If there is can you help me. Give me some tips,etc
2007-01-13 13:52:49 · 24 answers · asked by Lying from you 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all it takes DETERMINATION. It's easy to say, I want to get over this, but to really work in harmony with that resolve is MUCH more difficult.
So #1, Make sure you are firmly resolved, and don't don't justify working against that resolve.
#2 Stay away from that person, even if you like being around them. Don't torture yourself. You know its infatuation, you WILL get over it, and you WANT to get over it. Being around them any more than you have to will not help.
#3 Don't allow yourself to think about them, or daydream about them. Sometimes when real life doesn't go the way we want, its easy to create the world we want in our heads. That will only feed your fantasy, and infatuation.
#4 So whenever you begin to dwell on that person, remind yourself its not allowed, and force yourself to think about something else. Maybe pick up a book, or call a friend, or do something active and distracting. Think about some complicated problem or riddle. Anything to fill your mind with other things.
#5 Avoid love stories, films, etc. That will only fill you with longing for what you can't have. In the same way, avoid mushy couples and newlyweds, lol, as much as you can.
#6 And finally, make new friends, meet new people, stay busy!
You CAN overcome it, and you will be successful! It just takes a lot of determination, and strength. Best wishes!
2007-01-13 14:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by LaSperanza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid being in the same area as the person would be the easiest thing but that won't cure you. Think of WHY you are infatuated with this person and if they return the feelings? If they don't and you want them to, then tell them how you feel and if you get shot down then at least you tried and you can move on.
2007-01-13 21:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by LS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your looking to be more in control of your actions with a woman,(I think that's what you are referrring to), the answer's very simple. Let her get to your pocketbook first. Once she knows she's got you wrapped around her little finger she'll totally,(know matter who she is) take advantage of that ****! Once your credit cards are maxed out, your car is trashed and your fired from your job, I will guarentee you will be getting to feel very naucious about this person. If that still doesn't work, find your horniest best friend and invite him along with you and her to go hanging out. Moniter how far he gets with her. If he get's farther than you've been with her, that should be enough right there to make your blood boil and put an end to this tragic infatuation. If none of the above works, replace her with another woman 10 times more beautiful than her and eventially, with time you will get over this person. Oh and I forgot, this one will surelly work. Whoever it is you are infatuated with, learn how to become and act just like them. If you do, you will no longer find this person as interesting as they once where. This however, is a last resort.Good luck!
2007-01-13 22:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is possible. Try avoiding the person as much as you can, hang out with different people that aren't in the same circle as this person and do more of the things you love mine are playing tennis, shopping and scrapbooking. I did the same things to forget a guy who broke my heart, I'm sure it will work for infatuation too. Good luck!
2007-01-13 21:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get busy and focus on other things. Go out with friends, get a hobby, volunteer at a hospital, youth center, or seniors home. When you focus on other people's needs, you don't have a lot of time to let your mind wonder off and become obsessed or infatuated.
2007-01-13 21:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Avoid all contact with that person if possible. No emails, no IMs, no phone calls. Also, everytime you start thinking or obsessing over this person, try to divert your attention...go on a run, call or visit a friend, take a nap, cook a meal, anything to get your thoughts away from him/her and onto something else. Remove any physical reminders of them, i.e. pictures, mementos from time spent together, etc. Hope this helps you.
2007-01-13 21:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Doogie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pour yourself into an activity that consumes a lot of your energy and emotion. Exercising, drawing, writing, playing a musical instrument, etc. You can't just stop thinking about someone, you have to replace those thoughts with something else that you are passionate about. Develop interests you already have or try out new things to develop new interests and run with it.
2007-01-13 21:56:43 · answer #7 · answered by Lyf 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Every one is infatuated with someone at some time. It will pass.
2007-01-13 21:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yup - Think of something you don't like about them and embellish it. Also, dating someone else helps too:) Good luck - I have faith in you to stop the infatuation:)
2007-01-13 21:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by j b 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't dismiss this! If the other person feels the same way, by golly, don't just "get a life", or " think of something else". You know in your heart when real is real. Go back in there and get it!!
2007-01-13 21:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋