Your in-laws came into your house and started on you about your house and you can eat off our floors.start on me about my kids I am adopting 3 more and They are my babies.
There son my husband was right there next to me and not saying a word to his parents when they dog me like this.When I try to stand up for myself he tells me to shut up.I am very hurt this is not the first tme this has happened.Please what would you do or say to your husband.Cring in this small town
2007-01-13 14:09:49 · 21 answers · asked by Dawn l 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I would definately try to talk to your husband about it sometime when he's not around his parents. Calmly tell him that it really hurt your feelings when his parents criticized you and you felt bad that he didn't support you.
Keep in mind though, that families have different styles of communication. Not that it's ever ok to put somebody down. But in some families that's just how they talk to each other, and maybe your husband is used to that.
My mother in law can be that way too. I'll never forget the time she gave me a frying pan for christmas one year. When I said thank you, and told her I really needed a new one she responded with, "I know... your old one was so disgusting I can't believe you cooked off of it."
I've realized that my mother in law really does mean well, she just never learned to keep her thoughts to herself. Perhaps your inlaws are the same way.
Good luck!!!!!
2007-01-13 14:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the problem you have is with your husband. Is he abusive? If so, then you need to seek help from a battered women's shelter or some other place that can give you some protection.
If he is not abusive, then maybe you and he can talk about this and how it makes you feel. You have to be the judge of that.
I'm not married, but when I get married my wife will always come first. It will be my duty to stand by her and support her, and respect her, as she will do the same for me.
If you think you can sit down with your husband and have a heart to heart talk, then you need to do that. If you don't think this is possible, then you may want to seek outside help, but please be careful about how you do this. Stay safe.
2007-01-13 14:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband when your inlaws leave or when you are alone, that you do not like the way he( your husband) treats you when his parents are here, he lets them pick at every little thing and then he just sits there and tells me to shut up. Explain to him that it hurts to know that he doesnt have your back, and that it makes you feel as if him and his parents do not like you( if thats how you feel). Just tell him how you feel, and if he doesnt accept it, which he should cuz he is your husband, than maybe hes not ment to be your husband. Good luck and stick up for yourself!!
2007-01-13 14:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like being able to eat off the floors is a compliment to me!
But seriously, if they are disrespecting you, then you have a right to voice your opinion. If you don't, they will continue to mistreat you. I'm sure that puts your husband in an awkward situation...not knowing who to take sides with on the issue, but if you husband truly loves you, then she should be there for you no matter what. Talk to him and tell him that what you are going through is really bothering you. He should talk to his parents and tell them to knock it off. It's normal for you to clash with your spouse's parents. I mean the "in-laws" are usually notorious for being crazy; however, they should respect you in your own house. Take up for yourself. You don't deserved to be treated poorly.
2007-01-13 14:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I asked my husband and well he said move out... But in reality you need to explain to your husband that if he doesnt want you standing up for yourself to his parents then he needs to tell them to back off, you have the right to defend yourself. Good luck this is a sensitive subject.
2007-01-13 15:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow not only did they dog your house and kids but also your husbands and you need to remind him of that. I would also tell him that if he cannot stand up to his parents for you that they would not be welcome in your home( thats when it just becomes your home, your the wife you can do that lol ). and that he can visit them at there house.
2007-01-13 14:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to support you, i mean it's your house not theirs. It's up too you about how many kids you want to have, your husband must be ok with it so tell him to grow up and take charge of his life, not be a baby to his parents.
2007-01-13 14:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a pussie!! He should defend you when his parents start to berate you. You should at least be able to defend YOURSELF!
Someone who comes into your home and INSULTS you in your own home is the lowest form of filth on Earth!
Tell him that if his parents cannot be civil to you in your own home, then they are NOT welcome! If he refuses to cooperate, then when they come over, either LEAVE or go into your bedroom until THEY leave! If he accuses you of being juvenile, then tell him to start acting, and treating YOU, like an adult!
2007-01-13 14:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
omg leave your husband and his parents they obviously dont accept u in their family and u should take the kids 2 or they will go thru the same thing u are right now
2007-01-13 14:17:57 · answer #9 · answered by model 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What soulful k said. I addition learn the subtle art of the double entendre and insult them while singing their praises.
2007-01-13 14:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋