Everyone (friends, family, mostly grls I know) tell me I'm really beautiful, smart, and funny, but I just don't see that! I mean...guys don't seem to notice me at all!! I know having a boyfriend doesn't make you beautiful, but iunno...I mean...I feel defective or something!! argghhhh!! crap-o-la! This is so frustrating! Does anyone know what could be wrong with me?! (I know that's a hard question to answer seeing as none of you guys really know me)
2007-01-13 13:41:53 · 22 answers · asked by KaY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and to answer that one guys question...no I'm not fat
2007-01-13 14:09:28 · update #1
Sometimes guys are affraid to talk to beautiful,funny,and smart women.Alot of guys would also think you maybe already with someone else with you being as beautiful,smart,and funny.Seems like you could be a little insecure about yourself.Start to feel about yourself that other people say about you and guys will see your confidence.
2007-01-13 13:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenage years can be so frustrating!! Everyone has a boyfriend but you, and although your friends are meaning well it's hard to believe them when they say how great you are.
My advice?
1) Love yourself! Don't depend on your friends or guys to make you feel beautiful. If you KNOW you look beautiful and don't need anyone to tell you, you'll be MUCH more attractive to the guys.
2) You don't want a boyfriend right now. It sounds great and wonderful until you realize that when/if you broke up you'd have to see him every day and deal with his teenage pranks. When you get to college, you'll find MUCH better guys!
3) Don't base your happiness on your looks. You have MUCH more to offer this world than a pretty face.
2007-01-13 13:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kay, first of all, listen to your friends and family. I cannot see you, so I cannot give you my opinion, but let me say this. I would rather be with a woman who was beautiful on the inside than on the outside. Today's standards of beauty are nearly impossible, and many are dangerous. Focus more on improving your inner beauty. Looks may get you a boyfriend today, but true beauty can help you get a loving husband that will make you happy for the rest of your life.
By the way, different people are attracted to different physical characteristics, so don't sweat it. As long as you are healthy and happy (truly happy, not just immediate desires), you are just fine. :-)
2007-01-13 13:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jimmy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the boys are noticing you,but they may be intimidated by you.Your friends probably are not lying to you cause friends usually tell it like it is.Pretty or beautiful girls have a hard time with guys cause the guys either think you are already taken or that you are untouchable.Make the first move yourself.All it takes sometimes is just a smile and make sure you look him straight in the eye when you do it.Guys like to be number one.Make him feel like hes the only guy in the room.
2007-01-13 13:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by GranGran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to find YOU something YOU can be passionate about. In my opinion you are spending too much time thinking about it. YOU get yourself up and do something that you truly like doing and the rest follows. If you are concentrating on a project or helping hand your aura changes, people and yes even boys can see you in a different lite. Your black mood could be the trigger for the non boyfriend mode. Find something fantastic and go DO !!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-13 13:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by Paint N Paper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything wrong with you, guys can sometimes be intimidated by beauty as well as brains. Give it time, the right guy WILL come along. You don't have to rush into dating someone just because you are afraid they may be your only chance. I promise that there are plenty of guys out there and you will find the right one for you.
2007-01-13 13:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, someone sent this to me in an email it is 100% true, please believe me!!
Girls are like apples. The best ones are at the top. But the boys are scared of climbing the tree to get to the top, falling, and getting hurt, so they go for the ones at the botomn of the tree instead. They are easy, but not worth it. The apples at the top are beautiful, but it takes the right guy to risk getting hurt. I hope this helped!
2007-01-13 13:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by The Sun Still Sleeps... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely you are very beautiful. You just have one quality most beautiful people don't : you're not vain. You don't constantly preen, you are naturally beautiful. If you werent' you'd see the beauty. Believe them, in time you'll have a boy to rely on. You are not defective. Hope I helped.
2007-01-13 13:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by Here To Help 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say your problem is your self esteem. You can't be a beautiful person if you don't think you are. It sounds stupid, I know. But it does make a big different. Attitude is everything. If you start being happy with yourself (but not faking it, really being happy), your attitude toward things will change, how you carry your self will change and people will notice. I promise.
2007-01-13 13:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one finds a guy at a differnet time, one of my best friends has a b/f for a year now, and another one of my friends has had a b/f for a week. Everyone will eventually get a guy, you just have to be pactient until its your turn
2007-01-13 13:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by vw chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋