My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 whole years and continuing :). I am a freshmen in college right now, and he is going to leave to basic training for the Air Force two weeks from now. All of my friends (both civilian and military) tell me that they have NOT MET one faithful person in the military yet: navy, air force, marines, army. I trust my boyfriend very much, and I know that he poses the same question to me. I feel that he won't be unfaithful, but it is always bothering me in the back of my mind.. I love him more than anything and everything and he loves me too, and I know there shouldn't be anything to really worry about, right? I just want to know if there are ANY COMPLETELY FAITHFUL Men and Women in the service?
2007-01-13 13:50:09 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I was in the navy for 4 years amd i never once touched another woman while i was with my gf. I know a few more people who did the same thing.
2007-01-13 14:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by bigdaddy12_29730_us 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know that there are several people out there who claim "All military men are cheaters... beaters.... liars...etc" My husband is a Career soldier. He has been in the Army for 14.5 years and has never cheated. His soldiers have even told me when they return from deployments that my husband encouraged them to uphold the same morals and standards, he did - which they were grateful for - when they returned and had to face their families!
Basically, there are a lot of men (and women) who defend our country while remaining faithful to their significant others!
The real question is- does your boyfriend lead or follow?
Depending on the answer above, and who he finds to hang out with, will greatly influence your answer.
The Army (or any other branch) does not push men to cheat, but rather help support the families and keep those ties close.
Everyone telling you that - are probably insecure and don't understand the trust you have with your boyfriend. Good luck - I know that these are very trying times!!!
ALSO - Once you are married - the military has strict policies about cheating. Adultery can cause a soldier to lose rank!!! Not a very good result of a fling!
2007-01-13 15:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Glory 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are completely faithful men and women in the military, but they are generally older and more mature, they are often married. Military life is not conducive to fidelity or stability in a relationship.
My husband deployed to Iraq with a team of 12 guys and of them, one (who was engaged) was having cyber-sex with some internet girlfriend all the time and another cheated on his girlfriend before he even got out of the US. And these guys were all stationed where there were no women. That said, all the married guys he knew behaved themselves, though some probably only for lack of opportunity.
It sounds like you are very young. Your relationship may last, it is possible. However, infidelity is not the only thing that could happen. It is very likely that you and he will develop whole different lives and grow apart in the next year or so. More common than cheating in basic training is the 'dear john' letter from the girlfriend who has met someone new.
2007-01-13 14:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The divorce rate is so high in the military because military personnel (primarily the younger ones in age and rank) marry for all of the wrong reasons. They marry to move out of the dorms/barracks. They marry to earn more money. They marry because they are bored. They marry because they are desperate. They marry complete strangers, people who they have known for just a few weeks or a couple of months. The men are often imature and the females have low self-esteem. Bad combination. They are destined for divorce. Cheating is an issue, but that's really not the main reason as to why military personnel divorce. Most should have never married in the first place.
2016-03-14 05:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the majority dont have time to consider such things if they are at war. I dont think that military life changes that part of a persons moral base. If he is faithful now, he will probably be in the future, and I certainly wouldnt worry much about it anyways, because you cannot control it. If he is willing to risk his life with immoral behavior, it is his personal choice.
If he loves you, he will be faithful to you. I feel that real love looks the other way when they even feel the pangs of desire for another. But all humans are subjected to those temptations.
I do not personally know any , but I believe they (faithful people) are out there.
2007-01-13 13:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by fivefootnuttinhuny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your boyfriend and he loves you there should not even be a matter of trust! So many people give their opinions about this and probably do not have a clue and listen to hearsay !I have a son in the military that just got married and he has been in for 7 years and do you really think that they have time to be un faithful !! They are on a misson and have better things to think about!! I mean we are in a war !!Do not listen to what everyone else says just go with your heart and how do you know that he is not thinking the same thing about you!! GOOD LUCK &GOD BLESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-14 09:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by linda bug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know there are some on both sides.
My finace' is, my friend's ex husband was (she wasn't while he was over seas), my cousin's husband is, and many friends. I think it has nothing to do with him being military. It has to do with being human and their morals. If you trust him then trust him. Don't let anyone put those little doubts in the back of your mind because that will kill your relationship faster than him or you cheating.
I am a senior in college. I met my finace' last winter. We lived over 2 hours away from each other up until this December. I fully trust him with no doubts, but it's not because his military. It's because I love him, trust him, and know his morals.
2007-01-13 15:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Zabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Single guys, we can really tear up the town. But married folk? There is an odd incident here and there, often followed by some sort of reckoning however.
In my experience, it, and from what I have witnessed there is at least 90% of the time a dependent spouse that does the cheating. A man in the field is too busy. There are rather much more military groupies and free loaders that are quick to want to hook up with a military guy to access the benefits and definitely not so necessarily the other way around.
Hence, its the military member that should be wary of whom they are maintaining correspondence, dating or courting from amongst the civilian populace.
2007-01-13 14:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by jorluke 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just because he is going to be away for some time in the military it doesnt mean he's gonna be unfaithful to you. It is not going to be the circumstances he's in but rather the kind of person he is which will determine if he chooses to be faithful. Trusting in another human being is hard but if he REALLY loves you he will stay faithful whether he's away from you for a day or two years and you must do the same for him. Everything will be fine. Give him your support and good luck!
2007-01-13 14:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have known many faithful military men who loves their wives and kids and would never jeopardize that for one little fling. Granted there are some who do. But no more than you would see in any other job. I was in the Army for 4 years, and I was stationed in Korea 2 different times. Some men over there cheat, but the ones who really love their families don't. Don't worry about it. Please don't judge your bf or accuse him of something that probably will never happen. Good Luck!
2007-01-13 14:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People seem to always think that of military persons. The ratio of faithful military people and unfaithful military people is right on track, I am sure, with what the rest of society experiences as well. Going into the military has nothing to do with whether somone will be faithful or not.
2007-01-13 14:09:48 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋