hi my baby boy is 5 days old his is my second child my frist is a gilr 2 years old,?

Question

anyways i am so inlove with the both of them and i have a great hubby, my family is perfect this is what i was waiting for, but i feel so said most of the day i just wan't to cry, most of the night i do just cry, . what is wrong? is this "babay blues?" i should be tired now but happy!. i feel so empty and hopeless, but so inlove and blessed all at once, somebody please help! has any one else felt like this? because i don't remember any of this after having my first baby. and the feelings get worst when im feeding him or when everything is quite at night and i have time to think. then i feel so alone, even thou im srrounded with support. any tips or advise orther then go to your doctor. please mom tell me whar i can do to feel better, and when will my hormones be back to normal?

Answer 1

Congratulations on your new baby! I haven't had my baby yet (I'm 22 weeks) but is sounds like you are suffering from post-partum depression. I would talk to your OB/Gyn and/or your primary care physician. They may be able to recommend some classes for you to take or maybe some medicines for a little while to get you back on track.

It's good you have a supportive husband because you will need his help with the children and his support while you go through this. It's nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about 70-80% of women in the US suffer from post-partum. Each childbirth is different. So even though you didn't experience it the first time it doesn't mean you wont experience it this time or the next time, if you have kids again.

Hang in there. I would recommend reading about it if you can. If not try to relax, you may need a small vacation. Giving birth is no small feat! You have done something miraculous! I will keep you in my prayers. Everything will work out.

Seek help from your OB and Primary Care doctors as soon as possible.

Answer 2

Oh, I wish I could hug you and make you feel better. I went through the EXACT same thing. Does "feeling in utter despair" descibe you? Because that was me. The first couple months after my baby was born, it started the second I got home from the hospital, I was SO unhappy. Cried all the time, hated being alive, and yes especially the late night, early morning feeding. The thoughts I would think! AGH!!! Those were terrible days. But lift up your head, because it WILL get better. Believe it or not, you'll be back to your old self again!!! YES YOU WILL! I would say I, and perhaps you, had post-partum depression. Having a new baby freaked me out and being tired made it worse. And my cure was time. Seriously Honey!!! Time will make everything better. What I encourage you to do now is take care of your new baby and 2 year old the best that you can right now (which I know you are) and when it gets REALLY bad call someone to come and watch the kids, then go take a nap!!! Or better yet, go to lunch with a friend, even if your breastfeeding and have to pump in the bathroom!) As baby gets older my messed up hormones and negative thinking that life was always going to be like this, they evened out and now I am BACK TO MY OLD SELF!! Happy and enjoying my child. I know things seem tough, but when you wake up in the morning (or late night) think about how much better you are feeling than you did yesterday, even if you really don't necessarily feel it! Just changing your thought process to positive think will HELP A LOT! Just get through the first couple months and you'll be right on track again. Plus, don't be afraid to ask your husband for help with the kids if you haven't already. I remember I was just so mean to my hubby during that time, tried to do everything myself, but it would have been so much better for both of us if I would just have asked him for some help! It'll get better in time!!! And remember this time in your life for later on so you can encourage other moms that are dealing with this also. Because you're definitely not the only one that is feeling this way!

Answer 3

This is normal. Yes, it is the baby blues. I had it with my third child. For the first couple of weeks, I couldn't be happy, even though I knew I should be. Tell someone if you haven't already (your husband, your mom, etc.). It usually peaks at around a week. This may sound silly, but if you feel like hurting yourself or anyone else, you should get help immediately. Otherwise, it should get better in a few more days. If it doesn't, you may want to see the doctor for antidepressants. Take a bath and a tylenol, and if you're still taking the pain pills, stop. They can also make you feel depressed. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon. Hugs.

Answer 4

Lets' see. Sad, empty, hopeless, alone. I have 4 kids and I recognise postpartum depression when I hear it. Call your doctor or your OB/GYN immediately. This is not a hormone problem or "baby blues", it's a chemical imbalance in your brain caused by the birth of your child. Get help before it gets worse, and believe me, it does get worse. It's not your fault, or your baby's fault or your parent's fault, or anybody else. It just happens to some people, and not even with every child. Please call your doctor and be honest and tell them exactly how you feel. You probably are very happy deep down, and you can feel it and show it with the right help from your doctor.

Answer 5

I don't have any children but I have a cousin everytime she has a child she gets the harmone blues and bad. There are alot of woman this happens to maybe you should go to the library it is a open subject nowadays get a book there might be some good suggestions. I know Brook Shields was on Oprah after her first child she experienced the depression If I remember right she wrote a book on it. Just look at people like me God didn't give children too consider yourself lucky

Answer 6

I would recommend talking to a doctor it helps. Mostly likely the baby blues. It take times to get over. But Im sure a doctor can help and talking to your husband can help also. I know I've been there.


And for Angel56 you posting made no sense. You must not have any children.

Answer 7

It will get better. It is part of post partum. I had it with my first 3 boys. Now with this baby, I had nothing. Get some good sleep, that will make a real difference on how you feel too! If this keeps up for another week or so, Be sure to get with your OB immediately to get some help. It is curable, it definitely has a lot to do with hormones. hang in there, get some sleep! :) It will get better! :)

Answer 8

you are starting to have post-partum depression. i would call your doctor and set up an appointment so you can get put on medicine for that. I had the same thing after i had mine and my fiance's first child. It will get better in a couple months and you will feel alot better too.

Answer 9

Your hormones will get back to normal be patient. For now you need to talk to your family. If they support you, they will be there for you. You don't need a doctor. You just need family. I hope you know Jesus. I want to pray for you and with you. I am not sure if I am over stepping my boundaries, but the Lord God says walk by faith and not by sight so here it goes...Say this simple prayer: Lord, I am standing in the need of prayer. I need you to give me the strength and the wisdom to do what is asked of me. My family needs me. And though I am surrounded by so many people who love me, I still feel alone. I stand alone. I am going to defeat this demon of depression. I am going to do it because you said that this battle is not mine. I ask that you guide me in the right direction. I am leaning on you. I ask you these things, in Jesus name I pray. Amen.

Answer 10

You need to go see your doctor, you have got the baby blues... and it can be damaging to your mental health if you do not seek the advice of a doctor... do it NOW!