I love my best friend,how can I tell if he likes me without asking? Based on these signals..?

Question

I met this guy years ago thru a mutual friend. He was really funny - we didn't really hang out that much, he had a girlfriend etc, but we were acquaintances. I didn't think anything romantic about him, he was just someone cool to talk to. I moved away and we kept up chatting online a lot, about everything. The following year I went back for a visit (im a year older than him) and he invited me to his prom (as friends) during that time we hung out a bunch had fun, drank a lot, went skinny dipping - but nothing happened we just liked being stupid together. That was a couple years so I hadn't seen him since then and we still talked tons online and I went back in Sept. for a week and we hung out every day, he invited me over to his house and made dinner, we went skinny dipping again, he always opened the door for me, paid for stuff, etc. Nothing happened although there were times when he said i was sexy or touched my face in a certain way. I realized I had feelings for him. Now what?

I'm 22. The biggest problem is that we are far apart again. I feel like if we were in the same zipcode things would develop naturally. I dont want to say i like him online because we cant do anything anyway. I mentioned maybe we should go to europe and work somewhere for awhile when he graduates this spring.he said hed consider it. i guess i should just leave things alone until we are together again? is it stupid and poiintless to confes smy love thousands of miles apart? i feel if we were together and i flirted more if he was interested we would hook up and go from there.but far apart..although id like to say "i like you, lets be together and give it a try" but i dont know, guys get weirded out.

Also this is kind of important - he's been drunk dialing me a lot lately (well he hasnt in like two weeks..but before that he was calling me literally every weekend for two months straight) at like 5 am just to say hed been out drinking and what he had done that night bla bla. nothing like im thinking of you i like you, but the fact that he did it so regularly for so long made me wonder? plus we flirt online as much as possible, like we joke about getting married if were 30 and still single, or ill be like ooh im just wearing a tshirt and hell be like oh stop turning me on, but like in a JOKING way you know? well im seriously flirting hahah but i dont know if he is! and if he is..is it just friendly and playful or does he want something more serious?

Answer 1

I had the same exact thing happen to me about 10 years ago. I ended up marrying the guy! We have been married for 7 years now and just had our second kid. My advise to you would be to wait for him to make the first move. But let me tell you, dating a guy whom you have been best friends with for a while is so much different and so much better than any relationship you could imagine. I hope it works out for you two!!

Answer 2

Well, there is always the way to clue him in. Though I'm really not a boy, there are some ways to give him a cue. Since I'm in love with a couple of boys at collage, I found out that guys love to eat and do really 'fun stuff' with the ones the usually end up marring, Vice versa for girls.

Answer 3

Wow that doesn't make sense sure he isn't gay and was looking at your face to see how your makeup looked.Ha Ha just kidding.I Not sure . It could be that he likes just having you for a friend and feels like if he makes a move he will ruin the friend ship .Women are extremely difficult for men to understand.Let tell you how hard they to understand from a male point of view.First this is gonna sound strange but I 'm a physic and a extremely gifted in-path.But if try to use my inpathic ability's on women it simply does not work!And I swear I think it is because women lie allot and dont take offence this only an opinion I may be wrong .Men lie too but I think they lie for differant reasons.Just like me for example I liked this one women who works at the supermarket here in Juneau AK were i live and I swore she liked me so today i decied to ask her out .I thought for sure she would say yes. Instead she looked at me like I was totally insane.And didn't say anything just shook her head like she couldn't believe I asked her that .Needless to say I left the store feeling like I was about an inch tall.

My best advice to you is men are tired of making the first move and being turned down .I think you should make the move on him.

Answer 4

You have to be certain that he has the same feeling towards you before you lay it on him.
If you flirt around you have to be very careful to not tip him off or you might ruin your friendship. Maybe get a mutual friend to ask him why he isn't romantically interested in you? That might make his light bulb turn on.
I used to go skinny dipping on occasion with friends--didn't mean a thing.

Answer 5

If I went skinny dipping with a girl I liked, trust me... she would know I liked her right then and there. She would get something similar to rug burn on her ***, but slightly different due to the different texture of the pool steps.

Answer 6

Well it sounds like you and him should give a relationship a try.I mean really who goes skinny dipping with their best friend?Since you both saw each other naked allready you should go for it.(for some odd reason I think you allready did)Before I give you anymore advice,how old are you?!

Answer 7

take a big swallow gather ur guts and all ur courage and tell him how you feel. I know easier said then done but that's the only way u;ll knwo 1 way or the other. Good luck :)

Answer 8

maybe just the courage up and ask him because u dont wanna waste ur life on someone that doesnt love u everyone can do better i hope it works out

Answer 9

Ask him how he feels back. Don't worry about the whole "What if I get rejected?" It's a part of life (sorry, it is), you'll move on.

Answer 10

friends is friends and in my experience these situations tend to end up in misery and regret. Sorry but it's the best I have to offer.