just the other day my boyfriend asked me a question and keep in mind that im only 14 years old... he asked me to have sex with him... i dont lknow if that is a good idea or not... he said everyone is doing it but are they ... i dont know so please help me this is a major problem that needs to be answered and fast!!!
2007-01-13 13:12:52 · 37 answers · asked by Paige B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DO NOT have sex with him..u will regret it for the rest of your life..he will only dump you if u let him.
2007-01-13 13:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie this has been going on since the beginning. Boys and Men will use this as a way to get in your pants period. Everybody is doing it or if you love me you will do it. Try this, tell him if you love me then you will wait. Having sex when you are not ready will only lead to regrets. Don't allow yourself to be forced into a situation that you are not ready for. Don't be pressured into having sex because it usually will turn out all wrong. For instance you will do it then in a few weeks he doesn't want to be with you. Or he stops taking your phone calls or he tells his friends and believe me he will. Now you are embarassed and heartbroken. Make him wait. You are 14 now. Think about being a 15 year old single parent. IT HAPPENS everyday. Think about sexually transmitted diseases. IT HAPPENS everyday. Think about seeing him with his new girlfriend after you have laid down with him. IT HAPPENS everyday. You don't have to wait forever but wait until you a really ready to handle those situations. Tell him NO and see how he reacts. If he gets mad, don't worry about it. If he stops pressuring you, then he might be a keeper. Do what is right for you.
2007-01-13 13:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, not all girls are doing it. Some girls are doing it, but they are usually only doing it because they are giving in to their boyfriend, and trying to keep him around. But it doesn't work. Teen boys are so focused on sex. If you are unsure that means you should wait. Sex is not something to take lightly. There are big responsibilites that come with it, like STDs, getting pregnant, and the emotional part of it. Once sex is introduced into the relationship EVERYTHING changes. Just remember that you only lose your virginity once. It WILL NOT be enjoyable if you don't do it first with someone you truley love and trust. You should wait until you find someone you are truley in love with. You should also talk to your mom about safe sex. I know it is embarassing. But if you tell her your boyfriend said this to you, and you refused she will really respect your choice, and help you for when you ARE ready to have sex. I didn't have sex until i was 17, but it was still too young for me. The guy just left me after that and found a new girl. It broke my heart. I wish i would have waited until i was 19 when i met my boyfriend i am with now. And i am 21 now. I hope this helps, and i hope you wait, because HE is not worth it.
2007-01-13 13:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you're too young to be having sex. Sex complicates everything. Besides, you can also catch a sexually transmitted disease or even get pregnant. If your boyfriend really cares about you, he'll wait until you are ready and 14 is WAY too early. If he doesn't respect the fact that you don't want to have sex, then let him loose. You are just beginning to live and trust me honey, he won't be the last. You have your whole life in front of you and you don't want to complicate by having sex so early. Please don't let this boy pressure you into having sex. You are a special young lady and don't allow your boyfriend or any other guy pressure you into sex so young. PLEASE wait!!!
2007-01-13 13:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 14!!! The answer is a definite NO. Trust me, if you give in, he will only end up dumping you afterwards and then you will have given up the most precious thing about yourself to someone who doesn't deserve it. Not everyone is doing it. Save it for someone with whom you love. When you do love someone, you won't need to ask us if you should be having sex or not. It will just feel right.
Stay strong.
2007-01-13 13:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just wait as long as possible u r 14 and u have plenty of time to find that special one to share that with, and if he says let's do it because everyone else is doing it then that's 4 all the wrong reasons. Just wait a while you'll really look back and be proud of yourself for it TRUST ME!
2007-01-13 13:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by SingleMommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are unsure if it is a good idea or not then it is most definitely NOT a good idea. you are not mature enough to have sex when you have to ask that question on this Yahoo thing. ask yourself if you are ready to have a baby? or an STD? ..because all those have a HUGE chance of coming with that package of sex.. it is more than just sex. and NOT EVERYONE is doing it.. there are more people who aren't doing it then you would think.. in fact it is proven that MOST aren't doing it. guys just say that to pressure you for it. don't be pressured into something you don't want to do!!! you WILL regret it.. and you don't want that. and if he doesn't respect your wishes to not have sex until you are ready then he is NOT WORTH IT!!! you need to find a guy who doesn't just want you for his reputation.. but who repects you and LOVES you.. sex is NOT love.
2007-01-13 13:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by coolio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not everyone is doing it even if they say they are. Please don't do anything until you are ready, don't worry about what other people are doing. If he cares for you and you're not ready he will wait until you are. If he doesn't care he will find someone that will have sex with him. Teenage boys are very hormonal and are sometimes impatient for sex. If you give in just to please him, he might lose respect for you and there's no guarantee he'll stay with you. Don't be rushed, your first time should be with someone who respects and cares for you. When you are ready you should use a rubber/condom to protect both of you.
2007-01-13 13:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you're older.You don't want to rush into anything.And age 14 you're not ready.Not everyone is doing it.Seems like he is trying to pressure you into something that you're not ready for.You need to find a boyfriend that will respect your wishes and not try to pressure you into anything.You have your whole life ahead of you.Don't waist it on some boy.
2007-01-13 13:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOWW that is totally a lie just think about it u guys have sex and then u get addicted 2 it and one day u get pregnant what the hell are u going 2 do then huh? oo no hun dont do it if he loves u for u then he wouldnt even ask 2 hav sex with him
2007-01-13 13:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Hello (; 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
14 is pretty young, and it's dumb to have sex because "everyone is doing it." You have a whole life ahead of you. Are you ready to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy, birth control methods, and hiding it from your parents? If not, be mature enough to tell your boyfriend that you are not ready for that step yet.
2007-01-13 13:18:57 · answer #11 · answered by someone's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋