She used to tell us she is a big girl. I know this is very normal when other children are born, but what is a good way to deal with it and what other things should I be aware of in introducing our first child to the idea of a sibling? (We have been talking about this to her since I found out I was pregnant).
2007-01-13 13:51:09 · 11 answers · asked by wendygirl1000 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know it does get tiresome, but just continue letting her know that you and her father do love her. Be consistent with letting her know that being a big sister is going to be great. And do keep reminding her that she IS a big girl, if you need to, remind her of all the accomplishments she has made and let her know that when the time comes, as the big sister, SHE can teach her younger sibling(s) all the things she has come to learn. It may take some time for her to adjust, just try to be patient with her...and believe me, she WILL test your patience at times...its just her way of getting attention...good and bad. In due time she will come around.
2007-01-13 14:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. After the baby comes make sure you have her help in any way she can.
I worried about this when I was due for my 2nd child too. When ever she woke up I would make sure the older child was there to help and I even allowed him to hold her (with my help of course). After holding her a few times, he decided he wanted nothing more to do with that because he wanted to go play instead. Then, when the 3rd baby came, my daughter thought the new baby was a doll and wanted to totally take care of him.
2007-01-13 18:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had our oldest help us with everything. Can you get Mommy the burp cloth, the diaper, can you throw the diaper away,etc. It made her feel important and wanted. We would praise her on what a help she was and what a big girls she was. I would let her hold her and feed her (with assistance of course).
When my mother would come and visit, she would say hi to my oldest first and play with her. We would sit the baby in her seat and play while she watched us. Make your oldest get all the attention. The little one won't remember anyways, but her sister will! We never had a problem. Her little sister is sick tonight actually, and she crawled into her bed and read her a story to make her feel better. She's like a second mother, it's funny. Good luck!
2007-01-13 17:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think it is normal for toddlers to want to go back to being a baby once they find out they are about to have a little brother or sister, because they know they get a lot of attention and they may get less than what they are used to. try encouraging her to act like a big girl by including her when you're doing things for the baby. like when you're bathing her, maybe show her and let her help you dry her off or pick out her clothes. Or when you are changing the diaper, let her hand you a new diaper and wipes and things like that. If you include her when tending to the baby, it may help keep her from acting so much like a baby and more like a big sister. also when you talk to her let her know that she is going to have to help you take care of the baby and help watch her and it's a big responsibility, and insure her that she won't be completely left out.
2007-01-13 14:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by kaiyas_mom07 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a lot of how she is going to be the big sister to the new baby. Take her shopping and buy her a baby doll and clothes, diapers, a bath etc etc for it so that she can mimic you with the baby. My daughter did this and she was fine....it put her in charge and she loved it...and it was priceless seeing her trying to breastfeed the doll...lol Good luck.
2007-01-13 14:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just To Tell Her She Is A Big Girl And She Can Help Mommy.... And You Love Her And Your Unborn Child The Same...
2007-01-13 13:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my children are right at 2 1/2 years apart and we were lucky not to have any problems!
we did talk about the obvious, being easy with the baby, treat the baby nice, etc...
good luck!
2007-01-13 14:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by beach answerer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she propably is feeling left out. she used to get all the attention but now YOU are getting it and then BABY will soon. just be supportive and dont try to make her grow up to fast. ask yourself : is it hurting anything when she acts this way. it is a totally normal thing and it will soon pass. have patience (trust me you'll need it, especially with two). congrats and good luck!!!
2007-01-13 15:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she probably feels like that the baby is gonna take over her role in ur family so u should try 2 talk 2 her
2007-01-13 14:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by rockerchick021 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋