She refuses to put it down, she has failed all her school classes,she will not talk to people in the house she text messages them, and her father ( my son) refuses to take the phone away from her. He feels guilty because her mother ( they were never married) recently passed away and he is a single dad who never knew he had a child until 8 years ago and had no idea how to parent. He treats her like an adult and she is a rude spoiled brat. He travels 2 weeks out of each month on business so she stays with us and she is terrible. She refuses to talk to us, she only comes out of her room to eat and use the restroom. I don't text message so there is no communication. I think she needed a spanking several years ago but it is too late. She NEVER had a normal childhood. Until my son found out about her she lived with her mom in a truck and with friends etc. Never had anything stable. Help
2007-01-13 13:37:23 · 8 answers · asked by Frazzled 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get her enrolled in a youth program or summer camp so she can have some fun a develop better communication skills. she should definatly have to phone taken away for a little while becasue it is replacing normal human interactions.
2007-01-13 13:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one here... on one hand her Dad wants to give her that one thing that he know's is going to make her happy. But this really needs to be stopped expecially if she is not talking to anyone other than using her texting. Maybe talk with her father and let him know what your thoughts are, tell him that this is just advise. That it is truly his disicision. I would go down to Radio Shack or something and get that thing that blocks cell phone use in your home. this might be costly, I am not sure.
I would try to talk to your grandaughter even if it is rejected still try. Don't tell her dinner is ready...ask her what she would like or if she would like to eat now?
I would not ever talk bad about her Mother, her mother is no longer there to defend herself and her daughter should not have to hear negative things about her Mother, NO matter what happened.
This is a normal teenage thing but you must make her father and herself relize that this is a short time(beeing a teenager) and reflect her future completley. Her school grades and social skills are very important at this time in her life. Talk to you son first, see what he thinks. Approach your grandaughter with easy, no tention. A simple soultion is the best. Get you grades up, show respect for yourself and others, get your phone back.
Make sure that it is CLEAR that it can be taken away when grades or attitude slipps.
Good luck....
2007-01-13 14:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by ohdarnitsmeagain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Well I am 17 and last year thats all I did in school was text message, and I too failed all my classes, and I now am kicking myself for doing that. My future is now pretty much totally screwed up because I did that. I am now going to a community college which i didnt want to do, i wanted to go to a major university. My parents took the texting off my phone. And she may be a little upset for a while and thow a fit or whatever cause thats what I did too. But now im thanking m parents for finally taking it off cause now im not failing in school anymore. EVen though its my senior year and I had to buy myself a new phone cause my bill was way over, and I have texting now, I rarely ever text in school cause I want this year to be agood year. He needs to get the texting taken off her phone or talk to her teachers and tell them whats up. She will be thanking him when shes going to a good college and has a good future in store for her.
- good luck
- an ex spoiled brat!
2007-01-13 13:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but, not your child.
Now, while she is in your home, that is different!
Your house, your rules. If she does anything to break, damage, steal, while in your house, then call the cops. They will take her to a center.
Best way to get her to talk is to speak to her, when she speaks to you. If you try to force her to talk, put down the phone, etc, then she will will be more distant from you. Spanking will push her farther away.
2007-01-13 14:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your grandaughter needs someone to talk to and help her out. she feels that she can hide all her feelings and talk by texting. maybe give her time to use her phone and then put it away. have a special time to use the phone then the rest of the time she has to talk. you have to push her and make her talk. just dont let her get away with things. tell your son to make some boundaries. she needs to know that everyone goes through hard times and just needs to cope with it. life is unfair and hard, but someone is always there for her. try to let her open up to you or someone close to her. be there for her, try to talk to her, help her out. it seems that she is lonely and all of her feelings are bottled up inside. she might just blow up one of these days and no one did anything for her. be like her mother, be closer to her. just be there. and keep telling her that. i bet she feels lonely and hopeless. BE THERE FOR HER. thats the best thing you can do for her.
2007-01-13 13:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by roxygirl2828 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur grandaughter has a really screwed up life
just barge into her room and talk to her about her wierd addiction
or take her cell away and trough it off a bridge
2007-01-13 13:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by Corrine B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get rid of the phone. At least cancel the texting on it.
2007-01-13 14:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the phone away and get her into counseling.
2007-01-13 13:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by jehovah_nostra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋