i'm 13 an my boy friend is much older then me.he has asked me 4 sex meny times b4 but i said no!shal i give in the next time he asks???
2007-01-13 13:24:25 · 66 answers · asked by x_vodkachick_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him...he is a paedophile.
2007-01-13 13:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Oh my goodness NO! You are too young, what would you do with a baby at this age!? And if he is older than you, than he doesn't know what's best for you...he only knows what he wants. You really shouldn't do it. But, if nobody can persuade you not to, please go to a clinic (they will keep it confidential) and get some birth control and some condoms...and use both all the time...no exceptions. But really, sex is not the thing you need right now. You need to have fun with friends, and get through school so you can make an honest living...not be 18, and have a 5 year old set of twins. Ai ai ai!
2007-01-13 13:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to down you. You need to decide. Do you want to have sex? Obviously you don't. You have already told him no. If he is pressuring you, he doesn't respect you. I have been there. A girls first time should be when she is ready, and in love, and it should be specially. Don't give in because he is asking you. Have respect for yourself and your body. Your first time, you can never get it back. Take a deeper look at the picture. If he is so much older than you are, wouldn't that make him kind of a pervert. Prentend you are and adult with a child who is your age, and she asks you the same question. What would you tell her?
2007-01-13 13:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by L G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My next door neighbour's daughter has only just turned 17 and is now pregnant. Sometime si dont know what the world is coming too.
Guys will pressure young girls into having sex if they think they are easy. You must have respect for yourself if you want the guy to have respect for you.
If he is not able to respect your decision, then he is clearly not worth it. And at 13 you are WAY too young. You are still a child, for heavens sake. Why dont you just live your life. When i was 13 i was runnign around , scrapping my knees and elbows and enjoying my childhood. I think you should enjoy your childhood too.
2007-01-15 10:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by lillybell912 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, how old is your boyfriend? If by 'much older' you mean 17-18, then most likely what's going to end up happening is your parent(s) are going to end up getting him charged with stat. rape and he'll be tossed in jail.
I have to commend you on saying no. Many times at your age girls will give in just because they think it will keep their boyfriend with them. What happens a lot of the time is after they've had sex, the boy will suddenly 'lose interest.' He's gotten what he wanted, and moves on to another girl.
Stick to your guns. At 13 you shouldn't be having sex, you are still too young. There's also the chance that you would end up getting pregnant, and I doubt you want to deal with THAT.
What you should do is tell him straight up that you are not ready to have sex, and to stop asking, and if he keeps insisting on trying to get it that you'll stop seeing him.
One of two things will happen. Either he'll listen to you and give up asking, which would show that he does respect your feelings and understands. Or he's going to find some excuse to break up with you, in which case that means he really didn't care about you in the first place, he just wanted to use you for sex.
Just because a boy is older doesn't make him more mature. So stand fast, don't give in to him! If he's pressuring you constantly about it, it sounds to me like that's all he wants, and he's not worth keeping. You'd be better off finding someone who likes you for who you are, not someone that just wants to use you.
Good luck and I hope you stick with it and don't give in!
2007-01-13 13:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by xadric 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO! Do not give in to him. you are so young. I just answered someone else's similar question. Some girls have sex as young as 13, but they are usually only doing it because they are giving in to their boyfriend, and trying to keep him around. But it doesn't work. If you are unsure that means you should wait. Sex is not something to take lightly. There are big responsibilites that come with it, like STDs, getting pregnant, and the emotional part of it. Once sex is introduced into the relationship EVERYTHING changes. Just remember that you only lose your virginity once. It WILL NOT be enjoyable if you don't do it first with someone you truley love and trust. You should wait until you find someone you are truley in love with. You should also talk to your mom about safe sex. I know it is embarassing. But if you tell her your boyfriend said this to you, and you refused she will really respect your choice, and help you for when you ARE ready to have sex. I didn't have sex until i was 17, but it was still too young for me. The guy just left me after that and found a new girl. It broke my heart. I wish i would have waited until i was 19 when i met my boyfriend i am with now. And i am 21 now. I hope this helps, and i hope you wait, because HE is not worth it.
2007-01-13 13:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by Stark 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
no dont give in to him. 13 is way to young. if ur going to have sex then u better be mature enough to raise a kid and have the dollars need to support one. just think of what u would miss out on if u did have sex and u got pregnet, u would see less of ur friends, school would suffer, all ur fun actitives like skating,playing sports would end. ur whole life would change in a awful hurry. not to mention what effects it would have on ur body from sore back to feeling sick and getting little or no sleepand many more. if he really care for u then he would stop asking u for sex. if he doesnt stop (not to be rude) ask yourself the question "why are you still with him if he's pushy." if u do give in will he dump u becouse he got what he wanted or will he push for it more?
best of luck
2007-01-13 22:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by theman 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are much too young to engage in sex. In fact, it seems to me that he may be wanting to use you just for this, if he keeps pressing the issue. I recommend breaking up with him and not dating for awhile. If you do date, date someone nearer your age for now.
A little deeper into the issue of sex, I recommend waiting until marriage before doing it at all. That way you know that you'll be with that person forever and you won't have a past that will come back and haunt you or that can be held over your head.
2007-01-13 13:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by DragonWrites the Fire Faery 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
uhhhh no.....reasons why below...
1.How do you know he hasnt done this with other girls...he could have AIDS...STDS...CRABS...or other stuff EWWW...
2.why would you want to give it up to him??? of all people i mean you may think you love him now but your 13 trust me you arnt gonna marry him which brings me to my next point
3.you could get pregnant...even if you use birth control methods they are only 10 percent helpful...and trust me sweetie if you get pregnant he will leave you sooo fast or cheat on you!!! no joke!! and he may say that he wont but i have been alive longer than that boy and i know!!!
4.what would your parents think.....worse what would god want you to do???? you cant exactly keep it a secret if you get something or get pregnant.
5. if he keeps asking and isnt taking no for an answer than that is all he wants outta you a guy that really loves you might ask once but not agian.
6.and if you arnt ready than he really shouldnt be asking
7.your 13 you are prolly a beautiful girl with hopes and dreams...why throw all that away on some stupid boy you rpolly wont know in 5 years???
mmmmk i know this may not change your mind but i hope something does!!!
Dont do it tell him that isnt who you are and if he doesnt accept that dump him and move on in the end he might break up with you for not doing it...but who cares he wont be your last boyfriend...trust me i thought the same thing but look at me now i am older...wiser....stronger....and a virgin....
do whats makes you happy not what makes him happy....
DONT HAVE SEX AND DONT LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO TELL YOU TOO THEY JUST WANT TO RUIN YOUR LIFE BUT R BETTER THAN THAT!!!
sex isnt fun it hurts horribly....a guy sticking something in you twice or three times your size...you rip and bleed...try stickin a tampon up you go a size bigger you will see what i mean...
and your not a slut for asking
2007-01-13 13:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm also 13. If you give in, the rest of your life will be like a living Hades. You may get pregnant. (EVEN WITH PROTECTION) and then school will be jeapordized, and all because your boyfriend pressured you. Don't give in. Just dump him if he keeps on. Tell an adult, and find another ''man''.... just don't give in. Sex is supposed to be a special thing with your future husband. Dont' waste that. Just keep that in mind. Do you want to go through the pain of having a baby now???
2007-01-13 13:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by Here To Help 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You are to young for that. You say your bf is older than you. Check out the laws in your state because if he is 17 or older, depending on the laws in your state, he could be arrested for statutory rape. Sex is for someone you marry not for a boyfriend who may not be around for long. If he cared about you he would respect your wishes and he clearly does not.
2007-01-13 13:31:24 · answer #11 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋