Last year, when I was 12, I was a straight A student and was really cheery and always making people happy and was always around my family and just a good kid! Now this year, I am just so stubborn and bratty and never doing anything and all I can think about is guys and dating and texting friends and now I am getting terrible grades! Bunches of C's and some D's! My mom is really pissed at me too all the time and it's making me depressed because I never talk to my family because they're so mean grounding me for doing stupid things like making out which they say is wrong at my age which I think is so gay!!! I just am not the same! I am so irresponsible now too! I just can't seem to do anything right anymore or even be nice to any of my family! They say I have changed and I don't know why!?!?!? please help!
2007-01-13 15:03:53 · 27 answers · asked by ~V@NN@H~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
youre a teenager now---your mind and body are going through a lot of changes----I have two teens and one on the way---so first thing i wanna tell you is stop being so hard on yourself----next--try your best to respect your parents----last----chill out----someday this will all be in the past---remember most times we magnify our problems and make them bigger than they have to be---you will be ok----blessings
2007-01-13 15:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a part of life, puberty, it sucks! You know you are doing this stuff, but you don't do anything to change it then you like who you are becoming. Making out is too young for a 12 year old! You haven't even started life, why are you trying to grow up soooo fast. You have your entire life ahead of you. Respect what your parents say. Stop with the boy chasing and buckle down and get your grades back up. The less time you have talking to friends and boys, the more time you'll have for your studies and family. You might see you still can enjoy the best things in "tween" years and not be grounded for it all. Make wise decisions!
2007-01-13 23:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by lil' miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think my daughter is headed in the same direction. She's 12 and I already see the signs of all you mentioned. I think it's a part of puberty for girls. Try not to over-think it. When you've acted poorly, be strong enough to go back and apologize for your tone of voice. It'll mean a lot, and show to others that you're maturing. Being too stubborn to admit when you're regretful only shows immaturity. Admitting how you feel is a good first step. Your parents are "gay" about making out because they're concerned you may go too far with it. Remember, your parents were 13 years old once, and they want you to have better experiences than they had.
2007-01-13 23:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by ezpaced 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful at this age.
What's happening is you're listening to your piers more than your family.
Yourr friends, your boy friends, your school surroundings, your e-mails, your tecxt messages, all these are goint interfere with your life.
You're making yourself to open to the public. You have to reserve yourself, make yourself more difficult to get to.
The more you open yourself up to others the more pressure you're going to experience.
Take your parents guidance, they're trying to prevent you from losing yourself to others.
What I mean is you will gradually begin to feel lost without your friends around you. You are currently drifting away from yourself, your character. You are allowing other people to change your character, and this is where most teenagers make the turn for the worse.
Focus on your school, focus on a sport that you like, make sure your friends are uplifting you, have good characters, personalities.
Friends are very difficult to come by.
When all goes sour it's your family that's going to stand beside you and help you, not your friends.
Ask your parents to help you get back to where yoou were, and ask them to help you find an activity that you can excell in that's fun for you.
Turn around and go back.
2007-01-13 23:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by JOHN S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls at your age it happens especially now a days,so you should be careful try to control yourself and also because you see your friends doing the same or you think you are grown up.but in life every thing start with a baby step,my advice to you is to slow down and take more time for your study think and also know this will help to bring you and you family together again.
2007-01-13 23:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Fatumata D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. First thing: Stop complaining and groaning and moaning over your family's values. Second: Stop worrying about boys. Third: Work harder on your school work - that's the only way you'll get your grades up. Hasn't anyone told you that before? Fourth: You've "changed" probably because you're going through what one would call puberty. Nothing is wrong with you.
2007-01-13 23:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by spazzy_elf07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you're a teenager. Teenagers change. I get b*tchy alot too, everybody goes through it ^^ As for the grades, just put a little more effort into it. Dating isn't your number one priority right now.
And.."gay" literally means...
1.having or showing a merry, lively mood: gay spirits; gay music.
2.bright or showy: gay colors; gay ornaments.
3.given to or abounding in social or other pleasures: a gay social season.
4.homosexual.
5.of, indicating, or supporting homosexual interests or issues: a gay organization.
I just needed to add that ^^ I get offended when people say things are gay, because I have gay friends and they are amazing. <33
2007-01-13 23:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by Oh noes! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Puberty. And I hate to tell you, but your parents are right, about everything. You, being 12-13, just don't know any better. When you grow up, you'll realize what an *** you were and it will suck. Since you realize this is a problem, why don't you fix it?
2007-01-13 23:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sterling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just wut evety one seems to go through at this age. im 13 too. and i have the same kinda problems. im like never concerned about homework or schoolwork, mostly my friends and myspace and tv and that kinda stuff. but somehow, i always get all my work done and i get mostly As and Bs. but when i was like, 10. i was a strait a student in all gt classes, i could accually play my instrument really well (i suck now and i quit cuz i never practice) and i was genuinely happy. but at age 13, u (and i)(and most other 13 year olds) are all to concerned with our personal lives and worrieng about that and school work and extra curricular activities and wutever else u may have going on, makes everyone stressed out and sometimes we all act like b****es (are we allowed to cuss on here, cuz other people always put in the little stars) and i dont know why being this age makes us hate our family and be all mean to them but it does and im mean to my family too sometimes (except my brother cuz hes only a couple years younger than me and we usually get along, hes kinda like a friend). but for sum strange and bizarre reason, everyone goes through a time in their lives like this, and its very likely that their are other people out their who are just like u ( my friends mother thinks that me and my friend are really similar cuzz of the way we act cuz i yelled at my mom when my friends mom wuz over one time, but ive always thought we were completly opposite people) so its just being this age and all that makes us this way. good luck with life.
2007-01-14 00:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u sound exactly like me (except 4 being mean 2 fam) but the thing is there's nothing wrong with u ppl jsut cahnge and it sounds like u have ur hormones raging... the best tip is to take 15 secs b4 u actually say or do anything and take a breath.
2007-01-13 23:09:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, take responsibility for your actions.
You know exactly why you are failing, you aren't doing your work and studying.
You know exactly why you aren't spending time with your family, you're too busy talking to your friends and worrying about boys.
You know exactly why your family is mad at you, you aren't doing what you are supposed to.
You are too young to make out, you can't handle liking a boy and your school work, how can you possibly handle making out and sex?
2007-01-13 23:09:41 · answer #11 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋