2007-01-13 14:22:20 · 24 answers · asked by rasckal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to involve yourself in something other than looking for a date. Get involved in physical exercise (we like guys who are in great shape!), take classes, volunteering, or other things outside of your normal work or school routine.
Make sure your hygiene and dress are up to standard. There are lots of mags such as "Men's Health" that address these subjects. Even on a budget, there are ways to make yourself look your best. Start with a new haircut. If you really don't look good with a beard or moustache, lose it.
Are you looking in the wrong places? Decide what sort of woman you would like to attract, then go where that sort of woman would hang out. Smart chicks? Bookstores. College activities. Party chicks? Bars, nightclubs. Career/business chicks? Look around the office (if you work in one) or local Chamber of Commerce.
Fit chicks? Try the gym (although "Shapes" probably won't let you in, ha ha!) Softhearted chicks? Pet store, animal shelter volunteers, etc. Biker chicks? Your local biker bar. Artsy chicks? The local art school, alternative club or alternative bookstore.You get the idea. And who knows, you might meet someone at one of those places who isn't what you expect (artsy chick at the bookstore, for example) and hit it off.
Have an outgoing personality and a sense of humour. You'd be surprised how far a sense of humour will get you, especially the ability to laugh at yourself. I met a guy in a club one time, and when we got out of the club, I realized he really wasn't so good-looking after all, but I dated him because he was so darn funny.
2007-01-13 14:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes stop asking. Instead start asking them out as friends and see where it goes from there. Some people need time to get to know someone before they go on a date, and if they feel like it's just friends going out they might be more likely to accept an offer.
2007-01-13 14:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem, you just hit a slump...you have to keep pitching regardless of what's happening---you'll start scoring again. Now--seriously, what you need to do is take a long honest look at yourself---would you go out with you? hair, teeth, nails, clothes, shoes.....are you really at the top of your game? Some times we just need a tune-up. Cut and wash the hair---brush them teeth, wash your face--get a new wardrobe---dress to impress....don't wear the clothes from 12 years ago---grow up. Are you asking girls out that are your type of woman--or are you asking kids or losers that really aren;nt for you. Change your appearance, change your hang out, improve your conversation skills....you know what I mean....get a better technique---but always smile and be nice---be pleasant...and when you get a date, treat a woman with respect and courtesy--be cool and be a MAN. There comes a time in life when you need to just move up, set your sights higher, aim for the best---lose the kid crap and be real date bait. Let nature take its course--don't be a pushy fool---have fun and good luck.
2007-01-13 14:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any close female friends or sisters who would be willing to be honest with you, ask them what they think the problem may be and what their advice to you would be. It's tough for people who do not know you to answer this question. I'd also try getting a dating book in the self-help section of the bookstore. It's full of good advice for those having trouble in that area!
2007-01-13 14:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by 5boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are trying too hard. I'm not saying to give up but just don't rush it. When the 'right' girl comes along everything will just fall into place. Don't change who you are for anyone though whenever you do go on dates. If they don't like who you are then they don't deserve you!!!!
2007-01-13 14:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by jeremy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're questiong is too vague considering we dont know much about you. What do you think the problem is? Do you get the same explanation from every girl you ask out. It could be anything personality , appearance, self confidence. Can you elaborate on your dilemma...Thanks.
2007-01-13 14:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are too pushy and women don't like being pushed overtly. They like to play games so you play games as well. When you meet someone, after the initial stage just pretend ignoring her. It is their nature to suspicious and their weakness will bring them closer to you.
2007-01-13 14:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just make friends with them first, and hang out with them for a while, and THEN ask them out, intead of just running around like a chicken with your head cut off asking everyone to go out with you. LOL :) ( i hope this helps)
2007-01-13 14:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by hiphopmusicdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it your approach or you could stop asking and wait for someone to ask you. they do say good things come to those who wait so give it a chance. Maybe without even trying you could me someone pretty awesome because you were'nt focused on getting someone
2007-01-13 14:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by guitar_playin_gnome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are asking girls that are out of your league, try getting to know the girl first, be friends for a while if you want and then ask if you think shes right. dont ask supermodel-good lookin girls if you are SURE that they wont go out with you
2007-01-13 14:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by fred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋