, but not in your case. You need to leave them alone. You don't love him, you love yourself. If you loved him, you would want him to be happy. He's already happy in his relationship. If he wants two women, he's a player and you need to stay away from him. He will do the same thing to you if you date him.
Find a single guy who isn't a player. Don't be a homewrecker. Good night!
2007-01-13 15:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD!! how naive could you possible be?! he doesn't love none of you girls, he's a player and you are just falling into his trap. He knows he can have you both, so I am sure he will not leave his girlfriend for you. Wake Up Girl!! you can do better than that!
2007-01-13 15:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by fun 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋