Ok so I was with my boyfriend 7 months and after about four days of not really talking to him b/c he said he was going to be really busy with family and money problems and people putting the idea in my head that he could possibly be cheating on me and I brought up the idea to him in an argument on sunday and basically told him in frustration that i thought that it was a possiblity for the first time (even though i didnt really) and after he called me stupid and said i was talking stupid and told me that i deserved how he was talking down to me i dumped him and didnt want to. well i have been talking to him since and he said that I need to prove to him that I trust him. Now logically I probably be thinking screw him but I am trying to figure out how do I prove to him that I trust him...How do you prove to someone you trust them after you broke their trust?
2007-01-13 12:52:15 · 5 answers · asked by Angeleyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u apologise and dont accuse them again.
2007-01-13 12:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy says things like "you have to prove that you trust me" he probably isnt worth it. When something happens, this is going to be held over your head. There is no reason for him to talk down to you either. Last time i was in a relationship like that, it turned out that the guy was cheating...we had been together almost 3 months, and sadly...I was the other woman. all the talk of proving that you love or trust him is meant to make you feel guilty.
2007-01-13 13:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by smm24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologies and communication. You should start with an apology, and then calmly and maturely explain, why you acted the way you did. But avoid accusing him again of anything, that will not help anything. Tell him you've felt somewhat insecure lately, and you acted hastily, but because you are really concerned about the relationship, and care about him. Avoid sounding or being clingy though. Don't blame him for the way you acted, but explain how it made you feel. If he needs space fine, but he needs to be honest with you. Side point...when guys start saying they need space, and are really busy, etc, it usually means two things: One, they are beginning to get scared at how much you mean to them and aren't sure what to do with that, or Two, they are tiring of the relationship. Not necessarily cheating, but they things he said are not good excuses, I'm sorry. The last thing you should be right now is clingy...but arguing isn't so great now either. But it needs to be clear that if he has doubts about the relationship you'd prefer him to just be up front. It has nothing to do with whether you trust him or not...it has to do with whether he wants the relationship to continue, and are you willing to be patient if he's truly just scared.
2007-01-13 13:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by LaSperanza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how asking him if he cheated is braking his trust. It sounds like to me that you might have been right. Just walk away.
2007-01-13 12:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by lex83201 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your sorry, and that you will never let other ppls ideas get in your head. :)
good luck
2007-01-13 12:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ms.peREz?♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋